The best part about watching a narcissist fall back on their own ass is just by sitting and waiting for that glorious moment.
And it does come, folks. It’s never as instant as you would like, but the wait is worth it.
Eventually, they do tell on themselves. They reveal their true character right when you think about giving up.
If there ever needed to be proof that their blood is pure narcissism – what you’re about to read is exactly that.
Here are 7 ways narcissists tell on themselves.
Couldn’t Make it Clearer
It’s a wonderful day when a narcissist acts in a way that solidifies your thoughts about them, doesn’t it?
It’s as if you’ve been waiting for this moment for a lifetime, and finally, you’re there.
Narcissists aren’t smart, you know. They do have a habit of telling on themselves right when they think they are their most indestructible.
But how they act, what they do, and what they say? Well. They couldn’t make it clearer.
They may as well be wearing, “I Am Narcissist” t-shirts.
#1 They Accuse You of What They’re Doing
Projection is one of the most cutting ways to abuse a person. Not only do narcissists act up and act out, they also then have the nerve to accuse you of doing what they did.
In other words – they want to do whatever the heck they want and get away with it.
So no matter what happens – you’re going to be the person who never wins.
It’s so hurtful to a person who has literally done nothing wrong to suddenly be the one in the wrong, but there is light at the end of the tunnel.
When a narcissist projects, you have to see it for what it is – narcissism.
Taking their word for it means you’re only falling into the trap they’ve set out for you.
I urge you to steer clear.
#2 They Randomly Brag About How “Good” They Are
Oh my God. As if we need another rendition of, “I Am So Perfect” by the narcissist. It’s already the most overplayed song in your head because they sing it to you so much, right?
Hear me out though – because I do believe it’s okay for a person to be proud of themselves and big themselves up from time to time. We achieve, we accomplish, and we deserve to recognize it.
But no. Narcissists are swimming in a constant stream of big-headedness and it is not attractive.
Bragging is one sure sign that you are involved with somebody who thinks more of themselves than anything else.
Or as I like to call it – a red flag.
Don’t let any of them pass you by.
#3 They Reveal Their Need for Control in Jokes or Sarcasm
Every joke is on you, right?
And just when you think you can escape, along comes the sarcastic comments that put you firmly in your place in front of people or behind closed doors.
Narcissists always feel like they’ve got to get one up on you, and they will not care what you mean to them or what your relationship with them is.
If this is a regular instalment in your life – I beg you to unsubscribe from it.
You don’t need to be the butt of anybody’s jokes, and you certainly don’t need to base your life around a person who has no care or consideration of your feelings or thoughts.
Look at what is on offer here – because none of it is for your benefit.
#4 They Slip When Talking About Past Relationships
The biggest red flag you’ll find in a person is when they absolutely destroy any partner they used to date.
She was the worst person in the world.
I absolutely hated him; he did nothing and was so lazy.
Don’t get me wrong, genuine people may have those thoughts about their exes – they are exes after all.
This is different. This is deep, and constant, and really cutting. All the phrases are meant to send you into a spiral of sympathy for them.
Gosh, that sounds terrible.
How did you cope?
You’re so much better than that!
I promise to never treat you like that.
Already, you’re falling into line, see? You’re giving the narcissist permission to control you and hold you up in a court of narcissistic law if you start to exhibit similar behaviors.
They catch you in a trap in the long run, but the short version is that you need to see the red flag whenever talk like this arises.
#5 They Flatter You Too Early, Too Hard
It’s all too much, isn’t it?
I mean, for you it might not be. You might love that attention and affection because it’s been something you’ve desired all your life and never got.
I think that’s where a lot of problems become widely apparent – the narcissist takes your weaknesses and pours sugar all over them. They want you to feel special, loved and cared for.
But it’s a lot.
It’s actually too much, but for you, it’s the best thing in the world – until it isn’t. Until that mask slips and you realize how toxic a game the narcissist is playing.
Flattery comes in many forms, but common ones are:
- Sending you flowers at work
- Showing up on your lunch break
- Constantly calling or texting
- Commenting overly on every single social media post you make
- Taking you out on luxurious, over the top dates
- Telling you they love you after no time at all together
- Always telling you how beautiful you are, even if that veers a conversation off the track
It’s a lot, and it’s very telling of somebody with an addictive personality.
#6 They Talk About How Everyone’s Jealous of Them
All the time. This person, that person, even complete strangers.
Are they right? You know, maybe somebody somewhere is jealous of them, but not on the scale they’re assuming.
What they are assuming is that everybody thinks so highly of the narcissist in the first place, which is nothing but a grandiose ideology.
Normal people, like you or me, right? Just with an unhealthy dose of bullshit heaped on them.
That’s the only difference between a narcissist and us. In that bullshit is a cocktail of toxicity that we all know can ruin the lives and confidence of people, and that’s exactly a way they can tell on themselves.
Nobody is jealous – calm down and stop pretending you’re the best. We know you aren’t.
#7 They Can’t Handle Being Ignored — Even Briefly
If you allow yourself to ignore a narcissist, I know eventually they will go crazy.
The hell you put them through when you’re not giving them the attention they want is painful, but this attention is once again, off the charts.
They want it all the time, and they want a lot of it.
Why?
In reality – they need it.
They can’t go long without a dollop of supply, and seeing as they’re unable to make themselves feel good, their reliance on you is extreme.
And yes – it’s energy sapping – but this is a huge sign that you’re dealing with a narcissist and once again, how they tell on themselves.
