I know you probably wanted less reasons, but what good of a person would I be if I gave you half the advice you deserve?
20 reasons is a lot, but narcissists have a lot to secretly hate. And that hate always starts with you; the person who is doing all of these ungodly things to them (in their eyes, of course).
So what do you do with this dilemma? Do you stop being you, or do you accept that you are just a person the narcissist wishes they secretly could be?
I’ll leave that thought with you for when you get to the end!
What is Hate For?
Hate is what keeps the narcissist’s blood pumping around their body!
Whether it’s hate for you, or hate for everybody else – you can bet it exists within every single narcissist on the planet.
They have to keep it a secret because they need you, and hating on you would only make them look like the bad guy.
#1 You’re good at your job
You’re good at something, which in itself is a threat to the narcissist and their ego.
If you’re good at it, then they aren’t going to be sitting on that same high level as you, especially if they work with you.
If they don’t work with you, they’ll see your intelligence and drive as a threat all the same.
#2 You care
Caring is a wonderful trait to have, but if it comes naturally to you, the narcissist is going to have a problem with that.
They long to care and be genuine, and they work hard to try to fake it.
If it was as easy for them as it was for you, they wouldn’t need to spend a fraction of their energy on pretending.
#3 You’re a good listener
You listen without judgment or motive. The narcissist can’t even begin to imagine what that must be like.
All they know is how to listen and steal information to use to their advantage.
They hate that you are such a good person.
#4 People trust you
Narcissists want automatic trust without having to earn it, but you see trust as a valued trait in both yourself and others.
This makes people lean naturally toward you, and narcissists wish they had that kind of impact. Sadly, the only way they earn trust is by deceiving!
#5 Your status
Got a good job? Are you a prominent fixture in your local community? Do people trust and respect you?
Well – you’re lining yourself up to be hated by the narcissist. These are all things they dream of having for their own image.
Just how dare you?!
#6 You defend yourself
And why shouldn’t you? If you’ve done nothing wrong yet you’re somehow being brought down – it’s time to stand up and speak your words truthfully.
You’ve every right to do that, but the narcissist will hate you for having that kind of courage that they will describe as something wild like crassness.
#7 Nothing bothers you
You’re carefree, and even when the narcissist tries to get under your skin, you carry on as if nothing is trying to penetrate your strong boundaries and focus on your life.
Which does what? Well, it leaves the narcissist totally powerless around you.
#8 They can’t control you
Not being able to control you is the one thing they will hate about you. Sure, they will try. What’s stopping that, right?
The usual tricks will be pulled out of their hat, but if that’s not successful, the narcissist is going to really dislike you for being so strong.
After all – they’re weak.
#9 Your reality is your reality
And it isn’t about to change for anybody!
Your perception of reality is the one thing the narcissist will likely try to change first. In small ways, yes, but in very real ways.
Maybe they will look at you like you’re crazy for relaying a story that you know to be true.
Perhaps they’ll accuse you of being too sensitive when they make a mean joke about you.
If you aren’t one to fall for these dumb tricks, they will know that you’re not one to be messed with.
#10 Your boundaries are strong
And nobody gets to stomp all over them like they’re crashing eggshells!
You take pride in the boundaries you’ve built over the years as they’ve prevented the wrong kind of people from taking advantage of you.
So you can imagine how much the narcissist is secretly going to hate you for having them!
#11 Your worth isn’t determined by their treatment of you
You know you’re a good, worthy person. You don’t need anybody else to remind you of that, least of all a narcissist.
How they treat you – if they ever get that close – doesn’t alter how you feel about yourself.
Kudos to you!
#12 You could take or leave them
Meh.
Whatever.
The charm is what it is, and you aren’t really interested in those soul-grabbing kinds of people.
You fall in love slower, and with those with more authenticity. You certainly don’t give your heart away just because someone tells you how beautiful you are.
#13 You understand narcissism
You see narcissists coming a mile off, like they’re a cargo ship entering the horizon.
And what do you do? You flag them out. They’re done before they’ve even lowered their anchor.
#14 You called them out
The time comes where it all makes sense, and you open your mouth to tell them.
You are just so toxic.
Boom. Nothing is the same.
They now hate you because you’re never going to forget their true self.
#15 You’re fearless
Narcissists have so many fears that they work hard to hide, but you seem so unphased by life.
You talk to people, you admit when you need help, you try new things, and you shift your perspective if it calls for it.
You’re open to being you, unapologetically.
Big ouch for the narcissist.
#16 You’re NOT fearless – but you speak up
Not all of us are fearless, but it is in speaking up regardless of that, that a narcissist hates. The idea that a person can say, “Hey, I know this is a vulnerable thing to say, but…” that counts.
Narcissists work hard to hide their weaknesses, but they hate that you can be so open about yours.
#17 You’re fine without them
Good for you!
And what a way to drive them crazy! They hate you for being fine without them. Their sole purpose is to be wanted and needed.
Boo hoo, right?
#18 You are confident
Confidence exudes from those who believe and trust in themselves.
If a narcissist can;t stamp that out of you within the first six months of knowing you, then they’re going to hate you for being that strong and stoic.
#19 You do things they wish they could do
If only they had the courage to take those risks. They might talk that talk, but they never walk that walk.
And to see you living life to the max – well – their jealousy will take over and convert to real hate.
#20 You’re a good person
Being a naturally good means giving your time to others without condition or judgment.
You see the best in others, and you give peace, love and compassion a chance wherever you can.
That’s what makes the world a better place, right?
The narcissist is not going to like you at all for these traits.
Tough!
