Nobody likes a cheater, but when that cheating hits so close to home, the pain from experiencing it feels so much more raw.

You ask yourself questions like:

What did I do wrong?

Why am I unlovable?

What can I do to make them not cheat again?

Answer to all: STOP IT.

Cheating is only made possible by the cheater’s loose belief that they can have their cake and eat it too. It is not an act based on how you treat them.

It is a conscious choice – and an unacceptable one at that.

Narcissists like to further cause problems by allowing complete garbage to fall out of their mouth the moment they’re found out.

And I’ve got the most commonly used 25 right here.

Narcissists and Cheating: The Ego Feeder

Once a cheater, always a cheater.

Narcissists will share themselves freely. They flirt outrageously. They pick up on any attention thrown their way to feed their insecure real self.

Yet they will masquerade as somebody who naturally attracts everybody.

And it nearly always leads to cheating.

Get Ready For The Pure Insanity!

#1 “If You’re Going to Accuse, I Will Fulfill”

Accusing them of cheating might present more like fear that they will, but narcissists don’t see it that way.

They see your insecurity as an attack on them – so they can go out and provide your fears with a toxic, realistic twist of reality. 

 #2 “You’re Imagining All Of This”

Oh, that old chestnut again! Seriously! You’d think the narcissist would have a new line by now.

If you suspect cheating, there’s a good reason, especially when it comes to narcissists. 

 #3 “Why Don’t You Speak To My Mom? She Will Tell You”

Oh, great. I’m sure Mom will have so much to say to protect and defend her precious child.

There’s a large chance if this is being thrown at you that the narcissist is also the Golden Child, so not a bad word will dare to be spoken.

Advice – don’t speak to Mom!

 #4 “Why Are We Even Falling Out?”

Why?

Because you’re being unfair, unkind, and treating me like shit!

Any narcissist who acts to confuse you by being confused themselves needs to leave immediately. Your life could be so much better!

 #5 “Look! You Made Me Do This!”

Nope. No. Forget it. Leave it out.

Nobody has the power to make anybody do anything.

And besides, why is the narcissist suddenly telling you that you have so much power, when usually they tell you the complete opposite?!

…Because it suits them!

 #6 “I Can’t Help Being Attractive”

Not only do they admit they cheat, but they do so in such a way that actually inflates their ego further!

Let’s be honest – if you cheat – it’s not because of your warm, magnetic, sincere character, is it…

 #7 “She’s a Coworker. Nothing More”

Woah there! We know that’s not true, now is it? Once a radar goes up on a female coworker, there’s usually little reason for it to go down.

And don’t get me wrong – men and women work together all the time – but you spot those red flags, and when they’re waving right at you, you just know.

 #8 “It’s Not What You Think”

It’s exactly what you think. You’re reasonable, and you wouldn’t just accuse somebody if there wasn’t good reason. 

Which is exactly why you’re here, with that heavy feeling in your gut that the person you thought loved you, is cheating. 

 #9 “We Go Way Back!”

Um, okay…

So what?

I know men and women who I met years ago, yet somehow I manage to remain friends with them.

Having a past or history with somebody doesn’t mean automatic permission to cheat. 

 #10 “Fine. Believe What You Want”

Yes, you will. And they won’t even fight it because they don’t care enough.

Tells you everything, really. 

 #11 “You’re Imagining This”

Stop gaslighting me!

If you’re seeing and hearing and understanding a shift in dynamic, or if you even have proof, never ever be talked out of your reality. 

#12  “Just Allow Me To Explain”

Okay great, I look forward to it.

Whatever explanation they have, it won’t be a good enough reason for cheating.

There is no reason good enough in existence. 

#13  “This Is Your Insecurity”

Insecurities can sometimes lead to assumptions, but narcissists make it very easy to assume the worst due to how badly they treat you, and how little they seem to care. 

Don’t let the fat that you may be insecure deter you from digging deeper for the truth. 

 #14 “I Was Hacked!”

No you weren’t.

You cheated.

Stop blaming spammers and fraudsters. 

The end. 

 #15 “Don’t Even Worry”

Don’t worry?

You cheated, and you don’t want me to worry?

As long as you’re okay, I should be, too?

Big nope!

 #16 “You Made Me Cheat”

Did you really? Did you set it up? Did you pass one another’s number? Did you lead them to bed?

No. It was all their choice.

This answer is incredibly childish – and false.

 #17 “I Didn’t Even Do Anything Wrong!”

Talk about setting the bar low.

Of course they did.

Cheating is wrong. You can’t set any authentic moral around the idea that it isn’t. 

 #18 “I Need My Freedom Some Way”

A statement from an entitled narcissist, to their victim.

Every time.

Why do they feel like the trapped ones, when all they do is get their own way and make all the rules?

Don’t listen to this one bit. 

#19 “You’re Too Controlling!”

This is projection in its finest form!

You’re not the controlling one – they are. But to make themselves look better about cheating, they paint you as the villain. 

#20 “I Was Bored. It Meant Nothing”

Spare me the details now – it’s too late.

If you are that bored, just leave. 

Never allow this kind of attitude. Cheating might mean nothing to you, but it broke your heart. 

 #21 “It Was Just Once”

Oh, that makes it okay.

One time is enough to know that their willpower is low, their temptation is high, and their care for their spouse has gone right out the window. 

Once is enough for most people, as any ounce of trust goes out the window. 

#22 “If You Trusted Me, I Wouldn’t Need To Look Elsewhere!” 

Why any narcissist feels they can just look elsewhere because their spouse doesn’t trust them is beyond me!

Again, you’re seeing a person so insecure with themselves that they need to seek somebody oblivious, with total blinkers on. 

Don’t question me, don’t suspect me.

#23  “Wow. You’re So Paranoid”

You’re paranoid because you have something to be paranoid about!

Don’t let this other gaslighting phrase get in the way of you searching for, and seeking the truth. 

 #24 “So, I’m The Bad Guy”

Yes you are! My God. What about you cheating makes you think I could possibly be the bad person?!

Give me a break!

Narcissists, like the rest of us, have a choice. We have so many choices every single day.

Make. Good. Ones!

That’s all there is to it. 

 #25 “Don’t Tell Me You’ve Never Cheated”

You probably don’t need to tell the narcissist this because you’ve likely never cheated!

They will try to rope you into telling them something bad about you that you’ve done to make themselves feel better.

If I’m going down, then you’re coming with me!

You can stuff your immorality where the sun doesn’t shine!

8 Silly Mistakes Narcissists Make

Believe it or not, narcissists make mistakes every single day.

Just when you thought you believed the perfect image they portrayed, you’re starting to see through the cracks.

Oh, what fun that is!

Now, to see through those cracks, all you need is a little insight into what really happens when narcissists create huge errors for all to see.

And believe me, they can get very silly!

You Think They Are Perfect… So Do They!

When somebody presents you with this perfect image of themselves, it’s easy to believe it all the while those rose-tinted glasses are on.

When you don’t see a fault, it won’t even cross your mind that they are less than the whole package. 

A narcissist will do this well because they don’t want you to see all the ways they’re actually as insecure as they are toxic. 

It’s like a show, right?

The show starts, and everybody takes a seat and watches the actors on stage. You don’t know what the actors are really like because you’re seeing them play a role; a character. 

It’s the same with all narcissists. They welcome you to your seat, and show you what you came to see. 

Eventually, that show is going to have to end. I mean, nobody can continuously act like that without their real character starting to come through.

The Horror!

It’s always a horror to the narcissist when they make a mistake.

When something happens, you get to see the version of themselves that holds no color and no warmth. That’s when you realize what a facade it all is.

Catching them fail to be perfect means you have seen the real person behind the pretense.

Furthermore, they are reminded in that single moment that they have faults.

8 Silly Mistakes Narcissists Make

Hey, don’t be surprised if you recognize your own situation in every single one of these points!

#1 They Are So Predictable!

The longer you get to know a narcissist, the more you can start to see patterns in their behavior.

You know at the family party, they will turn up and cause some kind of discomfort. You learn to dread those gatherings, but more so, you prepare for them.

Psyching yourself up, or remembering all the times before they’ve passed comment or judgment, or made you the butt of jokes.

The way they can destroy an occasion is astounding – but they do it so frequently and similarly that you can now actually call them predictable.

#2 They Tell On Themselves

Oops, did the narcissist slip up? I think they may have! Narcissists only have to say one word or phrase for you to see or hear the slip up.

No, I’ve never spoken to them in my life.

Really? The same person I saw you with at the office last week?

I told you I didn’t want to go.

No. I have a text here from two weeks ago saying that you were looking forward to it.

Narcissists tell on themselves all the time, if you let them just fall into their own traps.

Making it easy for them to do so gives you far more ammunition when it comes to fighting your half of the conflict. 

Narcissists only think they’re clever, but if you scratch beneath the surface, you’ll see them make mistake after mistake.

It’s hilarious!

#3 Confession Time!

A narcissist will tell you everything about themselves the second they start projecting onto you.

You’re so narcissistic! Stop trying to control everything!

Nobody likes you! You’re not worth their time.

You are so frustrating. I wish you’d learn to love yourself more!

When you are stuck in the midst of these kinds of comments, it’s hard to really understand them in any way other than pure insults.

Once you learn about projection, you learn that narcissists use it to put everything they feel about themselves onto you so they don’t have to deal with it themselves.

This constant denial is hurtful at the time, because it seems as though you can’t do a thing right.

In actual fact – the mistake is the narcissist assuming you’re anywhere near as toxic as they are. 

#4 No Reason Anger

Shout, shout, shout.

Rah, rah, rah.

Noise, noise, noise.  

What’s it all for? Give me one good reason?

The narcissist can’t.

It’s anger for absolutely no reason, but it’s aimed at you to make you feel like you need to say sorry.

For what?

You didn’t do anything wrong.

When the narcissist becomes angry for no reason, they make the silly mistake of trying to lure people into the drama. 

Some will fall for it, yes. Once you start awakening to narcissist abuse, you will probably find yourself walking away and shaking your head.

Because it’s just not worth it. 

#5 They Underestimate You

Underestimating you is a huge mistake. Imagine thinking that you can’t do a fraction of the things you’re actually able to do – with ease!

Not only that, but this is also about character.

When a person wants to break you, they can take you to hell and back trying. If you remain steadfast in your response and do not let it get to you, you will end up being severely underestimated.

#6 They Don’t Commit To The Change They Promise

This is when you start to see the narcissist for who they really are.

Those promises made that are continuously broken will form a pattern for you.

And no, it doesn’t work out the way you hope because that happens when hope fades to disappointment. 

You want somebody to commit to you, and love you for who you are. And all the ways they say they will be there for you to be true and followed through with.

You soon learn not to trust them, even though they yearn for you to be faithful and stick by their side.

It’s too late when you open your eyes and see the narcissist, not the charmer!

#7 Believing They’re Perfect

This one almost makes me cringe.

Narcissists all believe they’re perfect. 

They adore themselves on the surface, and convince themselves that they have no flaws at all. 

That’s a lot to uphold, don’t you think? Especially when the mask can slip so easily…

#8 Believing What They Say is True

A narcissist’s voice is their favorite song. I’ll go one deeper than that:

A narcissist’s voice is their favorite ever sound. 

Nothing beats it.

They’re always right and believe anything they say is true. 

Nobody can convince them otherwise, and if you so much as question, then more fool you.

Well, actually, more fool them…

…One day they will be proven wrong, which will be their most embarrassing moment to date!