I love nothing more than sitting down in the evenings with my favorite drink, enjoying a little peace and calm before the day is done.
In fact, I like being home no matter the time of day, because I’m okay with myself.
I don’t need to always be doing something, but narcissists? They are a whole other breed.
In fact, here are 5 reasons narcissists hate sitting at home.
Get ready to learn that little bit more about these people!
#1 No news is bad news
Why aren’t they outside gathering news like a squirrel gathers nuts for the winter?
Narcissists want to be out there, hearing what’s going on so they can twist and manipulate the news they hear to suit their needs and narrative.
If they’re not, they’re left home wondering what they’re missing out on.
News to them is like a source of supply.
Did you hear about Ian’s latest vacation spot? Who would go there?!
I heard today that Melissa has a new job. I don’t think she’s going to last five minutes.
Well, it’s no surprise that Thomas is moving again. He’s working hard to earn money meanwhile I’m doing nothing because you don’t want to move.
I heard that they’re splitting up.
I was told they’re getting back together.
I mean, who needs to follow any breaking news channel when you’ve got a narcissist around?
They love the gossip, because they love to be the ones to share or relay it with everybody else.
What a weird kick to have, and a very strong reason why they hate sitting at home. There’s nothing exciting enough to share about that, is there?!
#2 Out of the latest loop
Loops are what the narcissist needs to be continually caught up in. This is more than just relaying news, this is feeling important enough to be kept in with the latest circle of gossip or talk.
Narcissists need that. They want to stay relevant, and they want to be invited into those talks people have that should be kept under wraps.
It’s where they find their purpose, and if people aren’t sharing news with them, they treat it like a personal attack on themselves.
What a great reminder to us all that narcissists are nothing without the feeling of superiority.
Keeping them out of the loop drives them mad, to the point where they will ask question after question to get to the bottom of a mystery, or to at least feel as though they’re a part of something.
It’s kind of sad when you think about it. I could care less about news unless it’s genuinely important for me to know about it.
People’s lives aren’t and shouldn’t be breeding grounds for gossip and behind-their-back talk.
Narcissists don’t respect people enough to be aware of that, though.
#3 Faced with themselves!
Is it such a bad thing to be home alone with yourself? I see it as a golden opportunity to relax, catch up on what I need to, and enjoy the moment of calm before life gets busy again.
Not so much for narcissists. They see it as painful.
#4 Not able to flex the image
Who is around to take note of their image if they’re at home without an audience?
Nobody is watching, nobody is asking questions, nobody is looking, nobody is talking about them. How boring!
Narcissists work hard on their image. It is crafted to the tiniest of detail. Putting it out into the world means they get nothing but positive feedback, because that image is:
I am a really good person.
I work hard.
I love my family and friends.
I am positive.
I am helpful.
I love my job.
I have great skills.
I love to vacation to expensive places.
I love the finer things in life.
I work hard at the gym daily.
I eat well.
I have a fast car.
I live in a great house.
I am always there if you need me.
I am an honorable member of society.
That’s all very well and good, but let’s be clear. If a narcissist is at home, who are they going to tell all of this amazing news to?
How will they possibly show off if they’re sitting at home unable to flex?
It suddenly becomes painful to be at home when they’ve got all of that to sell, and not a single person in the queue, ready to buy it all.
That is why narcissists hate being stuck at home.
#5 Must always be busy
Busy, busy, busy! That should be the middle name of every narcissist!
They love to be busy.
The bills won’t pay themselves.
I have a family to support.
That’s why I work hard, to provide for them.
I just wish they were more grateful.
Everything is so expensive I have to just keep going.
The more noble reasons they hand out to people, the more noble they appear to be to everybody.
Beyond that, busyness needs to distract them from the painful reality that they actually really don’t like themselves.
To have a list of things they need to do outside the house means they get to distract from this darkness that shrouds them if they stay still too long.
They can’t stand to be in it, and they hate their own company because there’s nothing in it that they can feel positive about.
And think about it this way; if a narcissist is always busy, it looks like they’re far more successful than they actually are.
Wow! You just don’t stop, do you? You’re always on the go!
“Oh, tell me about it! I need a vacation!”
Well, you’ve certainly earned it!
Oh, pass me the bucket. I need to throw up.
The day a narcissist is genuinely busy because they need to run important errands will be the day the moon turns to cheese.
They fluff their days up as if they’re peacocking their way to sunset.
But hey, it’s what they want the wider world to believe that’s what matters the most to them.
Home should be where the heart is
I know it is for me, what about you? At the very least, it’s where we should be comfortable being, sitting and spending time alone.
I don’t think it’s healthy at all to hate sitting at home, but there’s actually nothing healthy about narcissists.
It therefore comes as no surprise that they’re so against being able to do so in their own peace.
When you get to know a narcissist, you’ll come to see that they really don’t like being at home, especially by themselves.
They see it is a form of punishment. There’s no pleasing anybody if they’re unable to get out into the world.
There’s no supply to steal or energy to sap if they’re on their own. Unable to produce their own happiness or joy, they’re stuck wondering how to go about finding any.
Which is why you’ll never find them at home alone for long. Not if they’ve got work to do out there, circling their prey and stealing the much-needed charisma of their latest, unsuspecting victim.
