The scary thing about narcissists equates to all the little things they do.
They can be some of the most attractive, initially gravitating people ever to walk the earth, and I know that scary wouldn’t be how you’d describe that.
But in fact, under that layer of pretence, they do some pretty scary things – to you and everybody else.
So let’s get right into what they are, and how you can spot those 16 things.
Don’t walk – run.
Things Can Get Dark Quickly
You’d best be prepared for when things can take a dark turn in your life with a narcissist.
The scary starts here.
#1 The Laugh
Maniacal! We all agree. It’s attention seeking, almost hyperactive, and one to stop everybody in their tracks.
But make no mistake – it is coated in narcissism.
Look at me! Ha ha ha ha!
#2 Mirroring
Copying every little thing you do just so you feel a connection with them is a scary way to manipulate you.
It also grows the attachment between you fast, so you feel less likely to want to leave them.
Mirroring is exactly how narcissists let you think that you’re so alike.
You’re not.
#3 How They Take People Down
If it serves the narcissist to take somebody down, talk dirty or run their reputation into the ground, that’s exactly what they will do.
The scary part is, it could be a family, friend or even you.
Narcissists are loyal only to themselves.
#4 They Sleep So Well
Meanwhile you – the sufferer – tosses and turns all night worrying, wondering and anticipating.
Don’t expect any narcissists to have a conscience at all, let alone one big enough to keep them up each night.
#5 They Fake Being Ill
The world must stop! The narcissist is unwell!
They could be faking the whole thing, but as long as you obey them and give them that attention, they’re happy.
What healthy person fakes being unwell?!
#6 They Don’t Care if You’re Ill
You’re just putting it on or wasting everybody’s time.
No sympathy, no help, and no support or understanding either.
#7 Stalking
Many victims of abuse find themselves being stalked at one point or another, and it can be scary.
Walking home alone and finding somebody following you.
Showing up everywhere you are.
Those familiar headlights following you home from work in the dark.
It’s frightening, but narcissists will overstep their boundaries whenever they can.
And this is one of those times.
#8 Harassing
Harassment can come in many forms.
Calling you incessantly.
Texting.
Coming over to your place.
Meeting you from work.
Sending you mail.
Demanding your time on a regular basis.
Leaving you feeling like you just cannot breathe.
There are laws against harassment, and steps you can take to ensure your safety. That’s how wrong it is.
Why do narcissists think they can get away with it?
Because they feel they’re owed the world, and more.
#9 Not Hearing ‘No’
The word no is a sentence. We all know that.
If you’re not happy, comfortable, or okay with something, you have a right to say no. And even if you say yes, you have a right to change your mind.
Narcissists hate the word no because it is a direct threat to them. They want to get and have what they want, and they don’t want you getting in their way.
And if they’re not hearing you say no, then it can get pretty scary pretty quickly.
#10 Play People Against Each Other
In what kind of world do you think it’s okay to purposely cause two people you care about or know to fall out?
Do you think causing an argument, and throwing comments or snippets of news that you know will trigger somebody is acceptable?
You absolutely don’t. And that’s why you’re here. That’s why you understand the need to heal from the people who do think it’s okay.
When a narcissist plays people against each other, they’re telling you how scary they can get, and how an act so unhealthy and unnatural can bring them so much pleasure.
#11 They Don’t Love
Isn’t it almost non-human to look at a person so incapable of love?
What on earth is so difficult to do something we were all inherently put on earth to do?
From pets to people, relatives to friends – we all love.
#12 Intimidate
Intimidation can be emotional, financial, physical or psychological – but it is what it is – intimidation.
If you come out the other side of something the narcissist says or does feeling scared, pressured or worried, the narcissist has won.
Too many people stay in relationships where intimidation is a daily occurrence, but you need to rely on the fact that it’s not normal, and it is a strong and unsubtle form of abuse.
#13 Rage
You never know when it’s going to come, or how long it will last.
You’re familiar with the narcissist’s rage, but the unpredictability of it scares you. Why should you have to tolerate it?
And yes – it’s intense, right?
It can be specifically aimed at you for all the right reasons (according to them).
But you have to walk on those eggshells every single day, don’t you? You twist and turn your way out of potential conflict just to stay away from it, and I don’t blame you.
But you shouldn’t have to be twisting your way out of anything.
#14 The Empty Stare
The empty stare is the worst.
What do you even do with it?
It’s designed to confuse you that way, that’s why it’s empty.
You’re left thinking:
What are they thinking?
What did I do wrong?
What’s happening?
What changed?
What mood are they in?
How will they punish me?
You’ll question yourself time and time again, and they know it.
That’s why they do it, and that’s why it can be so scary.
#15 Watching You Fall
Narcissists love it when people fail. It doesn’t seem right, does it? The ones you love are supposed to be the ones you’d walk over hot coal for.
If they hurt, you hurt. You support and ensure you do what you can to be there…
…Not narcissists.
They are built a different way entirely, and will crush you at every opportunity they get.
The suffering you go through to them is like watching their favorite movie. You are their favorite movie if you are unhappy.
It makes them feel better. Having such unhappy, pathetic lives, they need to view somebody as unhappy and pathetic as they are to feel good about themselves.
#16 Threats
Any kind of threat is below the belt, and unacceptable in relationships. The one place and person you’re supposed to feel safe with should not be making threats.
Your trust will be harmed, communication will break down, and this kind of conflict will never be resolved as the narcissist fails to see what they even said or did that was so wrong.
Walk away from this manipulative behavior before it completely destroys you and your character.
