Aliens.

Flat earth.

Weird political goings on.

Weather.

Conspiracies fly around the earth at lightning speed; some are pretty whacky.

They draw people in, and sometimes there are some really interesting and gripping debates. People think they have evidence to support their conspiracy, or perhaps they firmly believe in other people.

Narcissists will always be in the thick of it. You will see them circling claims, assumptions and the wildest photos or videos that surface.

The conspiracy theory is of great interest to them – but why?

When I tell you, it’ll all make perfect sense.

Things Get Strange Pretty Quickly

When it comes to conspiracy theories, I’m sure we have heard them all. And don’t get me wrong, there will be people who quietly believe what they want to believe. If they’re challenged, that’s okay. It’s all part of freedom of choice, right?

Not all conspiracy theorists are narcissists, but narcissists are drawn to conspiracy theories. 

And things can get pretty strange pretty quickly. 

Anything For a Crowd

Gather round while I tell you a story that will shock you!

Now sit still while I tell you this isn’t a story – it’s real!

The crowd gathers, and the narcissist loves being at the center of it all.

Conspiracy theories are whispered, people watch and listen as their jaws hit the floor.

The narcissist has the crowd right where they want them.

Divide and Fall

Conspiracy theories are known to divide people, and that’s what narcissists love to do best!

It’s partly why they are so drawn to them. They want to see people argue before their eyes.

That simply can’t be possible!

Well, it is very possible!

You’re talking garbage!

No way! I saw it with my own eyes!

Ah. What a great moment for the narcissist.

Watching. Listening. Waiting for the fallout.

7 of the Strange Reasons Narcissists Love to Believe Conspiracy Theories

1. They Are Always Right

Don’t mess with them! They won’t tolerate being wrong, and you will be in trouble if you question them!

Listen, it does not matter how whacky the latest conspiracy theory is – if the narcissist believes it – then it must be true.

They are known to actually get angry when you don’t fall into their belief trap with them. What they also do with these beliefs is convince you. They want to know they can manipulate your own thoughts to coincide with theirs.

2. They Want To Look Informed

Information is power.

Knowledge is power.

Being a step above the masses is power.

Conspiracy theories grip people, and I am sure we are all guilty of throwing many questions into the universe. Narcissists take it so much further by drilling out all the information about particular theories of interest to look like they know it all.

They want to know it all. 

Why?

So they can look down at everybody else. They love people asking questions.

So, how did you know this?

What made you start looking it up?

Do you really think this could be true?

How sure are you?

Should I be worried?

You see how all these questions could ignite panic in people? How real drama could unfold after just one conversation with the narcissist?

It’s a really dangerous game – but hey – narcissists love danger…

…and games!

3. They Love Convincing People: Power!

The idea that you can be surrounded by a dozen people who don’t believe you, only for them to fall into the trap of actually agreeing with you ten minutes later is one a narcissist lives by.

Their art of convincing others is what makes their eyes light up, their hearts pump, and their smiles so big. 

Of course, narcissists want you to agree with them at all times. They love to hear and see you nodding, doing, saying and thinking the same as them.

What does that equate to?

Power!

The more of a following, the more they will feel like a leader. The person who is in charge. The one people send the links and ideas to. The one that people ask all the questions to…

…Oh please tell me, oh wise one!

Doesn’t it make you sick?

4. Paranoia

Narcissists are paranoid people, constantly looking over their shoulder to see if anybody has figured them out yet.

They will act in ways that both shock and surprise you, and conspiracy theories are included in that.

It’s not enough just to accept that not everything in this world is as it seems (as I’m sure we all agree), but to go steps deeper and really convince themselves of some of the most ridiculous theories to be true.

Narcissists hate criticism, and being mocked will draw out that paranoia. Where else can it go if it isn’t displaced among the latest alien invasion theories?!

5. Wanting to be Unique

Oh, I totally believe this.

This has to be true, look at all this evidence!

Narcissists love to be different. They want to be unlike everybody else, and set their own standards.

Believing in conspiracy theories is how they come to be portrayed as some kind of bespoke human.

6. Need to Control a Narrative

Think about this:

Narcissists always have to be right.

They can only do this if they sell a story that can convince others to believe them. Even when that story is so far from the truth that you can’t even see the truth. 

I know what I’m talking about, and I know best. I know exactly what’s going on and have a very convincing explanation.

This works both ways when the media may be spinning a certain narrative that the narcissist doesn’t agree with, and will go to great lengths to explain why their version is the right one.

7. To Antagonize

“Oh, Alex. Come on. Narcissists surely don’t like antagonizing people, do they?”

If you have to ask me that by now, then I encourage you back to the beginning of my blogs and start again.

Because… Drum roll…. Yes! They thrive when they see you wound up. When you are losing your mind over how frustrating they are, that’s when they’re at their happiest. 

So it comes as no major surprise that narcissists love to wind you up when it comes to conspiracy theories. 

The more they delve and divulge all the stories they’ve heard or read, the more they expect you to completely boil over, like a pot left on the trove for too long. 

How To Outsmart The Narcissist?

Outsmarting a narcissist might seem like something you would never be able to do.

Think of all those times that toxic person has made you feel small, or even nothing. The idea of outsmarting them won’t come naturally to you, right?

Wrong!

You can absolutely outsmart a narcissist. They won’t see it coming, they won’t see you coming – and it will be a shock to their narcissistic system!

Finding ways to outsmart a narcissist can be fun, and it will put you right back in control of your life.

So, let’s see a show of hands to see who’s with me?

Narcissists: The Truth Behind the Mask

Narcissists! 

You’ve likely encountered them at some point in your life, right? That’s why you’re here!

Narcissists walk into a room and act like they own it, even if they’ve just walked into your kitchen. It’s incredibly frustrating.  

Masters at creating a toxic air of confidence and superiority, narcissists hide behind their mask. Behind it all? Insecurity and neediness!

You know it well, I’m certain!

Narcissists can be charming and persuasive when they want to be. 

They’re also incredibly convincing at it. 

But don’t be fooled. 

Their charm is a well-rehearsed act designed to get what they want, whether from you or from others.

They thrive on control and manipulation, and will do what it takes to continue this weird game of human chess they are experts at. 

Understanding the core of a narcissist is crucial for all of us – especially you. 

Beneath all charm and smiles, they are often fragile. They fear their true selves being exposed – and they do all they can so that doesn’t happen. 

This fragility makes them dangerous, but it also makes it possible to outsmart them. 

Once you know what exactly is lurking behind the mask, you’ll be much better equipped to deal with their toxic tactics.

They Think They’re So Clever!

Narcissists believe they are the smartest person in the world, and nobody else compares even marginally. 

They convince themselves of this, and do their best to convince others too.

They use their quote-on-quote “intelligence” to dominate conversations and situations, which only makes others feel inferior. Is this a familiar story to you? 

It is to so many people, sadly.

The narcissist has a deep sense of superiority, which acts as a double-edged sword. 

Yes, it fuels their confidence and bravado. But also, it makes them vulnerable to being outsmarted. If you think about it, anybody can outsmart them, and it certainly doesn’t take much at all. 

Their arrogance blinds them to their own weaknesses, which can backfire on them!

What does this mean? Well, it means the narcissist can sometimes really underestimate others. 

Good news for you though – as this overconfidence is where you can find your edge.

Dealing with a narcissist requires more than just holding your ground; it’s about understanding their playbook and using their own tactics against them. They think they’re so clever, but with a little knowledge and strategy, you can turn the tables.

You? Really? …

Yes! Really!

You’re here because you’ve had enough of the narcissist’s mind games, right?

Outsmarting them is now a healthy option for you, and you should definitely do all you can to do it.

If the narcissist is your friend, boss, family member or lover – the time has come to regain control and peace of mind. 

You’re so not alone.

Many people struggle with how to handle narcissists effectively. 

The key? 

Outsmart them!

Let’s get to the good bit…

How to Outsmart a Narcissist

#1 Be Firm – Set Your Boundaries!

Narcissists are known to thrive on pushing limits, no matter who they belong to. Oh yes, expect boundaries to be constantly tested. They will look for your weakness and then exploit them, until now, that is!

The first step in outsmarting a narcissist is to get your boundaries as firm and clear as possible. This means being completely transparent about behavior you will accept, and what behavior you won’t.

Don’t stop short at setting boundaries, you have to enforce them too. When that narcissist attempts to walk all over them, you have to calmly and consistently push back. 

Make your language clear – and assertive. No, they won’t like it, but hey, this isn’t about them anymore, is it? The less emotion you apply, the better. After all, narcissists feed off any kind of reaction.

Composure is key, just like consistency. 

#2 “Gray Rock”

The gray rock method is such an empowering tool when dealing with any narcissist. 

The idea of gray rock is to make yourself as uninteresting and unresponsive as possible.

You might think that sounds easy but it does take a little practice to get it just right.

Remember, narcissists crave drama and seeing you act ‘overly-emotional.’ By being boring and unengaging, you deny them that very satisfaction they seek.

Bingo!

When they try to provoke you, be bland. Be the human equivalent of vanilla.

Avoid showing anger, frustration, excitement – any of it. Over time, they are strongly likely to lose interest in trying to manipulate you because you’re not giving them the fuel they need.

You’ve become so boring!

No…. I am just doing my best to outsmart your attitude…

#3 Deflection – Master It!

Narcissists love to put you on the spot – it’s their attempt to make you feel uncomfortable. 

One way to tackle this is to master what I like to call the art of deflection.

Whenever they try to criticize or undermine you, that’s when you redirect the conversation. Ask them a question that shifts the focus back onto them or onto a neutral topic.

I’ll give you an example.

They criticize your decorating work at home (how predictable, right?) 

Now you respond with, “Interesting point. What do you think about the weather lately?” 

It sounds crazy, but it really throws them off and totally stops them in their tracks. 

#4 Information is Preparation!

Ah yes, narcissists will often use misinformation and lies to manipulate everybody else. 

You can outsmart them here by being well-informed and prepared. Do your research, re-check facts, and even have evidence to back it all up. 

Many people I know have been known to write down information or revert to old texts for screenshots to prove their points. 

This will all reduce the narcissist’s ability to use deception against you.

This is all about concrete information – and who can argue with the facts?

#5 Gather Your Support System

It’s not uncommon for narcissists to isolate their victims to assert themselves and gain more control.

You can maintain a strong network of people you love and trust. Seek support from anybody you know who may understand the situation you’re in, and who can provide advice.

Encouragement is also heavily advised here!

Having that crucial support system will help you stay grounded in your reality. When a narcissist is trying their best to get to you, you have people you can rely on to turn to. 

Let’s start unlock that potential!