Affirmations are positive statements that help people deal or cope with negative thoughts or feelings.
You have heard of them before, but not thought twice about using them for your own personal situation.
As a survivor of narcissistic abuse, I will not make a promise to know how you feel, but I do promise to show you a proven way to help you heal.
Nothing this significant will be fixed overnight, but affirmations are a strong place to put your trust.
These 20 affirmations for narcissistic abuse survivors will help you find your starting place.
Affirmations?
It’s time to stop believing the stories the narcissist told you.
Affirmations are far more than just words you repeat to yourself. They are an aid to help you heal and recover.
While there are thousands to choose from, only some are relevant to you and your personal experience and trauma of narcissistic abuse.
In fact, the affirmations I have for you all have the power to be transformative.
Why Positivity Is The Healing Trend For Narcissistic Recovery
Narcissistic abuse leaves scars that push against our confidence. Under the control of a narcissist, victims learn to comply and be quiet, and unlearn the ability to be empowered.
This was never your fault.
Narcissists are bullies, and bullies respond well to fear. In fact, your fear over time served to fuel them. That’s why they wanted so much of it.
And now you get to convert your fear into faith.
Faith that affirmations will help guide you back home to yourself.
Now – let’s take a look at them.
20 Affirmations You Need Right Now To Keep On Surviving
#1 I Am Confident In My Choices
Let’s be honest – there was a time you were not confident in the choices you made. Often told they’re wrong or stupid, you learned to agree with your abuser for the sake of peace.
Now you get to take back that power.
#2 I Am Forgiving
Nobody is asking you to forgive your abuser until you understand what forgiveness means for you.
Some people see that as letting go of the past, others see it more as pitying them and their circumstance.
For now forgiveness might resemble just you forgiving yourself for what you did now know.
#3 I Am Healing
With every day that goes by, you are healing more than you think.
And no, it’s not linear. Some days will feel like a step back, others will feel like two steps forward.
All days are healing days.
#4 Time Is Healing Me
There’s no doubt about it.
Time is the ultimate healer, but you can’t make it go any quicker, and at times it feels so slow.
Think of narcissistic abuse like a broken arm. Will a broken arm be healed by the next day, or even the next week, or month? No. Of course not. It takes time.
So value it, by understanding that you’re healing through it.
#5 I Have Strong Boundaries
You may not once have had them, but they’re getting stronger every day, just like you.
Where you once said yes, you’re able to say no without guilt.
And where you once said no to yourself, you’re starting to say yes.
#6 I Can Respond, Not React
Narcissists want you to react. They love to see your face when it’s filled with pain and suffering.
By responding, you can remain calm, even aloof. Giving them nothing will infuriate them, but make you feel more powerful.
#7 I Am Strong
You always were, so you fought so hard for the relationship to work.
But now, the pressure is off to make something toxic, something perfect.
Instead, you get to build your emotional and mental strength.
#8 I Have Survived All My Bad Days
Every day you’ve had, no matter how much you suffered, you survived.
I know that might not seem like a big thing, but you got through them.
So now the worst is over, and your abuser is out of the picture, you now get to decide what your days look like.
#9 I Am More Than My Story
Easily forgotten in all the trauma, isn’t it?
But you aren’t your story, and you have every right to be you, without the trauma tag attached to you with every step you take.
#10 I Deserve Happiness and Joy
You’ve deserved it all along, but it will only become more obvious the more you tell yourself. Start now.
#11 I Am Capable
A person’s capability cannot change based on somebody else telling them what they think their capabilities are.
A narcissist will never be able to take away what you can achieve simply by telling you – they just make it look like they can.
#12 Life Is Beautiful
It is.
Every part of it is beautiful, and when you open your eyes to it all, you will see it and live and experience it.
#13 It Wasn’t My Fault
A defining affirmation in narcissistic recovery – and one I would recommend as being part of my top three.
It was never your fault. Being programmed to believe it was, will take some time to undo.
But you can do it.
#14 My Reality Is Real
And all this time, you were told it wasn’t. When a narcissist gaslights, your reality is going to be shrouded by their lies and version of the truth – which only compliments them.
#15 I Can Start Again
It’s never too late to start again, no matter how old you are, or how long the abuse went on for.
If you can see each day as a new opportunity to live the way you want to live, and heal from this pain, you will move forward in that journey.
#16 I Love Myself
You should love yourself. You’ll soon come to realize that no person on the planet should have the right to take that away from you.
This is where you get to be in charge.
#17 I Am Here To Protect Myself
And so you should. You owe it to yourself to apply the comfort and support you need to yourself. For too long, you put your abuser first, and that’s because you have such a kind heart.
How about you aim that kindness to your own character? This affirmation will help you do that.
#18 Trauma Is Not A Permanent Residence
Most people still think trauma is something we all have to live with, but that’s not true.
Trauma is a visitor to the mind and body. Yes, it frequently outstays its welcome, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still show it the door with work and time.
#19 My Path To Recovery Will Carry Me To Tomorrow
Tomorrow is the place you want to be, because it separates you from the pain you feel today.
I understand that. Tomorrow will look exactly the same as today unless you start seeing the possibility that it can be positive.
It can be whatever you want it to be.
#20 Hard Days Are Inevitable, But They Will Make Me Stronger
Being consciously aware that not every day is easy will help you through those bad days. Life is never one perfect day after the other, and neither is healing.
You will get there. You just have to believe you will.
