If a narcissist isn’t being weird, then something is definitely wrong! You’ve got to open your eyes to the weirdness in order for it to be obvious though, and sometimes that’s easier said than done.
They will try and act as normally as possible, but as they do, notice what’s happening.
Understand the almost embarrassing air of arrogance around them.
I’ve got 10 weird things only narcissists do. It’s about to get very strange!
#1 Give compliments that are actually insults
If you think you’re having a moment with a narcissist, think again.
That compliment you’re receiving might feel pretty neat on the surface, but when you scratch it away, you’ll realize what an insult you’re actually getting.
The smile on your face fades, the warm, fuzzy feeling in your tummy turns to knots. The compliment ceases to exist.
You know, only narcissists really know how to do this. They perfected how to throw something negative at you while painting a smile on.
You actually did it for once!
Well, I’m surprised that you were able to do this considering it’s quite tricky.
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I never thought you had it in you.
For a moment, it feels good.
Yes, that’s me! I did it!
But wait, weren’t you capable then? Was it such a shock that you were able to complete something like this? Did they not deem you clever enough?
Nope!
#2 Treat inanimate objects like allies
Do we all need to sing it together?
Your phone isn’t your friend!
Your treadmill isn’t an extension of you!
Your car is not on your side!
So many narcissists do this with material objects, and it drives me absolutely crazy.
We know the truth, and that is that narcissists don’t feel like a fraction of the person they are without these objects by their side.
It’s sad – but it’s true. When you strip these objects away, you are left with a person who is desperate for attention and something to differentiate them from ‘normal people.’
#3 Have sudden amnesia during apologies
Narcissists conveniently never seem to remember what they’re apologising for. When you’re standing there, waiting for them to say and do the right thing, they’ve got nothing.
You want to remind them, but they should know what they did wrong, right?
They know! Don’t believe them when they say they don’t! In forgetting, they just want you to not feel important enough to have a proper apology.
And that aspect of this point always works.
#4 Act like they’re being filmed 24/7
Where are the cameras? Oh, that’s right. There aren’t any. Try telling the narcissist that as they swan around from place to place, moment to moment like some kind of movie star.
Every moment is an act to them, so automatically that makes them feel like they’re on a stage for the world to see. A laugh, a gesture, a flick of the hair. It’s all for the cameras.
But wait.
Where are the cameras?
Oh yeah…
They don’t exist!
#5 Create personal fan clubs… of one
Have you ever known a narcissist to be totally obsessed with one person all of a sudden?
A coworker, somebody new they met at the gym, or an old friend who has somehow come out of the woodworks are all likely targets for them, and that’s it.
Oh my God, they said something so funny today.
I love how they are just so free.
They’ve got such great taste in cars.
I’m heading out to lunch with them to talk business.
I admire them, I really do.
They’ve got it together.
Oh, good for them. And next week you probably won’t even be speaking to them. I’ll watch this space!
Obsessions like this happen because narcissists love making great first impressions.
If they can get somebody on their side, that person is far more likely to feel positive things about them, too, kind of like a win-win, battle of the egos kind of situation.
#6 Use tragedy like a business card
I will hand out my tragedies in life to anybody willing to accept them!
That should be one of the mottos of a narcissist. They want the world to know the times they fell on that were extra difficult in the hope of gaining sympathy, time and attention.
Somebody needs to send them the memo that this isn’t the way to gain what you want from people, right?
I mean it’s okay in certain circumstances to share what’s going on in your life, but this is a consistent thing for narcissists, as it fits well into their victim narrative.
Handing out their deepest moments of pain is such an extreme way to get an audience, that’s it’s only something a narcissist could dream of doing.
#7 Stage ‘casual’ humblebrags
Oh really? It was nothing.
Honestly, anytime.
I am just humbled to be able to help.
Really? I know them so well, they owe me a favor.
When do these comments arise? Only after the narcissist has carefully staged the right kind of moment for the words to fall out of their mouths.
And they make it seem so casual, but if you’re anything like me, it’s just a moment in time where my eyes roll and I let out a helpless sigh.
It’s almost embarrassing to watch, yet very specific to the narcissistic character.
#8 Randomly imitate you (Then deny it)
What is with this? It’s like being around a grown up child, isn’t it? Narcissists imitate when they want to rub you up the wrong way (and mostly that’s for no reason at all!)
The aim of their pathetic game is to get a reaction out of you, and once they’ve done that, they will throw their hands up and deny they even did it in the first place.
Anything to put a block in your day. If a narcissist can, they will absolutely try.
#9 Treat basic empathy like an exotic skill
Oh wow, you listened to somebody who felt sad and now you think you’re Mother Theresa?
How noble and kind of you to give somebody the basic level of empathy and act as though you are better than literally everybody else on the planet.
It’s not an exotic skill to have empathy, it’s a fundamental humanistic trait to be able to listen and help others. That’s what makes the world go round.
Narcissists aren’t special because they reached out one time and made a song and dance about it.
#10 Claim ownership over shared experiences
You can’t possibly have an experience that the narcissist doesn’t want to tie and attach themselves to.
It had to be something to do with them, and they wanted all the glory for it.
In fact, it will be them who organized it, them who suggested it, them who paid for it, and them who convinced you to want to go, even though the whole thing was your idea!
And it’s not as if you want all the attention, but you would like a little recognition.
After all, you were there. You lived it, too. It shouldn’t all be about the narcissist but, as you know, these people will make it just about them!
