I don’t want to encourage any of you to go out and purposely drive a narcissist nuts.

Is it worth your time and effort? Probably not.

All that will happen is you will look like the public antagonist, and they will be able to throw your reputation to the wolves.

However, I feel it’s always good to have one or two bites of knowledge about what drives a narcissist crazy.

I mean, just in case, right?

The Narcissist

Those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder are never going to be self-confident, regulated people. Their emotions are all over the place due to never being taught how to cope. 

It’s okay to be sad.

It’s okay to cry.

It’s okay to make mistakes.

It’s okay to try again.

Not hearing those things in childhood makes a person far more likely to turn out with narcissistic traits, such as finding what we would deem normal things to drive them nuts.

It’s not your fault that this happens, but they will damn sure try to pin that blame on you.

Let’s look at those 18 things. 

#1 The Call Out

So, you think you can call out a narcissist, do you? What on earth are you sipping?

Listen, I am never going to stop you from doing what you feel like you need to do, but just know that it’s never going to be a challenge of smooth sailing.

Calling them out means shining a light on everything they do that’s wrong.

You’re breaking that fragile exterior, and you’re showing them what’s really underneath…

… Everything they’re trying to hide.

#2 The Truth

The narcissist works hard to create their version of the truth, and nine times out of ten, they will convince you that this is the truth. 

It may have worked up to a point, but when you start to wise up, you start to see it for what it really is: lies. 

So you stand, and you speak. 

And that narcissist is furious with you.

Of course they are – what you’re doing is being brave and speaking up.

To them – you’re the world’s biggest threat. 

#3 Fighting Back

I don’t want anybody to raise their fists and start fighting – this is more about not backing down from the injustice.

Somebody I once knew got a threat from her narcissistic brother. He threatened her with a court order so that she could never speak to him again. 

The only problem was, she hadn’t spoken to him in years. Because she called out their narcissistic father, her brother felt it necessary to re-assert his power over her.

In turn, she called the police herself, and he was given an official warning to not make further threats. 

She never heard from her brother again.

Pointless and laughable – but proof that they hate it when you fight back.

#4 When You Defend Yourself

In any situation where you are being accused of something, and the narcissist is trying to bring you down, I feel everybody should try their best to defend themselves.

You don’t have to match their volume or toxicity, but you can say things like:

You have your version of reality, and I have mine.

I refuse to engage further if you are going to continue to shout at me.

I know I never did that. 

Watch them squirm as you strongly refute their attitude.

It’s well worth it – but of course – they will hate it!

#5 Ignoring Them

Narcissists are only happy when you are giving them all the attention they need. Believe me when I say: it’s never enough.

They act like the sun, and everybody and everything else are the planets and moons. If  you’re revolving around them, they’re happy.

They get to do the talking, and they get to lap up the praise.

Until they don’t. 

When everything reverts to another and  they are ignored, they practically melt with rage.

Where is the validation they can’t live without?

Gone forever, hopefully!

#6 Absolute Silence

Imagine tucking into a nice dinner with the family, and the one narcissist sitting with you all is shifting uncomfortably. 

Everybody is happily eating, and so there is real silence. 

They can’t take it. They look around, wondering why nobody else feels how they feel.

Every person is content, eating away, and enjoying the food.

There’s so much for a narcissist to interpret in a silent moment. They’re that paranoid, they assume the silence is to do with them.

#7 Grey Rock

Grey Rock method is basically showing the narcissist your indifference.

You purposely give very little to nothing away, and again, this is a method that’s left wide open for the narcissist to interpret. 

If they are used to you reacting and you give them barely anything – imagine how crazy that would make them!

#8 Exposing Them

Never expose a narcissist! 

They worked so hard to create this hideously incorrect image of themselves – it’s going to be the end of their world if you tell all now.

The thought alone drives them crazy!

#9 Being The Butt Of A Joke

This is something they’re very good at dishing out, but not so good at taking.

A little bit of a taste of their own medicine unlocks old wounds that are covered by ego, and it’s painful for them!

#10 Not Knowing – Ouch!

Knowing everything leads to a knowledge of power that only narcissists crave for.

Without it, they feel like there are missing pieces to their puzzle – and it leaves them fuming!

#11 Damage To Their Reputation

Building their house of innocence takes time. It is carefully crafted to look perfect, so nobody suspects who lives inside.

The moment you try to damage it, they will go nuts.

#12 Losing Control

Control is like gold to them. It is worth more than anything they own, and without it, they aren’t able to manipulate or create the drama and conflict around them that they do on a daily basis.

Losing control is a big worry for every narcissist out there.

#13 Denial

To be denied information, affection, time, attention: you can count on it that the narcissist is going to feel crazy brewing on the inside. 

They demand access to you, and everybody around them.

#14 Not Playing Along

If you play along with their game, all will be well.

The trouble is – nobody really knows the rules, because they change so frequently. 

And even if we did – why should we play along?!

#15 Not Winning!

Narcissists want to come first in everything they do. They want the gold medal, the achievement, the attention, the compliments, the praise – they want it all.

Not winning reaffirms their secret belief that they’re worthless; a wound they won’t be keen on reopening.

#16 Cutting Contact

So, you decided to put yourself first and cut contact?

Good for you!

I can’t tell you how many victims this positively affects, but that about the poor narcissist?

They’re left raging that you’d dare be so crass. Now you’ve gone, so has your supply…

…And that drives them insane!

#17 Your Success

Listen, if you’re succeeding, then that means they aren’t.

They don’t want to see you earn more and create more of a life for yourself than they had.

They don’t need hard evidence that they’re a nobody underneath it all, and that’s what your success does to them.

#18 Any Empathy

If you’ve got a shred of empathy in your bones, then count yourself lucky. Good people carry good traits. 

Narcissists will be driven to the brink of true craziness knowing certain kind characteristics shine from you so naturally. 

What Eventually Happens To Narcissists?

How Does it End For Narcissists?

Narcissists are like a really painful, long book that you have to read to understand. They don’t come with an index or bullet points. If they did, half their toxicity would fall through the cracks.

Sadly, people like you or I must experience them fully before we know each trick.

If I can offer you one fragment of light at the end of this treacherous tunnel – it’s this:

What happens to narcissists is an ending that you’re going to want to hang on for.

Let’s get into it.

“Look At Them!”

It’s enough to make you sick, isn’t it?

They live their merry little lives, seemingly getting away with anything and everything, making you want to scream from the rooftops.

Yes – it’s unfair. 

You wish they would just crumble and fall down, so you could finally see them suffer as much as they made you suffer. 

You want what happens to them to be detrimental to everything they pretend to be. 

Does The Tide Ever Turn?

What do you think? I mean, I want to be able to tell you that they do indeed turn honestly.

I also know and appreciate how it really doesn’t feel that way at the time. Constantly waiting for them to taste their own medicine can feel like waiting for rain in a drought.

But I am here to say that, yes, eventually, that rain will come.

And it will feel amazing.

The Beauty of Karma

I don’t like to meddle with Karma. Instead, I trust that everything will work exactly how it should.

Sometimes we win, sometimes we lose. The circle of life appreciates both good and bad happenings, and I am certain that includes narcissists and how they treat others. 

Karma doesn’t need you stepping in and taking over, so if you ever try to gain justice from a situation involving a narcissist, you’re likely to lose. 

Rather than that – it’s nothing but a waiting game. 

But a game you’ll definitely not want to quit.

How Does It End For Them?

No narcissist has a really happy ending. 

Ultimately, they go home alone every day, even if they go home to somebody. 

Narcissists always want to be part of something, yet never feel part of anything. It’s all empty. It’s all meaningless. They don’t have layers to them or an ounce of appreciation for their family or friends. 

That alone should tell you how it ends for every narcissist. 

They’re nothing but lonely people craving some kind of something. 

That is something they never end up getting.

#1 The Slipping of the Mask

You may have to wait a while, but the mask of a narcissist will always, I repeat, always slip off.

I know you think it can’t happen soon enough, and many of you will be screaming for it to be today—but it doesn’t work that way.

In fact, the more you try to rush the mask’s slipping, the crazier you will look.

If you want to allow their true selves to unfold naturally, you’ll have to wait for the day.

#2 Inability to Keep Up With Their Lies

We all know that lying can lead to serious trouble. Not only do you have to remember this, but you may also have to build potential lies around it so they make sense. 

Narcissists are great at lying, but they can do it so frequently that they fail to recall them all.

When you see a narcissist caught in a lie trap, they will fluff and fumble their way out as best they can with the charm they were born with. 

I want to remind you, though – the lies do catch up with them eventually.

Lies catch up with everybody. 

#3 One Small Mistake

This is all it takes, believe me. One tiny little slip up to get people talking is all it takes. 

I once knew a narcissist professionally who never took any accountability for his mistakes.

He used to cover up all his mistakes, blaming others or deleting evidence that he was responsible. 

One day, he was caught in the act. He had no defense, and even though he got really angry and tried to blame somebody else, it was clear he was to blame. 

His mistake was leaving his work pass in the room where he shredded all the information he wanted to discard. 

It’s all it took for the dominos to all fall down, and for the past to come together like a jigsaw puzzle. People saw what he was like, and nobody trusted him again. 

#4 Time Will Tell

You’re all familiar with the saying, ‘Time will heal.’ It helps if you are going through hard times or have lost somebody close to you. 

Time also heals your own heart as it allows narcissists to be revealed for who they really are.

As much as it will cause chaos, it will be healing to be validated by the entire event. 

It’s how so many victims breathe a sigh of relief and say, “Thank goodness everybody can now see them for who they truly are.”

Time will give you that. You just have to wait for it. 

#5 They Won’t Hesitate To Move!

Narcissists are renowned for moving. 

To start again, if things get too heated where they live,

Looking for work in a new city or town for a ‘fresh start.’

Usually, when they run everybody else down or play them all in their games, they run out of people.

They run out of supply.

So what do they do?

They run away.

It won’t end there, though. Moving anywhere new only restarts the whole process.

Narcissists, for that reason, never really admit to having somewhere to call home.

#6 New Friends

Of course, moving anywhere means starting up a new friendship circle. People will mingle and meet with everybody, as all new people are considered to be fresh pawns in their game. 

Friends end up being enemies before long…

In The End

You can wait and wait, but eventually, the narcissist will get their comeuppance.

In one way or another, whether being found out, having their mask slip, or having to keep bouncing from town to city to stay relevant or liked.

Please allow that to be the justice you need, because it is.

Narcissists will always be miserable. They hate the idea of being stuck or figured out, so they must constantly work out their plan to keep their true selves a secret.

Isn’t that the end you want to hear about?

I know it is for me.