If there is one injustice in this world, it’s that narcissist’s get away with so much.
On top of all the crap they get away with, it’s their victims who suffer the most.
That’s why I’m here; to show you what the top 11 shocking things narcissists get away with…
…And to prove to you that you can overcome their abuse with a sprinkle of knowledge and a healthy dose of confidence and self-belief.
I’m ready to fight the fight – who’s with me?
#1 Causing drama
Drama is the middle name of all narcissists, and as much as they will try to convince you otherwise, they love watching drama unfold.
Note how I said watch, because yes, they love it, but they never want to be associated with it.
For them, drama is a big no, and they will avoid being tangled up in the center of any argument or conflict as much as possible.
Yes, even if that means throwing you in the firing line instead!
Drama is caused by narcissists in how they treat you, and how they treat others.
Blowing up over dinner cooked the wrong way, to giving you the silent treatment because you signed up to a yoga class without running it by them.
You didn’t fill the car up. Your dress is too revealing. They don’t like your friend.
They had a bad day. You look too happy. You’re succeeding in life. All of it is breeding grounds for drama, and yes, sometimes it’s just that they are bored and want to stir the pot.
As it stands, the drama is only satisfying for the narcissist when they can get away with it.
#2 Triangulating
Triangulating is a painful act narcissists put on their victims that can cause a huge falling out of two people who were once very close.
It can happen to friends or family, and is always controlled and arranged by the narcissist.
Slowly yet sneakily, they will plant seeds in one person about the other, whether it be through sly comment or suggestion.
In turn, it will create fallouts that needn’t even exist, but do because the relationship was once seen as a threat by the narcissist.
They think, “This won’t do. There seems to be a strong alliance here.” And just like that, the two of you become a thing of the past, and you can’t figure out why.
Once again, the narcissist gets away with it.
#3 Making you feel unworthy of love
Narcissists rarely come out with the kinds of hurtful things that they can be held accountable for.
Rather, it’s far more covert, and on a day to day basis.
Making you feel unworthy of love can also be in how they act toward you.
For example, you are vying for a little affection, and they reject you, telling you how needy you are.
They move goalposts, so you never please them no matter how hard you try.
It’s also in the way you are always blamed and shamed, giving you the strong feeling that love simply wasn’t meant for you, and you’re told that you will never amount to anything without them.
This kind of behavior leaves you trapped; as if you can’t even meet anybody else who will fulfill your relationship needs and give you the affection you deserve.
It’s shocking how a narcissist will do this to you, and get away with it.
#4 Triggering you
You will never know that a narcissist is triggering you because they do it in such a way that is both subtle and small.
But trust me, victims are constantly triggered by narcissists, and it’s enough to make me mad.
From the way they point out that the top you’re wearing doesn’t fit you, to not calling when they promise they will if they’re going to be late from work.
Triggering you can work in a million different ways, and narcissists are so good at it that they simply get away with it, and you wouldn’t even know it was happening.
Knowledge is key.
#5 Shredding your reputation
It’s typical of narcissists to go around accusing you of this, talking about you like that, or even just a little complaint here and there that they can get away with because they’re ‘stressed.’
I have to work extra this week because she decided to cut back on her hours.
I don’t like how lazy he is.
He just doesn’t contribute like he should.
For the person hearing it, they assume there are problems, and will naturally believe the narcissist.
They are so good at playing the victim that this is a classic way for you to come off looking like the bad guy while they get all the sympathy and attention…
…Classic of the narcissist!
#6 How successful they are not
Narcissists are such good actors that they will make it seem as though they’re rich and successful, even if they only have $5 to their name.
This level of pretence makes it seem as though the narcissist has everything they want and more, but really they’re walking around begging anybody for a loan just to stay afloat.
#7 How much money they don’t have
Money talks, and if you are a narcissist, you can pretend to be making lots of money even if they aren’t.
You’ve probably seen it before, just how many of them try to set up a business that flops or fails entirely.
Rather than admit any of that to you or others, they keep pretending, like money is their middle name.
#8 Cheating
Narcissists cheat, and that will never change. They cheat because they want more than they’re realistically entitled to, and that spells trouble for anybody who falls for, and incorrectly learns to trust a narcissist.
You know what sucks the most?
How much narcissists get away with cheating! They are great at hiding secret lives and texts, and love to keep their options as open as possible.
#9 Lying
Lying rolls of the narcissist’s tongue like hot butter.
I won’t be long.
I will call you if I need to work late.
I don’t know where that money went.
The world of lying is the narcissist’s oyster, and they forever get away with it with no apology or conscience.
#10 Talking badly about others
If there’s one kind of person you can rely on to talk badly about other people, it’s the narcissist.
Have you seen what they’re wearing?They think they’re the best because they got that promotion.
Look at the size of their house.
How on earth have they managed to get that?
They’re pinned as negative people or just ‘having a moan.’
The truth is, they’re toxic, and they spread it to the point where you start to feel negatively about yourself, too.
#11 Copying work ideas
Narcissists at work don’t get talked about enough, but they are famous for copying people at work, from ideas to attitudes.
They want to constantly be ahead, and be better than everybody else.
You will see them get away with this kind of thing because they’re too busy pretending to be focused on what they want to achieve, rather than their actual behaviors.
People just assume they’re the kinds of people who want to get ahead.
You have been warned!
