Narcissists are driven by the dark desires they keep to themselves. Locked up in their crazed and manipulative minds, they have thoughts that you wouldn’t even dream of having yourself.

Only when you unlock those desires do you really get an idea of how poisoned their minds really are. And guess what – you then get the  upper hand!

I’m about to unlock seven dark desires for you…

…I hope you’re ready.

You Never Know What’s Really Going On

In the world of narcissists, you’re never really going to know what’s going on.

Their minds are so full of toxic traits and unhealthy tactics that you’ll only see what they want you to see. 

Their dark desires lay low within them. Covered by charm, denial, blame shifting and projection, you’re unlikely to never truly unearth what they’re capable of…

…Until I came along!

But I Bet You Wish You Did!

Of course, life would be so much easier if you could read the real intentions of a narcissist before you fall in love with them and find it all the more harder to escape their clutches.

That’s exactly why I am using this opportunity to outline the 7 darkest desires, and why you should consider them huge red flags.

The 7 Dark Desires of a Narcissist

#1 They Want To Be The Best

There’s not a single narcissist in the entire world who doesn’t want to be the best. 

Better than you.

Better than everybody else.

Better than those who even attempt to compete. 

This desire for first place is more insidious than you will ever imagine because it is their mission to outsmart, outwit, and outmatch everybody else—even friends and family—even their children!

The high status that narcissists build for themselves adheres to the superiority they feel about themselves. If they’re continuously winning or succeeding, nobody else is.

The darkness comes from narcissists willing to step all over anybody in order to win and get ahead.

They don’t care who they hurt in the process. 

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#2 They Want Everyone to Eventually Hate You

What kind of sick, twisted person wants everybody to hate you eventually?!

What level of immorality does one need to enjoy seeing somebody filter into sheer isolation, causing mass depression, anxiety or loss of identity?

Well… narcissists, actually. 

Like all dark desires, you’re never going to be aware. You’re just going to end up being the victim. By the time you’ve filled that vacancy, it’ll be challenging to escape.

Think about it like this – if a narcissist can get everybody to hate or avoid you – then they will have you all to themselves. You’ll have no friends to offer or ask for support.

You won’t have a soul to reach out to when you have something on your mind.

When the narcissist (not if…) mistreats you, nobody is going to be there for you, let alone believe you. 

So … when the narcissist says how unlovable you are and how you’ll never find anybody who will want them again, you’ll also believe that.

It’s hard not to when you look around and find you have nobody, right?

#3 Money, Money, Money

Money is a huge dark desire for a narcissist. They want as much as possible, and once they get it, they won’t hesitate to show it off. 

Expensive cars. Clothes with designer tags. Expensive hobbies and homes – you name it. 

Narcissists see how much money they have as this parallel line rides next to how successful they are. If they have lots, that must mean they also have great success. 

It’s a driving force for narcissists because success equates to how proactive they can be, and how clever they are.

As far as the narcissist is concerned, without knowledge, skills or the ability to charm their way into money – they wouldn’t have it.

#4 Center of Attention? Yes Please!

Narcissists crave attention like plants crave sunlight!  Now imagine if plants were able to talk, and they only did so about themselves… 

The inflated ego of a narcissist needs constant validation to feel special, so being the center of attention feeds their wild sense of superiority. 

You could even think of them as emotional black holes:

They suck in compliments, admiration, and, well, any spotlight they can possibly find. Without insisting on doing this, their self-worth plummets. 

They are driven purely by the desire and need for everyone to focus their attention on them – and they will not stop until they get it.

#5 To Be Loved By All

Narcissists need to be loved by everyone. They’re like a toddler needing applause for eating vegetables. 

Well done, you did it!

Their fragile self is built on a very shaky foundation of external validation. This means all it takes is one person not showering them with praise for it to be a real crisis! 

Imagine thinking you’re Beyoncé, but someone treats you like you’re a backing singer. It would be totally unacceptable, right? 

Narcissists constantly seek love to maintain their image. Without universal praise and acknowledgement, they might start questioning whether they’re actually that amazing. 

Trust me, that’s a meltdown you don’t want to witness!

#6 Enviable Job

Narcissists need enviable jobs. They need to know that what they do for a living is going to make you jealous and make them look like the best. 

Or, as I like to call it… peacocking!

It’s all about showing off. For them, a regular job just isn’t cut it because they’re convinced they’re destined for greatness. Beyond that, they want to convince you of the same.

They crave any admiration that comes with fancy work titles, huge, enviable salaries, and corner offices meant specifically for them.

It’s not necessarily about the work itself, though, oh no. This is about bragging rights. 

How amazing is my job?

I get to do this for a living!

Ugh!

If their job doesn’t make others green with envy, what’s the point? A narcissist without a job to flaunt is going to feel less than.

Imagine having such a dark desire that you live to make others so jealous without really considering what you actually like in a job…

…Very strange.

#7 Material World!

Narcissists are human magpies. If an object isn’t shiny, they don’t want to know. Why? Because they can’t show them off!

For them, it’s not just about having stuff. This is far more serious! This is about owning things that scream, “Look at me!” 

The latest designer clothes, a new luxury car, gadgets that cost more than a month’s rent—any item acts like a trophy showcasing their “success.” 

They flaunt, and their dark desire is to continue to do that to make other people feel like they’re in a totally different league. 

8 Silly Mistakes Narcissists Make

Believe it or not, narcissists make mistakes every single day.

Just when you thought you believed the perfect image they portrayed, you’re starting to see through the cracks.

Oh, what fun that is!

Now, to see through those cracks, all you need is a little insight into what really happens when narcissists create huge errors for all to see.

And believe me, they can get very silly!

You Think They Are Perfect… So Do They!

When somebody presents you with this perfect image of themselves, it’s easy to believe it all the while those rose-tinted glasses are on. When you don’t see a fault, it won’t even cross your mind that they are less than the whole package. 

A narcissist will do this well because they don’t want you to see all the ways they’re actually as insecure as they are toxic. 

It’s like a show, right?

The show starts, and everybody takes a seat and watches the actors on stage. You don’t know what the actors are really like because you’re seeing them play a role; a character. 

It’s the same with all narcissists. They welcome you to your seat, and show you what you came to see. 

Eventually, that show is going to have to end. I mean, nobody can continuously act like that without their real character starting to come through.

The Horror!

It’s always a horror to the narcissist when they make a mistake. When something happens, you get to see the version of themselves that holds no color and no warmth. That’s when you realize what a facade it all is.

Catching them fail to be perfect means you have seen the real person behind the pretense. Furthermore, they are reminded in that single moment that they have faults.

8 Silly Mistakes Narcissists Make

Hey, don’t be surprised if you recognize your own situation in every single one of these points!

#1 They Are So Predictable!

The longer you get to know a narcissist, the more you can start to see patterns in their behavior.

You know at the family party, they’re going to turn up and cause some kind of discomfort. You learn to dread those gatherings, but more so, you find yourself preparing for them.

Psyching yourself up, or remembering all the times before they’ve passed comment or judgment, or made you the butt of jokes.

The way they can destroy an occasion is astounding – but they do it so frequently and similarly that you can now actually call them predictable.

#2 They Tell On Themselves

Oops, did the narcissist slip up? I think they may have! Narcissists only have to say one word or phrase for you to see or hear the slip up.

No, I’ve never spoken to them in my life.

Really? The same person I saw you with at the office last week?

I told you I didn’t want to go.

No. I have a text here from two weeks ago saying that you were looking forward to it.

Narcissists tell on themselves all the time, if you let them just fall into their own traps. Making it easy for them to do so gives you far more ammunition when it comes to fighting your half of the conflict. 

Narcissists only think they’re clever, but if you scratch beneath the surface, you’ll see them make mistake after mistake.

It’s hilarious!

#3 Confession Time!

A narcissist will tell you everything about themselves the second they start projecting onto you.

You’re so narcissistic! Stop trying to control everything!

Nobody likes you! You’re not worth their time.

You are so frustrating. I wish you’d learn to love yourself more!

When you are stuck in the midst of these kinds of comments, it’s hard to really understand them to be any other way than pure insults.

Once you learn about projection, you learn that narcissists use it to put everything they feel about themselves onto you so they don’t have to deal with it themselves.

This constant denial is hurtful at the time, because it seems as though you can’t do a thing right.

In actual fact – the mistake is the narcissist assuming you’re anywhere near as toxic as they are. 

#4 No Reason Anger

Shout, shout, shout.

Rah, rah, rah.

Noise, noise, noise.  

What’s it all for? Give me one good reason?

The narcissist can’t.

It’s anger for absolutely no reason, but it’s aimed at you to make you feel like you need to say sorry.

For what?

You didn’t do anything wrong.

When the narcissist becomes angry for no reason, they make the silly mistake of trying to lure people into the drama. 

Some will fall for it, yes. Once you start awakening to narcissist abuse, you will probably find yourself walking away and shaking your head.

Because it’s just not worth it. 

#5 They Underestimate You

Underestimating you is a huge mistake. Imagine thinking that you can’t do a fraction of the things you’re actually able to do – with ease!

Not only that, but this is also about character.

When a person wants to break you, they can take you to hell and back trying. If you remain steadfast in your response and do not let it get to you, you will end up being severely underestimated.

#6 They Don’t Commit To The Change They Promise

This is when you start to see the narcissist for who they really are.

Those promises made that are continuously broken will form a pattern for you. And no, it doesn’t work out the way you hope because that happens when hope fades to disappointment. 

You want somebody to commit to you, and love you for who you are. And all the ways they say they will be there for you to be true and followed through with.

You soon learn to not trust them, even though they are yearning for you to be faithful and stick by their side.

It’s too late when you open your eyes and see the narcissist, not the charmer!

#7 Believing They’re Perfect

This one almost makes me cringe.

Narcissists all believe they’re perfect. 

They adore themselves on the surface, and convince themselves that they have no flaws at all. 

That’s a lot to uphold, don’t you think? Especially when the mask can slip so easily…

#8 Believing What They Say is True

A narcissist’s voice is their favorite song. I’ll go one deeper than that:

A narcissist’s voice is their favorite ever sound. 

Nothing beats it.

They’re always right and believe anything they say is true. 

Nobody can convince them otherwise, and if you so much as question, then more fool you.

Well, actually, more fool them…

…One day they will be proven wrong, which will be their most embarrassing moment to date!