They’re sleeping in your bed, taking up your space, and disturbing your presence. Narcissists just know how to be around you while at the same time planning their escape.

They want to break up with you, but you’re blissfully unaware of the games they’re playing.

That is, until now. If you want to keep a step ahead of the game, you’ve got to know what they’re doing.

These 11 things are crucial tactics to look out for, so let’s get into it.

The Nerve!

There is never any peace all the while a narcissist is sleeping in your bed. I know you want there to be, but don’t count on any rest while they’re laid up next to you.

I can only describe the feeling as being totally disconnected from who you are that you no longer feel that sense of safety and calm.

The worst part is that victims never connect it to being closed up with a narcissist until they’re too far gone in terms of emotional turmoil. 

When they want to break up with you, they will work out a way to do that alongside keeping you seet and laying down to sleep next to you every single night.

You’ll never fully know what’s going on in their mind, but that’s how they like it. 

#1 Affection? Withheld!

I don’t know about you, but I love that feeling of going to bed together, laying down and just staring at the ceiling.

A little kiss or hug, but at the very least, the mutual acknowledgement that you’re there together, and enjoying that moment positively. 

Don’t count on it with any narcissist, and I truly mean that. To them, affection means sex or nothing.

If they want to break up with you, they will even withhold that – the one thing you thought you had that meant you could connect for at least a brief period of time in the day. 

It feels cold, doesn’t it? When affection gets thrown out of the window, you have to ask yourself what exactly is good about what’s left over?

There’s nothing, and nothing will make up for that fact. You’ll sit there and wonder what you’ve done wrong (yet again), and they will think the distance they’re creating is the preface to the story of your demise. 

#2 Overnight Vanishing Acts

Where are they? Do they know what time it is? Why are they so late? Why are they not answering their phone? Why did they promise this wouldn’t keep happening? 

I’ll tell you why. It’s because they’ve already started on their new life, and they’re fully establishing that before they leave the one they have currently with you. If they can do that, they will transition from present to future with ease. 

The vanishing act of the narcissist is drawn to provide you with that gut feeling of what’s coming.

You can sense they’ve pulled away, and you know that no matter what you try to say or do to convince them otherwise, their mind is firmly made up. 

But wait … they finally do arrive home and creep into your bed like nothing happened – and that is what gets to you the most. Why can’t they just be honest with you?

Oh, wait. We’re talking about narcissists, here. They don’t know the meaning of the word. 

#3 Guarding Phone Late Night

What’s unfolding on the phone, then? Oh, you don’t want to tell us? There’s a shock. I bet you’re already lining up not one, but two new interests to replace me, right?

I hear and feel those words, or even thoughts, that victims have to endure on the lead up to a break up. 

It’s like they have started to create an entirely new life without you, which let’s be real, is the literal only way they’re going to leave you.

No narcissist leaves their victim with nothing to go to, so that phone will be locked to their side, and guarded with everything they have. 

#4 Apartment Hunting in Secret

You’ll never know all the property apps they have on their phone, but that’s what they’re doing when you’re not looking.

It’s important for them to know what they can afford, and where they can go when they leave you. Without it, they have no clue.

Isn’t it sad that while you’re laying there oblivious to what they’re doing, you’re happy and feeling promising about the relationship that you have together?

#5 Finances Suddenly Split

If they earn more than you, narcissists are going to want to protect what they have so that you no longer have access to it.

After all, being alone will mean they need every cent they earn. No longer do you need to be getting your hands on it. 

It’s a heavy thing when narcissists assert their finances, maybe even setting up a secret account that they pay into using your joint account. All I am saying is – keep a lookout. 

#6  Blame Stories Planted and Watered

Suddenly everything is your fault, and the narcissist isn’t stopping at just telling you, they tell others, too!

Little crop dusted nuggets of information that is quite frankly incorrect will be what they need to help matters be taken into their own hands. 

Where there’s blame, there’s your name attached to it. The worst thing is knowing that very person is then coming to bed and sleeping with you every night. 

#7 New Supply Getting Love-Bombed

Gotta set the next person up before you become yesterday’s news, right? 

That’s what they do. Rather than go it alone and, dare I say, reflect on their behavior, they’re getting ready to do the exact same thing all over again to somebody else. 

You have no idea because you assume everything’s fine. They’re laying down next to you and telling you goodnight.

This is the very thing that rocks the safe feeling toxic characters palace on another, when in fact it’s nothing but a lie. 

#8 Items Getting Slowly Packed Away

You’ll notice everything becoming clearer and clearer, and you’ll think, “Wow, the palace looks really tidy.”

In reality, they are packing their lives up and getting ready to leave you with an empty house as well as an empty heart. 

They don’t want to run the risk of precious items being left behind, or held back by you (which is something they’d do), so they keep a step ahead with this cruel tactic. 

#9 Faking Exhaustion

Too tired for this, too exhausted for that. They haven’t got the inclination to keep close to you. What’s the point in investing if they will be gone within the next few weeks?

They’re done! They’re done giving the tiny fraction they offer your relationship, and so they happily check out. 

Faking exhaustion is a poor excuse, but it’s one used to retain distance from the two of you. 

#10 Bedtime Equals Fight Time

What better time to start a fight than bedtime? The very moment you’re looking to rest and relax is the time they decide to drag up history between you.

They may try to blame you for something you had no idea you became a part of, but it’s intended to cause extra stress so that the inevitable break up causes no surprise at all.

This is a strong sign that you’re about to be dumped, so use this as a piece of advice!

#11 Recording You Melting Down

The one mlt down you have is going to be loaded into their phones ready to show people.

Honestly. They’re crazy. Have a look for yourself.

That’s all it takes for word to spread that you’re the dysregulated one. And trust me, the narcissist will never ever let it drop!

Keep an eye on the one you sleep next to. 

What Eventually Happens To Narcissists?

How Does it End For Narcissists?

Narcissists are like a really painful, long book that you have to read to understand. They don’t come with an index or bullet points. If they did, half their toxicity would fall through the cracks.

Sadly, people like you or I must experience them fully before we know each trick.

If I can offer you one fragment of light at the end of this treacherous tunnel – it’s this:

What happens to narcissists is an ending that you’re going to want to hang on for.

Let’s get into it.

“Look At Them!”

It’s enough to make you sick, isn’t it?

They live their merry little lives, seemingly getting away with anything and everything, making you want to scream from the rooftops.

Yes – it’s unfair. 

You wish they would just crumble and fall down, so you could finally see them suffer as much as they made you suffer. 

You want what happens to them to be detrimental to everything they pretend to be. 

Does The Tide Ever Turn?

What do you think? I mean, I want to be able to tell you that they do indeed turn honestly.

I also know and appreciate how it really doesn’t feel that way at the time. Constantly waiting for them to taste their own medicine can feel like waiting for rain in a drought.

But I am here to say that, yes, eventually, that rain will come.

And it will feel amazing.

The Beauty of Karma

I don’t like to meddle with Karma. Instead, I trust that everything will work exactly how it should.

Sometimes we win, sometimes we lose. The circle of life appreciates both good and bad happenings, and I am certain that includes narcissists and how they treat others. 

Karma doesn’t need you stepping in and taking over, so if you ever try to gain justice from a situation involving a narcissist, you’re likely to lose. 

Rather than that – it’s nothing but a waiting game. 

But a game you’ll definitely not want to quit.

How Does It End For Them?

No narcissist has a really happy ending. 

Ultimately, they go home alone every day, even if they go home to somebody. 

Narcissists always want to be part of something, yet never feel part of anything. It’s all empty. It’s all meaningless. They don’t have layers to them or an ounce of appreciation for their family or friends. 

That alone should tell you how it ends for every narcissist. 

They’re nothing but lonely people craving some kind of something. 

That is something they never end up getting.

#1 The Slipping of the Mask

You may have to wait a while, but the mask of a narcissist will always, I repeat, always slip off.

I know you think it can’t happen soon enough, and many of you will be screaming for it to be today—but it doesn’t work that way.

In fact, the more you try to rush the mask’s slipping, the crazier you will look.

If you want to allow their true selves to unfold naturally, you’ll have to wait for the day.

#2 Inability to Keep Up With Their Lies

We all know that lying can lead to serious trouble. Not only do you have to remember this, but you may also have to build potential lies around it so they make sense. 

Narcissists are great at lying, but they can do it so frequently that they fail to recall them all.

When you see a narcissist caught in a lie trap, they will fluff and fumble their way out as best they can with the charm they were born with. 

I want to remind you, though – the lies do catch up with them eventually.

Lies catch up with everybody. 

#3 One Small Mistake

This is all it takes, believe me. One tiny little slip up to get people talking is all it takes. 

I once knew a narcissist professionally who never took any accountability for his mistakes.

He used to cover up all his mistakes, blaming others or deleting evidence that he was responsible. 

One day, he was caught in the act. He had no defense, and even though he got really angry and tried to blame somebody else, it was clear he was to blame. 

His mistake was leaving his work pass in the room where he shredded all the information he wanted to discard. 

It’s all it took for the dominos to all fall down, and for the past to come together like a jigsaw puzzle. People saw what he was like, and nobody trusted him again. 

#4 Time Will Tell

You’re all familiar with the saying, ‘Time will heal.’ It helps if you are going through hard times or have lost somebody close to you. 

Time also heals your own heart as it allows narcissists to be revealed for who they really are.

As much as it will cause chaos, it will be healing to be validated by the entire event. 

It’s how so many victims breathe a sigh of relief and say, “Thank goodness everybody can now see them for who they truly are.”

Time will give you that. You just have to wait for it. 

#5 They Won’t Hesitate To Move!

Narcissists are renowned for moving. 

To start again, if things get too heated where they live,

Looking for work in a new city or town for a ‘fresh start.’

Usually, when they run everybody else down or play them all in their games, they run out of people.

They run out of supply.

So what do they do?

They run away.

It won’t end there, though. Moving anywhere new only restarts the whole process.

Narcissists, for that reason, never really admit to having somewhere to call home.

#6 New Friends

Of course, moving anywhere means starting up a new friendship circle. People will mingle and meet with everybody, as all new people are considered to be fresh pawns in their game. 

Friends end up being enemies before long…

In The End

You can wait and wait, but eventually, the narcissist will get their comeuppance.

In one way or another, whether being found out, having their mask slip, or having to keep bouncing from town to city to stay relevant or liked.

Please allow that to be the justice you need, because it is.

Narcissists will always be miserable. They hate the idea of being stuck or figured out, so they must constantly work out their plan to keep their true selves a secret.

Isn’t that the end you want to hear about?

I know it is for me.