If you think the narcissist is running around the house and setting up booby traps for burglars when they’re home alone – you’ve been watching one too many movies!
When alone in their home, narcissists find it eerily uncomfortable.
They hate the idea of their own company, and will do anything to get out of the hostile loop that’s going on in their mind.
There are 11 things narcissists do when they are at home alone. If you’re in any doubt that they despise themselves – you’re about to have all those doubts erased.
Out of Sight, Out of Mind
Narcissists need somewhere to live, and their homes are usually where they least like to be…
…Especially if they’re alone!
When alone, there’s nobody to talk to. Nobody to lie to. Nobody to manipulate.
Nobody to control. Nobody to exaggerate to. Nobody to impress. Nobody to flirt with. Nobody to upset.
Before you really start to feel sorry for them, I want you to think about what that means. It means they will do some crazy stuff while they get the chance.
Being out of sight and mind means narcissists have extra work to do in order to be noticed, or get that supply hit they’re after.
…For Them…
It’s a worrying time. Left with their own company, they have to keep busy to prevent the self-hatred from rising up to a high enough point where they can’t control it.
…And For You…
Peace, perfect peace, right? You get a break from them without being under your feet or within your range.
And I bet you are somewhere alone, and loving your own company! (Rightly so!)
So, let’s break down these 11 things.
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#1 Stalk You Online
First, if they can’t be with you in person, you can bet they will sit with the online version of you.
It comes from the desperate need to fill the void their insecurities are leaving.
Unable to know what you’re up to, they will look for signs that you’re busy (how dare you make plans without them, or not invite them?!)
They want to know what you did before you met, who you hung out with, what you looked like, and they will sit and scroll back for hours if they have to.
Googling your name and details isn’t past them, either. If any search results can offer up more clues as to who you are, then that’s exactly what they’re going to look for when they are on their own.
#2 Text Anybody
Is anybody there?
Answer me?
I will talk to literally anybody at this point?
Shall I set up a WhatsApp group chat?
What is that person I haven’t spoken to in months doing?
Texts will fly into their phones and to the unsuspecting in a matter of minutes.
The narcissist will sit and await replies. Who will reply first? Will it be engaging enough to give them the supply hit they are so evidently looking for?
Filling time by needlessly chatting to people they don’t care about is a good way to pass that time. They will do it until the sun goes down (and more).
#3 Scroll Social Media
Social media is the rabbit hole we all easily find ourselves from time to time. Admittedly, I’ve been guilty of watching reels or shorts as I commute, or if I am having a bit of a lazy day.
This is different.
This is worse.
#4 Busy, Busy, Busy
If they’re not busy, they’re sinking quickly into the realization of just how much they hate themselves.
I can’t stress this enough.
Narcissists hate who they are when they look in the mirror.
The idea that they aren’t good enough is their most powerful trait that they project back into the world.
Nothing you do is good enough.
You are the one who has to suffer for their lack of self-love.
Any kind of loathing is converted into entitlement. They’re owed a life of luxury to make up for all the reasons they actually don’t deserve an ounce.
Is it starting to make sense yet?
#5 Mirror Time
This mirror is my gateway to charming everybody I meet.
I must smile, and practice, and work on how I appear to others.
This is not a time for joking around. This is me.
Mirrors are good for narcissists to look into and act. A little like a rehearsal stage, they show the narcissist what the outside world sees when they view them. This has to be right, and it has to be perfect.
There’s no better time to do this than being home alone.
#6 Workout
Workouts are healthy – and you don’t have to be a narcissist to want to keep fit and exercise.
Narcissists take it to another level by working out intensely, regularly, and more than anybody else you know.
They hit the gym, and if they can’t hit the gym they will workout at home.
It’s a good opportunity to let all their rage out when alone. Knowing they’re constantly improving their physical image is also suitable for them.
They assume that all we care about is their appearance, but it’s never enough of a distraction from how they act.
#7 Google Everything
If they can find out information about you, or anybody else they know or want to know online, narcissists will find a way.
Googling not just people, but events, shopping, the latest trends, how much cars or houses they love cost, possible vacation ideas – the list is endless.
Google gives them knowledge, and knowledge acts as a different kind of power to them than you or I.
They use it to get one up on people, or to seem more intelligent than anybody else in their environment.
So yes – Google is popular.
#8 Post on Social Media
If a narcissist is caught at a loose end and has a night in, they don’t need to tell the world that.
What would people think?
Oh, you can’t be as popular as you say you are if you’re home alone.
So what do they do?
Posting that they’re out somewhere, for a start.
They share photos taken a while back of a landmark they visited or an impressive meal they had out.
Anything to look busy, in demand, and important.
#9 Flirt With Strangers
The loose end of a narcissist will always reach strangers online. It’s quick, easy, and instant gratification is involved.
Flirting isn’t harmless to the narcissist, who enjoys looking and feeling irresistible to the world around them.
This is one of those occasions.
Stroke my ego!
#10 Message Old Flames
If there is a chance you can gain a little supply while you’re home alone, then what do you have to lose, right, narcissist?
Always hovering one hand over the ex-button, narcissists know they will win in a situation where they’ve always had one – the supply of ghosts past.
For them, it’s a way of extracting what they need when nobody and nothing else is entertaining them.
#11 Watch Adult Content
Last but certainly not least – you got it.
Adult content is popular with narcissists who find the act of love or intimacy within normal society difficult.
For them, viewing an explicit video is enough to satisfy them. No love is needed, no love expressed, and nobody has to feel uncomfortable about it afterward.
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They don’t look like they fear anything, do they?
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When The Narcissist Can’t Sleep At Night
Tick, tock, tick, tock,
3am?!
What’s keeping the narcissist up at night?
It’s likely to be thinking about their fears, as believe it or not, they cross their minds from time to time.
Those fears remain buried under the guise of the charmer – the person everybody sees when they initially speak to the narcissist.
Well, I’ve got my shovel, and I am about to dig each fear up.
#1 It’s Expose Time!
Imagine the look of terror on the narcissist’s face when you expose them. It’ll be brief, sure. If you blink, you miss it.
Because soon enough – that fear will convert into rage – an emotion you’re probably much more familiar with when you think about the narcissist in your life.
Before that rage, that fear will be evident. The idea of you telling everybody the true character of the narcissist fills them with an impalpable dread.
It all starts to crumble.
They’ve nowhere to hide, and they cannot fool everybody anymore. At least some people will believe you, and that’s all you’d need to expose them fully.
So yes – it keeps the narcissist up at night to think you could do such a thing, knowing as soon you do so, their power diminishes.
#2 Control: Officially Lost
Get ready for the narcissist’s foundation to shake, rattle and roll.
Losing control is last on their list of ideals, but it’s a stark possibility when the victim turns to victor.
Seeing through the narcissism to a person who, underneath it all, is just a small-minded, afraid nobody, makes them more worried than you could imagine.
If that control goes – what do they have?!
#3 The Truth is Feared
What is the truth?
We all know, don’t we?
We’re dealing with a person, or several people if you’re really unlucky, who aren’t who they say they are.
There is a truth behind the lies, and behind that is the ongoing fear from the narcissist that their lies will be exposed.
Believe me when I say that the narcissist will do what it takes to silence their victims, but that doesn’t mean the truth will never prevail.
#4 The Ordinary
Ordinary means what to you? For me, it’s just an average day, with nothing standing out. No one big moment.
Narcissists hate not standing out. They always want to be the center of attention, and if they’re seen as normal, or ordinary, that will be the biggest threat – and fear – to their grandiose personality.
#5 Being Alone
Imagine having nobody to manipulate. When they need to suck the life out of another – there’s not a soul available.
Narcissists need people around not just to do this with, but also, those people are needed to influence.
The absence of others is the absence of validation and supply, and without a push from others for attention, the narcissist won’t fully know how to function.
They fear being alone for that very reason.
#6 Bye Bye, Attention
Invisibility is the true enemy of the narcissist. They need to be the honey, while the bees buzz around them constantly.
Without that noise, there is silence.
And in silence, there will be zero attention.
#7 Others… Happy… Really?
No single soul on the planet has the right to be happy (according to the narcissist). If you’re so happy, what could you possibly be so happy about?
How dare you!
Your smile is enough to have it wiped right off your face, and the narcissist is going to love doing so.
Passing judgment. Criticizing you. Bringing you down. Triggering you. Disappointing you. Giving you the silent treatment and yelling at you. Whatever it takes. Why?
Simple! They fear that your happiness will create this brand new version of you that will tolerate the narcissist just that little bit less.
#8 How Victims Self-Love
Listen, if you’re loving yourself, then you are loving the narcissist less. It’s great for you – and that’s exactly why it isn’t good for them.
The fear that comes from you loving yourself is that you will decide you’re too good for them – and leave.
#9 Financial Independence
You’ve got your money sorted, you earn a large buck or two, and there’s nothing they can do about it.
Seeing you take care of your finances so well, there’s little to no chance of them taking it all away from you – leaving you dependent on them.
Big fear!
#10 “So What?”
Ah, so you’re indifferent, are you?
That’s a big ache in the gut for the narcissist, who thrives on your reactions. If you don’t have any ones to give, consider yourself immune to the narcissist…
…New narcissist fear unlocked!
#11 Brave Enough To Be Accountable
Accountability is a huge fear of the narcissist, who usually ensures that what they’re doing will never be found out.
They don’t want to own up to any wrongdoing – so you can safely tick this as a huge fear of theirs.
#12 Losing to Legality
If you want to really send shivers down the narcissist’s spine – threaten them with legal action.
It’s the epitome of doing wrong for all to see as well – which only adds to their nightmare!
#13 New Victims: Gone
Just when they thought they had a good victim in you – you up and leave.
Their plans turn to dust, and they become vulnerable all over again, with no supply!
#14 Strong? Good!
Your strength kills narcissists. It acts as such a strong repellent that you would be hard pushed to see any narcissist stick around.
They’re scared of you! What narcissist wants to admit that they’re scared of somebody?!
#15 Being Alone
You can forgive babies for not wanting to be alone – but grown adults? This isn’t about normal loneliness that can really affect people – this is the fear of having no life to suck out of anybody.
#16 Mirror Mirror On The Wall
Don’t look into it if you’re a narcissist, because we all know – including you – that you are not the fairest of them all!
The biggest fear of a narcissist is doing so, and seeing that ugliness stare back at them.
#17 “No Thanks, Bye”
Rejection.
Ouch.
A narcissist experienced enough of this as a child, and it is a huge trigger for them; a reminder that they aren’t good enough for somebody.
#18 Criticism
What do you mean they aren’t perfect?
You cannot tell a narcissist that they have faults! That’s their job to make you feel shitty – not the other way around!
#19 Partners In The Know
Knowing who the narcissist really is means the power shifts from them, to you.
What does that mean for you? Well, you’re likely to be a person who wants to do bad with their power, but it does mean you no longer get played by them.
They fear this – they fear you having an education in narcissism. You have the power to expose and all them out.
A powerless narcissist is not a happy narcissist.
#20 Getting Over: Moving On
If you’ve gotten over a narcissist and moved on – you’ve done what they thought you’d never do.
Always expecting you to be around to use and abuse, you’ve finally made your way out of it.
While that’s a moment for real pride, it’s a moment of fear for them.
What do they do now?
8 Silly Mistakes Narcissists Make
Believe it or not, narcissists make mistakes every single day.
Just when you thought you believed the perfect image they portrayed, you’re starting to see through the cracks.
Oh, what fun that is!
Now, to see through those cracks, all you need is a little insight into what really happens when narcissists create huge errors for all to see.
And believe me, they can get very silly!
