It’s what many victims would call a very happy time in their lives – to see a narcissist reach breaking point.
You’ve known them for so long, and now you’re finally seeing their empire of toxicity crumble before your eyes.
Is it ever obvious?
I’d say definitely not.
Subtle signs are the best. They’re slow builders, and they always end in the direction they were originally headed.
Are you ready for those 6 subtle signs a narcissist is near their breaking point?
Is it What You’ve Been Waiting For?
I’d be very surprised if you actively wanted to see the narcissist reach their breaking point.
It’s not within your kind nature to want to see anybody suffer, and I understand that.
The problem is, when you’ve spent a lot of time with them and they’ve sent you to hell and back with their game playing, you might be more willing to see the downfall.
Breaking point always comes for narcissists, and that’s one thing you must always remember.
#1 Their Charm Starts to Malfunction
It’s like an old phone you’ve had for ten years that begins to show signs it’s on its way to the scrapheap, isn’t it?
No matter how many times you try to use it the way you always have, something has fundamentally changed in it.
What attracted you to it is beginning to reveal that it – like everything else – has a shelf life.
As the charm wears off, you see what’s behind the narcissist. It’s a very eye-opening experience to see the truth behind everything you initially believed.
The pieces of the puzzle join together.
The breaking point is near.
What’s caused this? Who knows. All you can see is the impact these changes are having on a person who is evidently unable to regulate their emotions in the same way you might be able to.
Their old ways are no longer working. Remember when you used to throw a coy smile when they’d compliment you, and now all the terrible things they’ve said or done in between are burning a hole in your mind?
Yep.
That’ll do it.
#2 They Get Easily Triggered by Small Things
It just takes one thing to be the final straw that breaks the camel’s back. The trigger is obvious, and you see it in the way the narcissist responds.
Rage.
Silence.
Jealousy.
Anger.
Revenge.
Punishment.
If you’re triggering them, you’re highlighting a weakness they try hard every single day to hide.
They hate that they have to battle to keep a lid on their vulnerabilities because it dents an image they’ve crafted to perfection.
If you notice these signs, you will understand how close they are to their own breaking point.
It’s really only a matter of time before you witness it for yourself.
#3 They’re Losing Control of the Narrative
What once worked for them just isn’t flying any more.
It’s really quite a sight to behold when you’ve known this person for so long, and they are crumbling instead of you.
The narrative has been a long project in progress, and if the narcissist starts to lose grip, you will see how fragile it was all along.
A common loss of control like this is how much the narcissist tries to act the victim in all situations.
Maybe you or somebody else realizes that they were to blame all along, and no matter how hard the narcissist clutches to the original narrative – they fail.
Too much evidence, a witness, an admission when drunk – whatever it looks like – the narrative can do a powerful 180 flip and prove the narcissist to be the guilty party all along.
What else do they do aside from continue to be backed into the corner they’ve created for themselves?
It’s a sad but very real fact that even the most powerful and toxic narcissist eventually experiences a turbulent downfall.
I hope you have front row sweats for this one!
#4 Their Lies Start Collapsing
The world is caving in around them. Life has gotten to the narcissist, and they are trying to claw their way out of the hole they’ve fallen into.
The lies are no longer being believed. The lies are even sometimes not even remembered. The narcissist’s mask is slipping, and you have got front row seats.
It can be subtle.
What you usually find is the narcissist unable to do what they might usually do – and that is to charm everybody else.
Something just stops working, and the shine wears off, a little bit like fool’s gold.
What’s underneath is a dark, solid mass of toxicity.
You figure out the lies, and more importantly, so do other people.
It’s the best day for those who have had to live under the control and power of a narcissist for a long time. Many victims of narcissistic abuse might even say how validating it is to see the narcissist’s lies start to collapse.
If I can say it – it is a sign that the breaking point is literally at any moment.
They have nothing, and remember, narcissists can’t have nothing. They always need something to be able to live off of.
It’s not going to be dishonesty any more!
#5 They Suddenly Beg, Love-Bomb, or Overshare
What else have they got to lose? They need to take action, and they need to take it soon!
If they have to beg you, they will.
If they have to take out all the love-bombing games they could possibly take out, they absolutely will.
And the most embarrassing – if they overshare anything with you 0 it’s their way of trying to get you to trust them.
They might raise an old story from their past that they’d rather have kept to themselves in the hope you will see it as a sign of vulnerability.
These tactics aren’t as genuine as you think they are, and you need to know that.
All it proves is that their breaking point is close, and they are willing to do anything to prevent that from actually happening.
#6 They Isolate More or Lash Out at Everyone
Prepare for the narcissist to back away!
Get ready for them to lash out at you or anybody who gets too close to them.
Breaking point is coming, and the narcissist feels as though they need to step back and hope the feeling will pass.
When narcissists isolate, you know things haven’t gone according to their plan at all.
They aren’t the types of people who enjoy their own company too much of the time – so look out for them wanting to be alone.
Refusing to answer their phone.
Getting mad at you if you call or text too often.
Snapping at you if you try to get too close.
Ignoring you when you call round.
You can’t see it, but the breaking point is nearing, and the narcissist is getting closer and closer to finally cracking and breaking down.
It’s subtle, I know. Narcissists can sometimes isolate themselves or lash out even when they aren’t near breaking point, but there’s no consistency in that – unlike this instance.
When you see it happening frequently, or even all the time, you know what’s coming.
