No matter the age of the narcissist, there will always be a spoiled, dysregulated little child living within them.
This child refuses to grow up, and will respond to everything you say and do with their ridiculous behavior.
Infuriating? Yes. I’m sure you are familiar with it to an extent, but do you know the main 6 behaviors that proves they just haven’t grown up?
I’ve got them right here for you.
You’re dealing with an adult… but…
You wouldn’t think so!
I want to give so many warning signs out to people who get influenced in some way by a narcissist ,because every single one of them has an inner petulant child screaming to get out at all times.
You know, I’ve even known some of them to actually stomp their feet when they don’t get what they want.
If it were possible, I am certain I’d also see smoke bellowing from their nostrils, too.
It’s hard to believe these people walk around in adult bodies pretending to be better than everybody else, but this is exactly what they do.
It’s equally hard to imagine somebody who brags about money, riches and success while simultaneously walking around with the mind and willpower of a teething toddler.
It’s no wonder these 6 behaviors are so common in narcissists.
#1 They blame everyone but themselves
Do you remember when you were at school, and the horrible kid would push you and you’d hit the display that would come tumbling over?
You got the blame for that, or similar incidents, right?
And what did the horrible kid do? They’d raise their little hand and say, “Miss! They pushed it over, I saw them!” Then you’d get into trouble, even though you tried to argue with the truth.
I get made even thinking about things like this, because I see the unfairness start at such a young age.
It’s just one example though, of seeing a narcissist be so ridiculous that they can’t even admit that it was all their fault.
If only they knew how to say, “I did that and it wasn’t right.”
Nope.
It’s always everybody else’s fault.
#2 They throw temper tantrums
The unfortunate among us will have firsthand experience of our kids having some kind of … shall we call it … resistance to the rules (ten points for diplomacy!).
At the end of the day, the thing to remember is that we are in fact, dealing with kids who are growing up and learning every day how to handle tricky emotions. In other words, it’s to be expected.
Adults? It’s the last thing you expect from them! You’d think they’d have enough life experience by then to realize how ridiculous they look when they throw such crazy temper tantrums.
This is all down to being so dysregulated and entitled that they don’t know what to do when they’re told no, or when something doesn’t go their way.
It would be hilarious if it weren’t so tragic! The simple answer would be to just grow up and stop acting the age of your shoe size, but hey, easier said than done for narcissists.
#3 No talking, just sulking
While kids take themselves off to a corner of the room to sulk, narcissists act pretty similarly.
They will go totally silent on you when the easier and more grown up thing to do would be to talk like an actual human being.
The sulking can last for hours, days, even weeks if you know the narcissist in a less than intimate way.
They can go so far off the radar that you can no longer even remember what they look like!
And all because what? You said no? You got something they wanted? So what!
You’re entitled to live your life the way you want to, and if they don’t like it, they can always change theirs to suit them, right?!
Gone are the days where you should walk on eggshells just because you’re afraid of offending the narcissist.
You could put on the wrong perfume one morning and somehow make it a problem in their eyes, so just get on with your life the way you want to, and leave them to sulk like the ridiculous child they are.
#4 They need constant praise
Honestly, are we really going to have to tell them well done for putting the toilet seat down?
Do they need to hear, “You’re so amazing, what would I do without you?”, for fixing the wobbly shelf?
Apparently so, yes. You see, it’s not about what they do, it’s how you praise them afterward.
They aren’t interested in what you think about toilet seats, nor do they care that the shelf is about to fall down and break somebody’s neck.
They do it for the likes.
That’s why they love social media so much. A picture or a post is only valuable if it gains likes.
They want to hear how brilliant they are all the time, so you can bet that fixed shield will make its way online before you’ve even gotten a chance to see it for yourself.
Look what I did!
It screams of:
Mummy, look at this picture I drew at kindergarten today!
Except, they’re not 4. They’re 44.
#5 They compete with you
Why does life have to be so much of a competition? For the narcissist, everything you do has to be one upped by them.
They are spoiled human beings, and adults at that. They cannot stand to see you succeed and have the limelight, because those are the things in life that build confidence and self-belief.
They ask themselves, “Why aren’t you crumbling?!”
And so, you do something, you gain something. And the look on their face proves they can’t contain their anger and jealousy aimed at you.
Suddenly, they’re signing up for that very thing, or even better, finding a new project to be the best at.
And boy, will they make it known to everybody that they’re doing it. I wouldn’t even put it past them to sign up for some kind of charity walk, or skydive to raise money for a great cause just to gain attention.
#6 They just cannot handle boundaries
Why would any respectable adult not be able to handle boundaries? Surely respect goes without saying, and boundaries are healthy to keep us in line with ourselves.
All the while you say yes, they are your best friend. And I understand that you want them to be happy with you, and for you and them to not be stuck in the drama of it all.
But what’s it doing to you? You’re keeping yourself locked away from what you genuinely want to say, and that is where things need to change.
Yes, I agree, their behavior is ridiculous when you implement boundaries. They stomp and shriek like there’s no tomorrow, but why?
Because in having boundaries, you are taking your control back. I don’t know any narcissist who would enjoy you holding the reins, and like a child, they will get angry with you for daring to be strong.
Tough! Let them sulk!
