I know what you’re thinking, you want the narcissist to say sorry. If they did, you’d feel better and they would hold themselves accountable.

Unfortunately, it’s never going to happen. That can’t stop you from dreaming though, right? In fact, there are 12 apologies you’ll never hear, and I’ve got them right here for you. 

You loved the narcissist, but this is exactly why the whole thing was a complete waste of time.

#1 “I Lied. I’m Sorry”

The truth is that they all lie. I could literally swoop them all up in a big net and capture them like they were mackerel in the ocean.

They’d all be in there together, and I could yell, “You all lie!” It’d be true. But you know what they’d do? 

They’d deny it.

That’s exactly why you’re never going to hear them apologise for doing so. Which completely throws me off, because it’s the decent thing to do, and narcissists are crying out to be decent people. So you’d think they’d do what’s right to earn more respect. 

It stops there. It stops because to apologise for lying is to do two things. The first is taking accountability for what they lied about, and admitting that they aren’t perfect.

The second is being sorry about it. They aren’t sorry. They don’t care that they lie.

They just want to get away with living this life all the while avoiding reality (let’s be honest here, they don’t even know what reality is). 

#2 “Sorry I Gaslit You”

Sorry you gaslit me… Okay. So you’re admitting that you are a fan of chopping up my reality and telling me that it doesn’t exist?

You’re saying that you actively and consciously have a history of manipulating me to the point where I have no idea what to think, feel or believe?

Yeah right!

Enter the real truth. If a narcissist was going to admit to that, then they’re ultimately giving all their power away to you, which is the very thing they’re trying to steal daily from you.

And they work hard to do it, too. Why would they surrender it? 

You’ve loved them all this time, and you just want to know that what they’re doing is what they’re doing.

But they can never be honest in return, can they? It’s heartbreaking, yet you have to find a way to live it and heal from it, because it really will be no other way. 

That apology will never come. 

#3 “Sorry I Cheated”

I would love it if a narcissist apologized for cheating. It’d prove they were remorseful about the act, and respected you enough to be honest with you in terms of what happened.

Cheating is never okay, no matter the context. I think that’s what causes so much conflict in relationships, especially when one party might say:

It was just a kiss.

We weren’t physical.

I was drunk.

I don’t even like her.

I love you, and that’s all that matters.

It was a one off. 

None of it is okay if the other person doesn’t find it okay. 

#4 “Sorry I Embarrassed You”

Apologies like this would go a long way in showing that you matter, and that they overstepped.

Again, you won’t find it anywhere near their mouths because they’re too busy trying to think of the next way to embarrass you. 

Would a person you love keep doing this? No. Does this sound like love at all? No.

Everything they put you through, and all the ways you loved them, and they don’t even have the decency to say sorry for some of the hardest times of your life with them. 

#5 “Sorry I Ignored Your Boundaries”

I don’t think it’s ever possible for a narcissist to even know what a boundary is, let alone apologise for ignoring yours.

If that were the case, they would have spent more time listening to you and what matters instead of walking all over you and treating you like you will just take it all on the chin. 

Your boundaries are important, and moving forward, they should be retained. 

#6  “You Doubted Yourself, and I’m Sorry”

For all the times they gaslit you, they owe you multiple apologies. 

I wouldn’t even think twice here, you won’t get that apology. It comes accompanied with a huge admission that they’ve manipulated you during your time together which, let’s be honest, will never happen. (and I know you want it to, but that’s just the way it is). 

#7 “Sorry I Ruined Holidays”

Sorry?! It wasn’t just one Holiday, one time. It was all of them, every year, throughout that year. 

They ruined them to the point where you started to dread them, and all in the name of love?

At least now you know that love was never really there, and you can start to build those special events back up to mean something more to you all over again, this time without the narcissist. 

#8 “You Doubted Yourself Because Of Me. I’m Sorry”

It would be a very healing comment to receive when you consider all the times the narcissist made you think you were going crazy.

You were having your reality ripped from you and replaced by what they thought was right or fair, all to want to be ‘right’ and ‘in charge.’ 

It was all down to one person, who is, wait, now taking accountability?

No, they’re not. That’s why it’s an apology you’ll never hear!

#9 “Sorry I Stole So Much of Your Time”

The hardest part of breaking up with somebody who never loved you is all the time you spent together. They knew all along that they weren’t in it due to genuine feelings. 

The task for you in any healing journey is to fully understand that no matter how you feel about that time gone, you’ll never get it back. Do you want to spend the next five years thinking about it and wasting even more?

I hope not. 

#10 “I’m Sorry I Broke So Many Promises”

Letting you know that those promises were broken is a great way to validate all the times you felt disappointed by their actions (or lack thereof). 

They broke them, and you know it. Not only do you know it, but you will have it confirmed by the narcissist if they say sorry.

Except, they won’t, because they can’t. 

#11 “Sorry I Smeared Your Name”

Your name was smeared and people made assumptions about you based on what they heard from the narcissist.

neither fair nor right, yet it happened. You had to tolerate it in the way you did, but if you at least had an apology, it’d make it better. 

Smearing is dangerous and can ruin reputations, but the narcissist doesn’t care about that at all. 

#12 “I Constantly Played Victim. I’m Sorry”

Wow! You finally hear it from the horse’s mouth! The apology for always putting themselves in a victim mentality. Well, that apology will only happen in your dreams.

And I know. You love them, and you want to hear it. You feel you deserve it. Alas, prepare yet again for a world of disappointment.

That’s how cruel they really are. 

What Eventually Happens To Narcissists?

How Does it End For Narcissists?

Narcissists are like a really painful, long book that you have to read to understand. They don’t come with an index or bullet points. If they did, half their toxicity would fall through the cracks.

Sadly, people like you or I must experience them fully before we know each trick.

If I can offer you one fragment of light at the end of this treacherous tunnel – it’s this:

What happens to narcissists is an ending that you’re going to want to hang on for.

Let’s get into it.

“Look At Them!”

It’s enough to make you sick, isn’t it?

They live their merry little lives, seemingly getting away with anything and everything, making you want to scream from the rooftops.

Yes – it’s unfair. 

You wish they would just crumble and fall down, so you could finally see them suffer as much as they made you suffer. 

You want what happens to them to be detrimental to everything they pretend to be. 

Does The Tide Ever Turn?

What do you think? I mean, I want to be able to tell you that they do indeed turn honestly.

I also know and appreciate how it really doesn’t feel that way at the time. Constantly waiting for them to taste their own medicine can feel like waiting for rain in a drought.

But I am here to say that, yes, eventually, that rain will come.

And it will feel amazing.

The Beauty of Karma

I don’t like to meddle with Karma. Instead, I trust that everything will work exactly how it should.

Sometimes we win, sometimes we lose. The circle of life appreciates both good and bad happenings, and I am certain that includes narcissists and how they treat others. 

Karma doesn’t need you stepping in and taking over, so if you ever try to gain justice from a situation involving a narcissist, you’re likely to lose. 

Rather than that – it’s nothing but a waiting game. 

But a game you’ll definitely not want to quit.

How Does It End For Them?

No narcissist has a really happy ending. 

Ultimately, they go home alone every day, even if they go home to somebody. 

Narcissists always want to be part of something, yet never feel part of anything. It’s all empty. It’s all meaningless. They don’t have layers to them or an ounce of appreciation for their family or friends. 

That alone should tell you how it ends for every narcissist. 

They’re nothing but lonely people craving some kind of something. 

That is something they never end up getting.

#1 The Slipping of the Mask

You may have to wait a while, but the mask of a narcissist will always, I repeat, always slip off.

I know you think it can’t happen soon enough, and many of you will be screaming for it to be today—but it doesn’t work that way.

In fact, the more you try to rush the mask’s slipping, the crazier you will look.

If you want to allow their true selves to unfold naturally, you’ll have to wait for the day.

#2 Inability to Keep Up With Their Lies

We all know that lying can lead to serious trouble. Not only do you have to remember this, but you may also have to build potential lies around it so they make sense. 

Narcissists are great at lying, but they can do it so frequently that they fail to recall them all.

When you see a narcissist caught in a lie trap, they will fluff and fumble their way out as best they can with the charm they were born with. 

I want to remind you, though – the lies do catch up with them eventually.

Lies catch up with everybody. 

#3 One Small Mistake

This is all it takes, believe me. One tiny little slip up to get people talking is all it takes. 

I once knew a narcissist professionally who never took any accountability for his mistakes.

He used to cover up all his mistakes, blaming others or deleting evidence that he was responsible. 

One day, he was caught in the act. He had no defense, and even though he got really angry and tried to blame somebody else, it was clear he was to blame. 

His mistake was leaving his work pass in the room where he shredded all the information he wanted to discard. 

It’s all it took for the dominos to all fall down, and for the past to come together like a jigsaw puzzle. People saw what he was like, and nobody trusted him again. 

#4 Time Will Tell

You’re all familiar with the saying, ‘Time will heal.’ It helps if you are going through hard times or have lost somebody close to you. 

Time also heals your own heart as it allows narcissists to be revealed for who they really are.

As much as it will cause chaos, it will be healing to be validated by the entire event. 

It’s how so many victims breathe a sigh of relief and say, “Thank goodness everybody can now see them for who they truly are.”

Time will give you that. You just have to wait for it. 

#5 They Won’t Hesitate To Move!

Narcissists are renowned for moving. 

To start again, if things get too heated where they live,

Looking for work in a new city or town for a ‘fresh start.’

Usually, when they run everybody else down or play them all in their games, they run out of people.

They run out of supply.

So what do they do?

They run away.

It won’t end there, though. Moving anywhere new only restarts the whole process.

Narcissists, for that reason, never really admit to having somewhere to call home.

#6 New Friends

Of course, moving anywhere means starting up a new friendship circle. People will mingle and meet with everybody, as all new people are considered to be fresh pawns in their game. 

Friends end up being enemies before long…

In The End

You can wait and wait, but eventually, the narcissist will get their comeuppance.

In one way or another, whether being found out, having their mask slip, or having to keep bouncing from town to city to stay relevant or liked.

Please allow that to be the justice you need, because it is.

Narcissists will always be miserable. They hate the idea of being stuck or figured out, so they must constantly work out their plan to keep their true selves a secret.

Isn’t that the end you want to hear about?

I know it is for me.