6 Ways How Narcissists Fool You

Have you ever been fooled by a narcissist?

They have several ways to trick you up their sly sleeves, and they keep each and everyone well hidden.

It’s only when they really want to fool you, that they will up their toxic game and take you completely for the walkover they think you are.

I’m familiar with all the ways they can do this, and I think it’s time I shared what I know so you can dodge the narcissist’s bullet.

What Do Narcissists Get Out of Fooling You?

You want this in a nutshell?

Fooling you makes the narcissist feel like they’re winning. 

Fooling you intentionally ups their ability to control and manipulate you. 

What they get out of that is the knowledge that they are able to play you time and time again, and that you’ll constantly dance to the beat of their toxic drum. 

Watching You Suffer

You’d think it would be painful to watch the person you say you care about suffer- but in actual fact – they love it!

They work you out by getting to know everything about you that could be abused. Your past lovers. Your insecurities. What your boundaries are. What you love, what you hate. 

Before long, those are the very things they will ignite in whatever ‘ship’ you have with them. 

6 Ways Narcissists Will Fool You

So let’s get specific, here. You’re being fooled by a narcissist, and I’ve got the 6 main ways how they do it. 

#1 They Convince You That They Love You

It’s heartbreaking to be given all the signs that you are loved and admired, only to find out you were just a game to the narcissist. 

The way they convince can be some of the most conniving traits you will see from any person, but oh boy, do they convince. And they’re so good at it. 

A narcissist wants you to think they love you because the bigger picture needs it.

When you first meet, you won’t have access to that bigger picture, but it isn’t good. Meeting you is all about who the next person they can get a large amount of supply from is going to be. 

Being blindsided only means you fall into their trap – and as a result – you’re totally fooled that their feelings are real. 

#2 They Use Your Weaknesses Against You

Finding out all about you seems so wonderful to you at the time. They ask you questions like:

What are your hopes and dreams?

What do you fear the most?

Has anybody ever hurt you before?

What are your triggers?

You think, “Wow! This person really wants to know about me. They seem so interested.” And you’re right. They do want to know about you, and they are interested in you…

…But it’s not because they love you.

It’s because they are getting to know your weaknesses so they can use them against you.

Eventually, you will be triggered by the very things that trigger you, by the very person you told.

Your fears will come to life, brought on by acts of toxicity such as the silent treatment or being downright bullied or mocked.

Maybe the narcissist will fail to call you when they say they will, and you worry about their whereabouts.

You aren’t a fool by opening up to the narcissist. You assume you’re getting to know each other and sharing your vulnerabilities. 

If only it stopped there. 

#3 You Think They’re So Charming

It’s how every single person on the planet falls for any narcissist. 

The charm.

And it’s so real, isn’t it? They seem so genuine. And what an effort it all takes to be there paying you all that attention and giving you everything you need.

Unfortunately, it’s exactly how the narcissist lures you in, like a moth to the flame.

Their charm seems so real, doesn’t it? They really seem interested in you. They really seem to enjoy spending time with you and telling you how much they care.

The way they hold you…

The kisses…

The sex…

The passion…

You’re completely fallen, and their game is only just beginning.

#4 So Seductive…

I want you, and only you.

I want our kisses to be slow and sensual, so you really take in how I feel about you.

I want you to wear that dress I love.

The seductive patterns of a narcissist are designed to put you on a pedestal. With every intention possible, they want you to feel as though you’re the only person in the world. 

Then they set their demands upon you. The abuse will start, and suddenly, it’s as if you truly are the only other person in the world.

By this point, they’ve carved out a life for you involving very few others, if any. 

#5 Passionate Sex = A Protector

Leading on from seduction comes the sex life with a narcissist. Now, I don’t want to assume your personal and imitate lives, but I will go as far to say that most narcissists love to take control.

Sex involves two people, but you wouldn’t think when you think about how the narcissist is the one who tells you where they want you and how they want you, while they take over and dominate. 

You might think, “Wow, this is amazing. Finally, somebody who makes me feel like they are in control. They will protect me for the rest of my life with this type of power.”

Wrong.

They won’t protect. But they will control you. Fooling you into thinking otherwise is their ultimate game. They will use sex to do this. 

#6 Knowing How To Garner Empathy From You

I feel so unwell. Please can you stay home and look after me? Do you really need to go out with your friend?

I just have such a hard time at work. Nobody seems to take my ideas seriously.

I wish you knew how difficult it was to be the one person out of us who earns the most. 

Pulling you toward their concern is how they get validation from you. By reminding themselves that they are your priority will open doors for them to garner empathy or sympathy from you in as many ways as possible. 

It’s a way to totally fool you – but guess what – they do it so well, and it truly works.

You think they need a boost of self-esteem, so you stay with them and forget everything else. Only in time do you realize these boost requests come at a price to you.