Hey, would you mind just…?

Oh, can you help me…?

I need you to…

The favors narcissists ask are not the favors you are going to assume you have the right to reject automatically.

Narcissists expect. They want. They feel they are owed. 

By you.

When favors come knocking at your door, there isn’t going to be much you can do to say no, without the guilt trip.

You all know what I’m talking about. I’ve got 6 favors right here that are great examples.

Good Old You!

I don’t want ‘good old you’ to sound anything other than how they view you. 

You’re good for something – and that’s being on the other end of the phone when they need you.

Day or night, morning or evening they’re right there, asking of you.

Your main concern is that you don’t want to let anybody down, so naturally you want to jump right in and come to their rescue – no matter what it is you’re asked to help them with. 

Depending on You: What is This?

Narcissists purposely want something from you so that you feel needed and wanted by them. It reinforces this idea in your mind that you’re worthy to them.

So, what does that do?

Well, it means you feel worthy but only when you’re doing something useful to make them happy.

Your happiness does not depend on how much you’re worth to them at that moment. 

This intermittent reinforcement means you go back to them when things turn toxic, because you’re looking for that next high.

Rather than walk away because you created your worth, you stay because the narcissist created it. 

Because they know that – they learn that it’s a good idea to depend on you and to ask you for favors.

And of course – you’re kind – so you say yes!

Narcissists and Favors: 6 They Expect From You

Knowing the kinds of favors a narcissist automatically thinks you come to the relationship with is key. If you can adhere, you can stay (according to them, of course!)

#1 To Make Excuses For Them

From the moment you meet the narcissist, you are not a person to them. You are a commodity. They may as well stamp your rear with a number, and put you on to a field for grazing. 

You’re there to make them look better wherever possible, and that you will be programmed to do.

If they need to get out of something, or if they’re being blamed in any way, you’ll be there taking the flack. 

Hey, nobody said it was going to be easy or fair. 

#2 To Accompany Them Somewhere

If they have to go somewhere important, narcissists will need somebody hanging off their arm.

The more attractive you look, the better. In return for agreeing to go, they will throw money at your feet and tell you to get the best outfit you can find. 

This favor is asked of you to make them look good. Look how well you look. Look how looked after and cared for you are.

Nobody will have the time or chance to suspect that underneath the mask the narcissists put on you, is somebody vulnerable and abused. 

There are so many layers to this favor, that most people simply can’t see them at all.

Especially if you get to be treated to some new clothes. There is an element of being blindsided by the truth, and using glitter and sparkle as a way of distracting you from what’s really going on. 

#3 For You to Look After Something

If you’re good enough, you will be used. 

Can you look after this for me?

It will clog up your house or drive and remain there for weeks, even months. 

If it’s not an item, it’ll be a person, perhaps a child.

Will you have Tom this weekend? I have a really important work thing. 

Is there any chance you can have Grace tomorrow? I have had so much work come in.

Of course, you don’t want to let anybody down, so you’ve obliged in the past. But these favors are now becoming increasingly frequent, and you’ve had enough of them. 

The moment you say no, you’re discarded. You’re not needed, because, well, how dare you disappoint the narcissist? What could you do that’s more important than helping them in their latest crisis?

#4 To Compliment Them

Love me!

Tell me how great I am!

Tell me how much I mean to you!

Compliment what I’m wearing.

Tell me how you love my car, house, or… ANYTHING!

If you aren’t complimenting a narcissist, in their eyes, you’re ‘neglecting’ them! 

Telling them how amazing they are is something they want you to automatically do, because they give you so many reasons to say those things.

They’re constantly trying to impress other people without actually admitting they’re doing so. 

Needing that constant praise is, other than treating you terribly, is the only thing that keeps supply coming their way.

Narcissists offering all these impressive traits or shiny material goods for people to gasp at is how they survive. 

To them, nothing else matters. 

#5 For You to Keep Quiet

It’s your job and duty to keep quiet about everything that goes on between you both. 

That’s not to say you can’t tell everybody al the great things they do. If it’s good, you should spread that news like wildfire. If it’s bad?

You need to keep quiet.

Our business is our business.

Nobody needs to know.

Don’t go spreading our private business around town.

People will see you as a gossip.

Oh yes – it will even be your fault if you dare tell people what the narcissist does when things aren’t going well.

You’d be surprised how many people fall into this trap, and stay silent about their abuse for many years.

#6 To Not Spend Too Much Money

Listen, it’s not your money to spend. Even if you warn it, you need to be holding onto it. 

Narcissists are obsessed with money. They want it, and will show it off when the right moment arises. 

If it doesn’t, you’re to hold onto it. Don’t throw it at meaningless things. 

Be sensible with it.

Bills have to be paid.

In other words – you cannot look as flashy and expensive as the narcissist because you can bet they’re spending their money on whatever they want.

This double standard is common in any relationship with a narcissist. They will tell you things you can’t do while they live the exact life they want to live. 

What Eventually Happens To Narcissists?

How Does it End For Narcissists?

Narcissists are like a really painful, long book that you have to read to understand. They don’t come with an index or bullet points. If they did, half their toxicity would fall through the cracks.

Sadly, people like you or I must experience them fully before we know each trick.

If I can offer you one fragment of light at the end of this treacherous tunnel – it’s this:

What happens to narcissists is an ending that you’re going to want to hang on for.

Let’s get into it.

“Look At Them!”

It’s enough to make you sick, isn’t it?

They live their merry little lives, seemingly getting away with anything and everything, making you want to scream from the rooftops.

Yes – it’s unfair. 

You wish they would just crumble and fall down, so you could finally see them suffer as much as they made you suffer. 

You want what happens to them to be detrimental to everything they pretend to be. 

Does The Tide Ever Turn?

What do you think? I mean, I want to be able to tell you that they do indeed turn honestly.

I also know and appreciate how it really doesn’t feel that way at the time. Constantly waiting for them to taste their own medicine can feel like waiting for rain in a drought.

But I am here to say that, yes, eventually, that rain will come.

And it will feel amazing.

The Beauty of Karma

I don’t like to meddle with Karma. Instead, I trust that everything will work exactly how it should.

Sometimes we win, sometimes we lose. The circle of life appreciates both good and bad happenings, and I am certain that includes narcissists and how they treat others. 

Karma doesn’t need you stepping in and taking over, so if you ever try to gain justice from a situation involving a narcissist, you’re likely to lose. 

Rather than that – it’s nothing but a waiting game. 

But a game you’ll definitely not want to quit.

How Does It End For Them?

No narcissist has a really happy ending. 

Ultimately, they go home alone every day, even if they go home to somebody. 

Narcissists always want to be part of something, yet never feel part of anything. It’s all empty. It’s all meaningless. They don’t have layers to them or an ounce of appreciation for their family or friends. 

That alone should tell you how it ends for every narcissist. 

They’re nothing but lonely people craving some kind of something. 

That is something they never end up getting.

#1 The Slipping of the Mask

You may have to wait a while, but the mask of a narcissist will always, I repeat, always slip off.

I know you think it can’t happen soon enough, and many of you will be screaming for it to be today—but it doesn’t work that way.

In fact, the more you try to rush the mask’s slipping, the crazier you will look.

If you want to allow their true selves to unfold naturally, you’ll have to wait for the day.

#2 Inability to Keep Up With Their Lies

We all know that lying can lead to serious trouble. Not only do you have to remember this, but you may also have to build potential lies around it so they make sense. 

Narcissists are great at lying, but they can do it so frequently that they fail to recall them all.

When you see a narcissist caught in a lie trap, they will fluff and fumble their way out as best they can with the charm they were born with. 

I want to remind you, though – the lies do catch up with them eventually.

Lies catch up with everybody. 

#3 One Small Mistake

This is all it takes, believe me. One tiny little slip up to get people talking is all it takes. 

I once knew a narcissist professionally who never took any accountability for his mistakes.

He used to cover up all his mistakes, blaming others or deleting evidence that he was responsible. 

One day, he was caught in the act. He had no defense, and even though he got really angry and tried to blame somebody else, it was clear he was to blame. 

His mistake was leaving his work pass in the room where he shredded all the information he wanted to discard. 

It’s all it took for the dominos to all fall down, and for the past to come together like a jigsaw puzzle. People saw what he was like, and nobody trusted him again. 

#4 Time Will Tell

You’re all familiar with the saying, ‘Time will heal.’ It helps if you are going through hard times or have lost somebody close to you. 

Time also heals your own heart as it allows narcissists to be revealed for who they really are.

As much as it will cause chaos, it will be healing to be validated by the entire event. 

It’s how so many victims breathe a sigh of relief and say, “Thank goodness everybody can now see them for who they truly are.”

Time will give you that. You just have to wait for it. 

#5 They Won’t Hesitate To Move!

Narcissists are renowned for moving. 

To start again, if things get too heated where they live,

Looking for work in a new city or town for a ‘fresh start.’

Usually, when they run everybody else down or play them all in their games, they run out of people.

They run out of supply.

So what do they do?

They run away.

It won’t end there, though. Moving anywhere new only restarts the whole process.

Narcissists, for that reason, never really admit to having somewhere to call home.

#6 New Friends

Of course, moving anywhere means starting up a new friendship circle. People will mingle and meet with everybody, as all new people are considered to be fresh pawns in their game. 

Friends end up being enemies before long…

In The End

You can wait and wait, but eventually, the narcissist will get their comeuppance.

In one way or another, whether being found out, having their mask slip, or having to keep bouncing from town to city to stay relevant or liked.

Please allow that to be the justice you need, because it is.

Narcissists will always be miserable. They hate being stuck or figured out, so they must constantly work out their plan to keep their true selves a secret.

Isn’t that the end you want to hear about?

I know it is for me.