Ah, your home. The place of safety. The walls where you get to live in and be yourself.
You surround yourself with what makes you happy, and you live in a way that aligns well with your spirit and personality.
I love my home. I love the family inside it. I love the freedom of being able to express myself inside it.
I’m so glad I don’t live with a narcissist who does these 7 disturbing things to it when I’m not around.
They snoop through your private belongings
We all want privacy, don’t we? I hate to break it to you, but when it comes to narcissists, there’s really no such thing.
You can’t be with somebody so entitled and assume they’re going to give you the dignity you as a person deserves.
That entitlement extends to feeling entitled to know every last thing about you, even if that means hunting your most personal possessions out.
I’m not here to assume you have anything at all to hide, but that’s never the point whenever it comes to snooping, is it?
The point is that there is an obvious reason the narcissist is hunting, and it’s that they want to find something.
Even though it would dent their pride and wound their innermost insecurity of not being good enough.
They want to find fault with you.
As soon as they do, they will feel relief that you’re so blatantly imperfect. Alongside that will be a contrasting feeling of anger and rage that you’re the kind of person who has secrets, too.
They rely on your transparency for supply. Without it, they don’t have the control they hoped for.
Move things slightly to confuse you
This is common, right? I hear about it all the time from people who write in and share their stories.
Moving things you ‘swore you left on the side that’s now missing.’ Hiding the keys you ‘always hang up by the front door.’
If they can confuse you purposely, they can easily imply that you’re going crazy, or becoming more and more forgetful.
Then they control a narrative that doesn’t exist. Maybe you should go to the doctor and tell them you’re having memory issues.
No. Maybe you just need to ditch the narcissist and realize it was them behind the whole thing in the first place.
Talk badly about you on calls
In your own home, of all places! Can you believe the narcissist makes themselves comfortable enough to trash talk you when you’re not around?
It’s not enough for them to do it on their own time and turf, they have to dispel negative energy around the very place you call home, too.
I say no! It shouldn’t be happening. And what bad talk is there to say, anyway? If anything, they should be talking about themselves in that manner.
It makes me mad that this could be happening to you, but I hope if you ever find out about it you’ll put an end to the relationship in general.
After all, why on earth would you want to keep it alive if it is so destructive?
Trash talk you to the pets
If pets could talk, they would tell us a heck of a lot of information. Pets really understand more than you think, but sadly, they can’t let us know exactly what’s on their mind.
I think that’s why narcissists enjoy talking to them. They know it’s totally one-sided and they can start disagreeing with what’s being said about you.
Let me tell you though, if those pets could talk back, I think we could write a book about the things they’d say! Imagine being so desperate for validation that you look for it through animals?!
Lay on your side of the bed like a throne
A narcissist loves the chance to conquer your space. When you’re not there, it gives them a chance t lay, stretched out on your side of the bed, knowing for just that brief moment without you, they own and have claimed it all.
If there was such a thing as 24/7 control, this would go down as one of the ways they feel like they’re owning you, even though you aren’t even there.
Giving them this moment of glory allows them to feel a power that they have over you, knowing they’ve somehow encroached in a place you normally feel safe and sleep well in.
I don’t even know how these people get away with it, nor am I fully aware of just how this kind of thing really ticks their boxes, but remember the people we’re dealing with.
Narcissists are so dangerous and disturbing of thought and action that really, nothing surprises me any more.
Purposely create a mess to disturb your peace
If it’s not enough that narcissists get under all your emotions and boil away to make them bubble, they also do it to your physical space, too.
When you’ve created a space that is tidy, in order and to your liking, I;d encourage you to not get used to that.
If you do, you’re going to be in for a world of pain.
The narcissist will come along. Not only will they be present in your space, they will clutter it back up.
A collection of old drinks, dirty laundry, mail scattered around, old plates of food left lying around, whatever it is, that space will be claimed by their mess.
It’s representative of their minds when you think about it. They cannot have clear, uncluttered and tidy minds, so they like to resort to making messes where they can to symbolize that.
And yeah, it will be in your space and not theirs so it messes with your mind and disturbs your peace.
Hide cameras to spy on you
The worst kind of disturbance known to mankind is the secret positioning of cameras to spy on you.
Technology is so advanced now that you may never even notice the cameras dotted about your home to spy on you and gain information.
They want to know where you are, who you’re talking to, and if there’s anything they can use against you.
Sometimes, they will act obviously about it, pretending they care about your safety, or the security of the home.
I wouldn’t believe a word of it, and you certainly won’t need indoor cameras to survey your property if you’ve always gotten away with never needing it.
Don’t buy into the trap that they are doing it to show they care about you. With narcissists, there is always an ulterior motive, and you never come out of that shining.
Remember, when they’re not around and you’re at home, they are somewhere watching you for entertainment. That’s not cool, and it’s certainly not healthy.
You’ve been warned!
