Narcissists all carry a strong air of strangeness about them.
In fact, there are so many reasons why I would consider them to be strange, that I can’t help but share them with you.
I hope you’re sitting comfortably, because there is a lot to get through.
Give yourself a point for every one you’ve experienced with the narcissist you know!
#1 They will hog the bathroom for hours
And I mean hours. Don’t expect to even get a look in, as they will be too busy perfecting their smile, working on their pose, highlighting their face and hair to the best it can be…
…Generally ironing out their image before stepping into the world.
Your shower will have to wait!
#2 They ruin special occasions
You can count on all special occasions being totally ruined the moment you let a narcissist into your life.
From birthdays to weddings, from Christmas to Easter; all of it will be spent in the midst of conflict, stress and dread.
You will learn from them to hate anything good in life, starting with the moments you share and make memories with others.
As a result, you will learn that anything you like isn’t important, including yourself.
#3 They brag about their generosity but only when somebody is watching
Oh, narcissists can be fully into their own generosity, but only when they are away from closed doors.
The public will see this person flashing their cash, offering to help and give time, but as soon as they get home, they will do nothing but complain about it, and hold grudges against people who they think ‘took advantage.’
Only you will see that side of them.
#4 They forget or ignore your boundaries
Your boundaries won’t matter at all, and if the narcissist can help it, they will walk all over them if it means they get what they want.
There’s nothing more satisfying than knowing you have strong boundaries, where no means no.
Narcissists won’t register this, because they assume the world will do as they say.
It’s up to you to do the implementing.
Good luck!
#5 They obsess over being the smartest or funniest in the room
Don’t we all know it, too? Narcissists love the sound of their own voice, so they will speak and laugh as if their life depended on it.
Loving an audience, they will do what it takes to be the center of attention, even if you are sitting there feeling the cringe level shoot up.
#6 They fake injury or illness for attention
Illness and injury are par for the course with any narcissist.
They love to act like there’s something wrong, especially if somebody else has been getting the attention or sympathy for too long in their eyes.
It’s all part of their plan to be the victim as often as they can.
#7 The micromanage things they don’t care about just to assert control
For them, what they’re micromanaging doesn’t matter, as long as they can get their claws in and take control of every situation possible, they’re happy.
This takes so much control away from you, and I think it’s worth knowing that this is not normal.
#8 They will compare themselves to celebrities to feel more important than they actually are
Really? Why do we need to see them do this? They think they’re so important, and walk around with an air of ego about them that is so tiring.
Narcissists are not that important, and shouldn’t be treated that way, either.
Especially by you.
#9 They will make jokes that hurt you just to cut you down
Joes are supposed to be funny, but if a narcissist is being mean to you, know that they’re doing it to tear you down and make a fool of you, nothing more, nothing less.
Their unkindness is a way for you to get insulted, blame them, so they can turn it back on you and be the victim.
#10 They will act like a hero for doing the bare minimum
Look at what I did, how fabulous am I?
Great… You did something I have to literally do every single day with no thanks or appreciation for it.
What a hero you are stepping up and taking the trash out.
Where’s that medal…?
#11 They love chaos
Leaving cupboard doors open, ‘forgetting’ to flush the toilet after use, blaming you for things you haven’t done, stirring trouble between family or friends; chaos with a narcissist is constant.
And guess who will be caught up in all of it if they stick around?
That’s right – you!
#12 They blame you for things they caused
Their guilt has a habit of becoming your problem, as much as you don’t want it to be.
Putting up with the blame is tiring, and it always makes you look like you’re doing everything wrong when in fact, you’re trying to do everything right.
#13 They play the victim in every argument
Regardless of damage they’ve done, the victim card will always pop up.
Expect tears, a fallen head and shoulders, and a healthy dose of, “Why does this always happen to me?”
Pathetic? You bet!
#14 They use third-party opinions to back up their arguments
Everyone thinks I’m right!
Do they? Narcissists love to be this vague, but also really bring it to the table when needed.
The alternative is a weakly placed argument with no evidence to help them!
#15 They ruin things you like because it takes the attention off them
Oh, are you happy by any chance?
Well, you’d better wipe that smile off your face, because the narcissist is coming for you.
Expect what you love to be ruined whenever they get the chance because the attention isn’t on them.
Childish? You bet!
That’s precisely what their middle name should be.
#16 Compliments for reassurance
Fishing for compliments is a cheap way for narcissists to look for reassurance where it really isn’t needed.
It’s as if they love to draw attention to themselves at every possible opportunity.
It sucks!
#17 They fake rivalries between you and others to keep you on edge
What a sick way to keep you on edge all of the time. Fake rivalries are so common with narcissists.
They love to set up a scenario and watch it play out, even if you are innocent and so is the other person!
Drama must be present for them at all times.
#18 Breadcrumbing….
Little fragments of affection and love come your way only to keep you hooked to the relationship.
The rest of the time, they treat you like crap so you spend your life waiting for the next breadcrumb to come your way.
#19 They will disappear during emergencies and appear when it’s convenient
When you need them, they’re nowhere to be seen. As the emergency simmers down, you will see them pop up and ask you what they missed.
They may even say sorry just to make their disappearance seem genuine!
Don’t believe a word of it.
#20 They exaggerate tiny accomplishments like it was their best move ever
It took me so long to get that picture hung up just right. I spent 40 minutes alone just plotting the marks where I need to drill on the wall.
Okay, good for you. You hung a picture. How many times do you want me to say ‘good job?’
It’s a little needy and pathetic to be doing this kind of thing, but expect nothing less from a narcissist.
