Time has been kind to me. It’s allowed me to get to know a lot of people who have experienced a shit time with a narcissist.
While I’ve helped them through it, I’ve learned what really pisses them off to the point where it’s possible to ruin them.
Never one to sell you the idea that ruining people is the way to live your life, I also want to empower you.
The only way to do that is to activate that pissed-off narcissist!
Here’s how.
Make The Impossible, Possible!
You know this is something you’ve always wanted to do, right? It feels like it’s just not possible to annoy them.
No matter what you do, sure you might give them a reason to be annoyed. But what about real frustration?
To piss them off and ruin them is to step over the lines you’d normally stop at because fear gets in the way.
What if you did it anyway?
Make the impossible possible!
#1 Smile
I bet you thought this list was going to be filled with terrible things, didn’t you?
You’re not a terrible person, and neither am I! But believe it or not, nothing I suggest is evil here. That’s not what this is about.
You’re keeping in alignment with your true self, and I want to honor that as much as I do admire it.
So smile.
Make their day that whole lot worse by simply being happy.
#2 Laugh
Taking it one step further, and something I am a big fan of, is laughter.
If a person is visibly trying to get under your skin, you can only offer the idea that you’ve ruined that attempt by laughing.
Watching you have a good time and caring less will immediately piss them off.
#3 Ignore Them
Because, why not? They do it, don’t they?
The difference is that you’re not doing it to spite them; you’re just done with them. You don’t want to talk, fight, or engage.
So you just leave it.
And your silence is going to be the very thing that cuts off your supply for them.
Ouch!
#4 Defy Their Demands
What are they asking of you now?
Don’t you wish they’d cut it out?
Giving in to what the narcissist demands of you is giving them the better life, while you suffer and struggle.
You don’t want that, so the only option you’ve got is to defy them.
Don’t succumb to their orders, and you will set yourself free while simultaneously pissing them off.
#5 Learn What They Hold You Back From
What are those things? Why have they been able to hold you back up until this point?
All the while you are kept from the things you love, they’re getting what they want. They’re seeing your demise.
When you set yourself free from that through knowledge and awareness, you will piss them off.
When you’re unstoppable, they have nowhere to go.
#6 Leave Them
Just do it.
Stop putting up with their crap, and go.
If it isn’t that safe or easy, then formulate a plan to make it happen when the time is right.
Whatever you do, have it in mind that this is the end, and you are going to leave.
Nothing pisses them off more than knowing you and your supply have left the building.
#7 Expose Them
Shine a light directly onto them, and tell the people you know and trust the truth.
Who are they, and what are they doing to you?
Expose the narcissist to the narcissist – that’s even more fun!
Yes, you’re going to piss them off, but if that’s your aim, you will succeed!
#8 Live Your Life Well
The best revenge is success, and it will make the narcissist so mad to see you making good choices for yourself, and living the life you’ve always dreamt of.
#9 Have Boundaries
As much as it pains them, your boundaries are for you and you only. They are to protect you emotionally and even physically.
They are your limits, and any encroachment is a violation.
Keeping them strong is how you assert yourself and keep them fully annoyed.
It will ruin not just their day – but them!
#10 Don’t React
A bite here, a snap there, a justification there.
Don’t do it.
Keep it from them, and save your energy.
They will circle you waiting for that rise, but you are not a fish, and they are not the line.
Remember your worth.
#11 Take Action on Their Threats
Listen, if you’re being threatened and it’s getting serious, keep all the evidence you have and show it to the police.
Don’t tolerate threats, and never let the narcissist assume that you’re going to keep quiet forever.
It’s empowering to hand over all your suffering and be validated.
And it will piss the narcissist off to know that they can’t keep it behind closed doors any longer.
#12 Never Let Them See You Cry
They love the satisfaction of watching you struggle and try to manage your tears.
So why give them what they want?
If you have to, take yourself into another room and cry. Do it in the shower, the bath, or in bed at night.
But never let them see that they’ve got to you.
They will feel they’re losing their power, and nothing infuriates them more.
#13 Move On
A step further from leaving the narcissist is to move on with somebody else.
Don’t do this hastily. The last thing you want is a rebound on your hands. But find somebody who cares about you, and who is willing to make it work through respect and compromise.
This signals a real end game for the narcissist, and will totally ruin them.
#14 Embarrass Them
A narcissist will never want to be embarrassed. Under their bravado, there is a very fragile ego. One that is easily destroyed, especially if you draw negative or embarrassing attention to them.
They will never forgive you – good!
#15 Follow Your Dreams
Because they’re your dreams and because you have every right to do so!
Narcissists will stop you from following your goals and dreams if they get half a chance.
That doesn’t mean you should listen and obey. They don’t get to have it their way – this is your life – and you only get one!
So piss them off and show them that you’re not one to fool around with!
#16 Don’t ‘Need’ Them
When you need somebody, that feeling turns to an attachment that’s really hard to break. Ask yourself what you particularly need from the narcissist, and if that thing is healthy.
I’d be it’s not. I bet it’s the feeling of being wanted among a sea of being treated like shit.
You don’t have to sail that sea!
