What a cruel world we live in when we have to read about the 16 things narcissists hate the most. 

I don’t want to add to the cruelty, I just think it’s unjust that a person can carry so much hate around with them every day.

We are all trying to be happy, and live lives that are filled with compassion, and kindness and…

…Oh hold on. I think I just saw a narcissist throw up…

Hate? The Narcissist…?!

I know, right? Narcissists are usually such loving, happy, bright people. They’ve always got so much love in their hearts to gi-

Okay. I can’t. I tried. I just cannot rewrite the narcissist’s character.

They are what they are: full of hate and loathing for both you and themselves.

There is not a soul on this planet who can erase the detrimental effects narcissists have on their victims, but you can take control with knowledge. 

So… what do they hate the most?

#1 Being Criticized

Listen, they’re not going to like it at all if you were to take them down a peg or two with a witty or critical comment.

It’s their job to make you feel shitty, not the other way around. 

If you dish out what you perhaps receive on a daily basis, you’re going to be in for a world of misery as they take revenge on you. 

What the narcissist hates the most here is how you are brave enough to contest, or throw this kind of comment your way. 

I mean – how dare you?

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#2 When They’re Ignored

Ignoring a narcissist is like starving them. Without your reactions, responses and emotions, they’re not going to have anything to fuel themselves with.

And it is quite literally that.

A car without gas has nowhere to go. 

Ignoring them gives them nothing, and for them, that’s the worst way to live. 

#3 Lack of Control

Control is the narcissist’s middle name. It’s where they thrive, and how they pursue the dynamics they’ve drawn out in their head.

There’s a place for you in their life, and it’s right where they want you to be.

If you deviate from that spot and dare to take a little control back, they will hate it, and hate you more for it, too. 

#4 Expose Time!

This is real stop the press material. The whole world they took their entire lives to build will crumble around them.

And it doesn’t matter who doesn’t believe you, because there are always going to be those who do.

And that’s really all you need in order to expose them properly – and the very reason they hate the idea of it. 

#5 People Who Think Independently 

What do you mean you have your own thoughts and opinions?!

This cannot be acceptable!

You’re supposed to believe every word that comes out of the narcissist’s mouth, and you’re supposed to apologize for daring to have your own frame of mind.

This is another form of control, but specifically one they hate because your strong mind denotes a strong character.

#6 Confrontation

While they may act all loud and proud, narcissists actually hate the thought of being confronted, or confronting somebody.

Anything that draws attention to them, or that may have the potential to highlight their flaws and lies is a big no-no.

Instead, they want to simmer under the radar, and point that attention to the innocent – like you.

#7 The Truth in Their Face

What am I supposed to do with this?

Well, for starters, it’d be nice if the truth would be an opportunity for an honest, open discussion between two adults.

No such chance!

In essence, narcissists hate the truth because it’s always something they want to avoid.

What a nice person you are.

How insecure they are.

How much they hate themselves.

How you don’t deserve to be treated this way.

These are all truths. 

#8 Standing Up For Yourself

When the day comes where you decide enough is enough, and you stand up for what you believe in – yourself – everything changes. 

The narcissist will hate that they have lost control of being about to, well, control you.

Now you’re pulling the strings a little more, they will be unable to steal your happiness and convert it to misery.

#9 When They Can’t Manipulate

You clock onto their antics, and you no longer are the person who is swayed one way or another. You understand your truth, and you remain steadfast in it. 

It’s a glorious day for you, but the narcissist? Not so much.

They live for manipulation. Now they can’t, they hate it.

This does not mean you go back to old habits. 

#10 Your Support System

If you’ve got people around you that you love, the narcissist will see every single one of them as your allies; those who will defend you in any conflict.

The less people fighting in your corner, the more chance they have to make you look like the narcissist if the shit ever hits the fan. 

#11 Caught in The Web of Deceit

Catching a narcissist red handed! I can’t think of a better position to be in.

Of course, they will want to and try to worm their way out, but they hate having to do so. It’s more work for them!

#12 Feeling Small

All narcissists wish they were a little bit taller in character, so they constantly pretend to be. 

In reality, their personality is small, coated in a thick layer of pretence. 

If they’re made to feel what they actually are, it’s a truth they will be unable to run away from.

Ouch!

#13 Success That Isn’t Theirs

Wow, congratulations on getting your college degree!

You must be so proud!

Let’s go for celebratory drinks!

Well, you can count on the narcissist to at the very least stir up a lot of trouble for attention if you succeed in anything.

They will do anything to hold you back or put you down because they aren’t getting any attention.

You can’t possibly be better than them!

#14 Boundaries

If you want to draw an invisible line of protection around you, the narcissist will hate you for it.

Honestly, it’s something they dread. Their entitlement runs so high, all they want is to constantly overstep. 

If you start refusing to let them, they are going to be seething on the inside. 

#15 Not Getting Preferential Treatment

Move aside, I need to get to the front of the line!

Don’t you know who I am!?

No. Actually, nobody knows who you are because you aren’t more important than any of them – does that help at all?

Narcissists think the sun shines out of their behinds, and anybody who questions that is going to have a miserable time of it. 

Automatic entitlement is a dangerous thing to insist on, and it reveals a lot about a person’s character.

#16 Empathy

Empathy is a trait seen as a weakness by the narcissist on the outside. On the inside, they struggle to understand how people can genuinely care so much.

It’s so beyond anything they can comprehend because they can’t feel a thing.

Care equals concern, and concern can stretch into the community and help heal and make a difference.

Narcissists don’t want you to do any of that. It means people will value you, and think highly of you, then all that attention and emotion should be added to their already too-large ego.

11 Ways Narcs Fool You Into Thinking They Are Not a Narcissist

Narcissists are pure masters of disguise who will fool you into thinking they’re caring and confident souls who care deeply.

Beneath that outer charm lies a level of selfishness you won’t comprehend.

 How do they pull it off? 

Well, narcissists use very clever tactics to hide their true nature, making you believe they’re not who they really are. 

So, by the time you realize the truth, it will be too late. 

Allow me to uncover everything…

The Fool’s Game

The game of fools was invented by one.

Being fooled by a narcissist is nothing to be ashamed of, yet so many people feel that when they realize what’s going on. 

If you can see a good side to somebody toxic, they will ensure you never see their bad side. 

11 Ways Narcissists Fool You Into Thinking They Aren’t a Narcissist

#1 Charming First Impressions

You know the narcissist to be everything that destroys mental well-being. Each time you hear the word ‘toxic,’ you think about all the punishing ways people under the spell of narcissism are treated. 

The insults.

The mocking.

The anger.

The silent treatment.

The control.

The lack of accountability.

The invisible apologies.

So it’s no wonder the charming illusion can knock a person right into next week.

You aren’t a fool for falling for the charm, but you’d be a fool to stay once you uncover the truth. 

#2 Selective Generosity 

One minute, they love to shower you with gifts and treat you like royalty. The next, they pull everything away from you and act as though you’re nothing but a pain to them. 

It’s like offering you a safe space to sit in, and then unleashing a dozen tigers into that space.

You think you’re okay until they prove you’re not – and it’s all caused by them.

Eventually, feeling safe will become less and less frequent, and feeling unsafe will be where you are most likely to remain. 

Those moments you do feel safe will be when they try to show you how genuine and authentic they are…

…Don’t buy it!

#3 Playing the Victim

Narcissists are known for being the kind of person where nothing wins against them.

Believe me when I say that they’re so capable of playing the victim, it’s unreal.

They will stop an entire village of people working if it means they get the kind of attention they;re searching for. 

So there you are, trying to see them as evil and awful, but they’re so good at proving otherwise in a single moment.

Their eyes are full of sadness, and their tails drop – they’re like a dog without a treat.

But they’re still a narcissist!

#4 The Magic Mirror!

You’ll be swept away into a sea of blissful unawareness, and all the while, you feel like you ‘have so much in common with them!’ This is called mirroring.

Oh wow, you like that band? I’ve seen them five times in concert!

I thought I was the only person who loved peanut butter and banana on toast!

I love that you love those values. For me, it’s exactly the same. We are so alike. 

The narcissist will do what they can to make it seem like you’re two peas in a pod. It’s how you fall in love…

…And into their trap!

#5 Blaming Others

Hey. I’m the innocent guy here!

It’s not me. It’s everybody else.

I’m just trying my best to do what I can.

If you were to adhere to these statements, you’re likely to give the narcissist the benefit of the doubt, maybe even feeling sorry for them!

And you can’t feel sorry for somebody so toxic, which means they can’t be a narcissist, right?

Right?

WRONG!

#6 The Emotional Rollercoaster That Is

Now, I need you to read this clearly:

If a narcissist was bad all the time, there would be no appeal.

Did you get that?

Emotional rollercoasters are how you stay seated in an environment that you should be leaving.

With every three negative things that happen, you’ll get one, which is a great thing. That’s how the narcissist plays you and how they keep you. 

Narcissists will convince you that toxic people are always toxic – and prove they aren’t by a false kind of positive for you. 

Don’t buy it.

#7 Strategic Compliments: Lower Your Guard

Every now and then, if you receive warm, kind and loving words from the narcissist, they will be able to cover their tracks and keep you fooled.

Oh, you look beautiful. I am so lucky to have you in my life.

I love you so much, you mean everything to me.

How can they be a narcissist, when they’re so full of love and affection?

Easily…

It’s fake.

Do not lower your guard.

#8 Questioning Yourself

Hey, I think you’re acting a little crazy. 

Do you think it’s worth asking yourself if you really feel that way? It seems so unlike you.

If a narcissist wants you to self-reflect, it’s because they’re trying to convince you to see yourself one way only. 

The way they want you to see yourself (which is always negative).

#9 “You Don’t Need Anybody!” – Creating Dependency

Fooling you into believing you don’t need anybody other than them is a dangerous game. Many narcissists are successful in this, isolating their victims until they can fully take charge of their thoughts and feelings. 

Do this!

Don’t do this!

Don’t speak to that person. You’re too good for them.

I don’t like you speaking to the neighbors. They’re nosey.

I don’t like how your mom treats you like a baby. It’s time to cut her off.

I could go on and on.

It serves to do one thing:

Cut you off and cause you to be dependent on just the narcissist.

This is fooling you in a way that makes you think they have your best interests at heart…

…They really don’t!

#10 Fear Via Control

A narcissist will ask you what you’re scared of, and present you with that very thing just so they can protect you from it.

Read that again.

The narcissist wants to save the day. They want to be the ones you run and cling to.

Little do you know that they caused the problem or the fear in the first place. 

When you experience the very fear they create – ask yourself if you are being saved or if you’re being fooled.

#11 The Perfect Image

The perfect image does exist for those who refuse to dig under the surface. 

Narcissists have a surface that is coated with perfection. They love to be the ones everybody gravitates toward, and you’re left thinking, “This person has it all. They’re so liked and amazing!”

Of course, they aren’t.

But that’s all part of their plan to fool you even more!