It’s almost Thanksgiving! What have you got to be thankful for this year?
Did you get a new job? Has your health taken a turn for the better? Did you manage to get that promotion at work?
I know you will be waiting and willing the season to roll around so you can express your gratitude with family and friends, but there is a dark cloud on the horizon.
Storm Narcissist.
Batten down the hatches, because they hate Thanksgiving. Here are 11 reasons why.
#1 They hate happiness
Did somebody say it was a time for everybody to come together and feel the love in the room for the day?
Did somebody say turkey and football?
Did somebody say Macy’s Thanksgiving Parade?
Well, if they did, you’d better not inform the narcissist, because even those three amazing traditions won’t bring a smile to their face.
If it is sold with an ounce of happiness, you can forget the narcissist’s involvement.
#2 They hate programmed joy
What makes the outpouring of joy even worse is knowing that Thanksgiving rolls around every year, and there is an extreme amount of pressure to be happy for it.
I know that can be tricky for a lot of people, but those who try to make the best of it, do.
The narcissists of the world don’t even want to try. They don’t want to be told when to be happy or when to celebrate life and give thanks.
It’s a dread for them that they disguise and plant in you instead.
#3 They don’t know how to be authentically thankful
When you sit down to that huge pile of food on the table, and you’re passing around the honey-glazed carrots, you all get that magical chance to tell the rest of your family or friends what you were most thankful for this year.
And usually it’s nice, right? You share stories, you smile wistfully, and you feel happy that you get to make these memories.
Narcissists can’t do it, they really can’t. Some might try so hard to be thankful, but it’s like they’ve got a filter over them that leaves them unable to really show that authenticity when it matters the most.
#4 They find a way to make it political
Well, I mean of course we are thankful. If it weren’t for the British coming over and trying to claim our great land, we wouldn’t be sitting here.
It’s a shame we can’t be more territorial now.
Can you imagine the leaders of the world sitting down and sharing a great meal like this?
Suddenly, eyes roll. Politics just got invited to the party, and nobody else but the narcissist wants them there.
Oh joy…
#5 They have to stop working to spend time with family
You know, you’re lucky I’m here. Work wanted me so badly this weekend.
I finally got my dream contract, but I had to put it on hold to be here.
Um… thanks, I think?!
Aren’t you just so lucky that the narcissist dropped all their important plans just to be able to come and sit with you to eat Thanksgiving dinner?
I bet you are so thrilled that their plans worked out the way they did.
Somehow, I don’t think that’s what you will be thankful for this year…
#6 They wish they got as much attention
No person is bigger than a Holiday, but try telling that to a narcissist. They will spend their lives trying to be bigger than anything, which is why they find Holidays such as Thanksgiving so repulsive.
I can’t stand this time of year.
I don’t even know what I’m supposed to be thankful for.
It’s just an opportunity for people to eat too much and pretend to be happy.
Speak for yourself, narcissist!
Most of us love the holidays, and getting together with those we love. What a chance to show our gratitude in real time, and to celebrate love and what we have placed on our plates at the table.
Sorry that it isn’t about you.
(Not sorry).
#7 Thanksgiving bores them
What a boring time of the year for a person like the narcissist, who hates to sit around and be positive.
Even when they try hard to look happy and be thankful, they can’t do it for long because it’s so against their usual character and persona.
And so they just say it’s boring, because that’s better for them than having to admit they genuinely find being happy a challenge.
#8 They will say how ‘pathetic’ it is
What’s pathetic about spending time carving a turkey, eating it, laughing and joking with others?
Oh yeah, the part where narcissists don’t like to let their guard down and show the world their vulnerable, human side (that and they don’t have a human side to show).
Like before, they won’t admit to that, and instead will find another approach, such as how ‘boring’ it all is, acting as if the entire Holiday is beneath them.
#9 They genuinely don’t feel they have anything to be thankful for
What is giving thanks?
For what?
Who am I supposed to thank?
I earned this year, it had nothing to do with any other energy force.
I should be thanking myself.
You honestly couldn’t make it up. The narcissist will feel so confused when asked what they are most thankful of this year.
Why should it be thanked? According to them ,they should be thanking themselves for all their hard work.
And the best part is how baffled they will be when you say, “That’s not how it works.”
#10 They will moan about all the food
Who is honestly eating all of this food?
Why do we need to cook so much?
Do we need four different kinds of pie?
Who are we feeding; the entire US Army?
What a waste of money all this is.
Why do you do all of this for people who don’t appreciate your efforts?
The questions will come thick and fast, and you will be wanting to explode as you’re also trying to do five different things in the kitchen on the day to prepare.
I mean, they could shut up and help you, but that would be what normal people do, and narcissists are anything but.
#11 They may have to entertain others
That’s right. Put on the mask, put away your toxicity for the day, and pretend to like everybody to the point where you are pleased they’re there with you on this special turkey day.
What more could a narcissist hate than having to act like they like everybody, and being forced to be happy that they have a house full of people they would otherwise be gossiping about or avoiding at all costs?
You hear it all right up until the first person rings the doorbell.
That’s when the narcissist will open the door and put that smile of charm firmly upon their face.
And none of your guests will be any the wiser, after all, it’s the narcissist’s main job to hide the truth from everybody but you.
