I love Halloween, with all things pumpkin, spider and creepy. Narcissists aren’t Halloween characters, and sadly their creepiness lasts the whole year long.
Every single day they turn up the creep dial in the form of habits that would make you shudder and recoil.
And you know, some may already be on your radar. But others? If you don’t know them, you really need to.
Here are 7 creepy daily habits of the narcissist.
#1 They change things around the house to disorient you
Your house is your sanctuary, and by default should be the place you feel at ease in a space you created and built.
I think our homes individually represent us, as we surround ourselves with things we love, from indoor plants, to art pieces, books to technology. Whatever fills your home, you purposely placed those things there.
Until the narcissist comes along! One minute you last left your favorite mug in the cupboard, the next, you cannot find it anywhere.
Where could it be? Lookin high and low only creates more frustration as you feel at a loss.
Like I said, until the narcissist comes along. They will move your stuff around like they are little pieces of a board game.
They want to see you search everywhere and scratch your head in confusement. They love to see you retrace your steps, or miss what you cherish.
All for their own sick pleasure.
#2 They jump scare you on purpose just to see that fear in your eyes
This drives me absolutely insane to witness, and the scariest part is they start this at a really young age, when kids are trying to assert themselves and intimidate their peers.
I can’t believe I’m saying it but yes, they continue it into adulthood.
When you’re merrily cooking dinner without a care in the world and they come up behind you and bang on the work surface just to see you jump out of your skin.
When you’re getting lost in the latest book you’re reading and they creep up and make a loud noise to startle you.
It’s all done to see those brief few seconds of fear in your eyes. And you know what?
They box up that moment and store it in their minds because it was that good. As you’re recovering, they’re laughing at you and probably calling you some kind of baby.
Is there anything more unattractive?
#3 They become nice only after they’ve destroyed you
If you’ve ever gotten into an argument or disagreement with a narcissist, you’ll know they can get really cruel.
They want to hurt you, and they’re designed to throw the worst comments or insults your way to cause pain.
And that’s exactly what they do, but let’s get one thing crystal clear. The niceness that inevitably follows isn’t genuine.
You’re looking for it to be, because you want the apology to mean something to you.
But this is actually the narcissist’s most manipulative tool to confuse you, and keep that addictive abuse cycle alive and kicking.
The hot and cold turning point can be mere seconds from each other, but that’s what works for the narcissist.
“I will drag you down and hurt you so much before telling you that you’re the best thing ever.”
Why? To reiterate that love equates to abuse. Your standards will never increase all the while you believe them.
#4 They take photos of you during your most vulnerable moments
I think we’re hitting the creepy jackpot here, aren’t we? Tell me anybody who would think that having your photo taken during your most vulnerable moments is a right, healthy, or positive thing to do.
You can’t, because it’s just not possible.
Being made to put up with a camera in your face when you’re crying, when you’ve fallen over in the street, when you’re asleep, when you’ve just heard some very bad news, when you’re wearing something that has gotten caught up or torn; I am talking anything that puts you in the line of ‘entertainment’ for them.
Is that not the word we need to confirm how creepy this is? Are you somebody’s entertainment because you’re having a not so good day, or because you’re in the throes of vulnerability?
And what are the photos meant to represent? The eternal memory of this moment?
I don’t think so. Certainly not for you, anyway. But here you are, being snapped for the purpose of the narcissist to always want to freeze frame a time that you would probably rather forget.
If you were to look through their camera reel, you’d find more pictures than you’d care to admit were real, I can promise you that.
#5 They post deep quotes online about love and growth while emotionally starving you
You cannot grow unless you give your all.
Love is respect, and respect is sacred.
I love as hard as I pray.
Comfort zones are designed to keep you small.
Pass the sick bucket. I mean, yeah, these are fine. Let’s all hear it for the awakening of the narcissist who is actually firmly incapable of doing anything of the sort.
But that’s not what they want to prove to the world, is it? They want to show the world that they are good people.
They know love, they understand growth, they see challenges and want to inspire people. They are holier than thou.
We know the truth, but getting that out there? That’s the hardest part when all people see online is the gushy version of the narcissist that is as fake as silicone.
#6 They obsessively touch their private parts
What is that? The daily obsession with groping themselves? If you’re truly wondering, it’s this subconscious desire they have to reassert their sexuality.
I know. What a weird way to do it, right? It’s almost as if they think we want to see the action, but we don’t.
We want you to leave your bits alone before they fall off and become forever lost.
Don’t we just wish that were the case!
#7 They move or hide stuff so you lose your mind
If I tell you that these kinds of actions have been going on for decades, I’d hope you’d believe me.
I had a client once who was almost 70. She told me that as a kid, she’d see her father take out the fuse to the iron and then demand her mum iron his shirts.
When she couldn’t work the iron, he would tell her how useless she was and to ‘hand it over to her.’ He’d pop the fue back in when she wasn’t looking and then condemn her for being unable to work it properly when he could.
I can’t tell you how sick that is, I just feel for both the victim and the witness to this abuse. Who deserves to be treated that way?
The same goes for anything else that you’re looking for around the house. If you see it one minute and not the next, you know who is to blame before you even take a breath.
What sort of person does this for fun? It can only be a toxic narcissist.
