5 Weaknesses All Narcissists Have But Don’t Want You to Know

Wait a hot second…

‘Weakness’ and ‘narcissist’ in the same sentence?

Have I gone mad?!

No. I’m very sane.

You’d be quite surprised how weak every single narcissist on the planet actually is (despite how strong they claim to be).

They’ll never want you to know about them, but I feel it’s wise for you to get a heads-up on what makes them feel a little bit smaller.

The Narc is FAR FROM PERFECT

I don’t think I need to make it a newsflash that narcissists are the most imperfect people. 

What makes them imperfect is their inability to see themselves as anything other than perfect.

You or I would gladly admit we aren’t perfect. Some of us are too stubborn for our own good. Others might have an aversion to being productive, and instead prefer to procrastinate rather than get things done.

Hands up!

These are fixable, and I know if you feel you have a part of you that needs a little work, it’s normal to want to make that better, or improve it in some way. 

Narcissists won’t care a little bit. Even if they know they aren’t perfect deep, deep down – they will pretend to be. 

So those weaknesses that show up in them, just like everybody else, will be on double lock from the public so nobody suspects. 

Especially you.

Image is Everything…

Image would be one of the keywords I’d use when describing all narcissists. Every single one of them.

Image is how they carry themselves from one day to the next.

Image is materialistic. It is visual. Others judge it. It is how those people describe that person to another.

It has to be right.

So, if weaknesses are trying to scratch their way to the surface, you will notice a narcissist works extra hard to keep them hidden. 

5 Weaknesses That Every Single Narcissist Secretly Has

#1 They Lack Self-Reflection

As far as they’re concerned, they don’t want to reflect on anything. What’s the point? 

Narcissists know that self-reflection can lead to the admittance of mistakes or things a person wishes or sees that they could have done better.

Self-reflection is a tool used by people who know they aren’t perfect and are keen to learn how to better themselves the next time they encounter a difficult situation. 

Have I just described narcissists?

Ha!

I think I described the complete opposite of a narcissist. 

So you see why it’s easy for a narcissist to lack something they could end up growing from.

That inability to grow shows up in everyday relations, decisions, and acts. It’s pretty obvious to the average person that narcissists are happy that way.

They will want to avoid digging deep for the truth for fear of being at fault for something. 

It’s easy to brush it under the carpet and deny it, right?

#2 “I Must Be Admired!”

The attitude of a narcissist usually goes like this:

If you aren’t loving me then who the heck are you loving?

If you aren’t impressed by me and everything I own, then who are you impressed by?

If I’m not the most successful person in the room, then who the heck are you seeing as successful?

By default, the environment a narcissist is in, no matter where it may be, should be all about them. They are the sun; everybody else is a mere planet or moon. Why are you even here if you aren’t revolving your attention and time around them?

Don’t you know who they are?

Narcissists have to be admired this way. They want to be the smartest, the cleverest, the most animated, the richest, and the one with the most stories to tell. 

Now, I know that we all love it when people listen when we tell stories. We all want to be liked if and where possible, but most of us accept that some people just may not ‘dig’ us. 

Narcissists become almost shocked at the thought of being unliked. They work so hard to provide us with the most perfect version of themselves, so why are there still people rejecting it?

Being admired is a must, and if you can’t show them they’re admired, you’re fired!

Sensitive Souls…

You have to appreciate that narcissists are wholly sensitive people. More than you or I, MUCH MORE.

They struggle with any kind of rejection because rejection raises all the ways they really hate themselves under the surface of entitlement.

If you were to do anything that hints at rejection, such as letting them down or canceling plans, their anger will be because you made them feel an insecurity they work so hard to avoid. 

Narcissists learn quickly to bury their weaknesses, but if you so much as let one down one time, you’re going to open old wounds that they spend years, if not decades, trying to seal. 

And what does that mean to the narcissist?

If they’re reacting to something you did, it means you have some control over them.

A narcissist needs to hide that kind of weakness, and usually does so by exerting even more control your way to make up for it. 

#3 Competitiveness 

I have to win, I have to win!

It goes beyond a simple desire for a narcissist.

It starts to be something they totally obsess over.

Winning confirms they are the best at everything they do, and nobody measures anywhere close. 

Losing indicates that somebody is better than them. Someone is more talented, quicker, more skilled, more willing—you name it. 

The weakness is refusing to accept that they aren’t the best at everything they do.

Nobody is!

#4 Addictive Personality Alert!

They’re addictive by nature – so that always spells trouble. When they like something, they make it their life. Unfortunately, this spells trouble for things such as substances or habits.

Be it gambling, drinking to excess, working out, or taking illegal drugs – they will latch onto what makes them feel better in that moment and use it to the point where it affects their relationships.

Being able to regulate habits and knowing wrong from right is how we keep that balance in our lives.

Narcissists aren’t about balance – they’re about getting what they need right when they need it.

Those addictive hits make up for the lack of happiness they can create without them. 

#5 The Need For Stimulation is Chronic

Never ones to be satisfied with just ‘being,’ narcissists always have to be stimulated. Any kind of stimulation is a distraction from the very real, very miserable world they actually live in. 

Being alone or quiet gives people time to process. Reflect. Remember. Generally, sit with. 

Narcissists hate themselves too much to do any of that – so they prefer to keep overly busy.