We all get to the point where we’ve had enough. The narcissist is heavily draining us, so what options are there for you to feel like you’ve still got some power left in yourself?
I’d say there are 10 options right here, in the form of things you can say to piss them off.
You’re sick of them acting like nothing and nobody else matters, so why not give them a hard time/
Enough is enough!
#1 “You’re not as special as you think you are”
When you want to verbally kick a narcissist, reminding them that they aren’t the special, huge, important person that they think they are.
And it’s a hard one, I mean, they will practice this belief every day in everything they say and do.
Acting as though the world is beneath them is how they get by, and even though there’s a definite reality of self-hatred lingering underneath it all, it will be what they also expect others to believe, too. Not only believe, but act out.
Believing they are special opens doors for being treated that way, but if you want to really take that power back into your own hands, you will tell them that they’re not all that.
It will piss them off, but so what?
#2 “I don’t have time to listen to you brag about yourself”
What a change in direction for the dynamics! For one, it’s you who doesn’t have time to listen to them!
That alone is guaranteed to annoy them, but it will also dent the narcissist, who just wants somebody to show off to, and usually that person is you.
Not any more!
You don’t have the time, and you aren’t at all interested.
Nothing else needs to be said, as this is a pretty big mic drop statement to make.
#3 “You need to be more considerate of other people’s feelings”
Well, we’ve known that for a quite a while, haven’t we?
Consideration isn’t the middle name of any narcissist, so constantly waiting for it will only leave you more disappointed than you were before.
As it stands, they only really care about you if there’s an audience. Behind closed doors, they couldn’t care one bit.
Say it like you mean it, and say it with confidence, because this phrase slightly calls for them to clapback. But you can handle it, right? You want to tell them who’s boss, so this is your chance!
#4 “Whether you realize it or not, your actions affect other people’s feelings”
A gentle reminder here never hurts, does it? Personally speaking, I wish everybody was aware that actions affect other people’s feelings, but we don’t live in an ideal world.
Instead, we have to prompt this idea when with a narcissist, and they will probably return your phrase with a surprised stare, as if they didn’t already know that.
They just don’t care, and will act how they want anyway. If what they say upsets you, then it’s even better for them. Getting to see you upset is like they’ve hit the jackpot!
It’s time you cared less about pissing them off, for that very reason alone.
#5 “Your constant need for attention is very exhausting”
Why should all your energy go onto their need to be the center of attention?
And this isn’t just like a one-off thing, this is life with a narcissist every single day. You give so much of yourself to ensuring their peace and entitlement.
You sacrifice a huge chunk of your wellbeing just to make sure they are living their best life, and even then, you still manage to make a ton of mistakes in their eyes.
It’s exhausting. Telling them will piss them off, but it’s about time you were honest.
#6 “Despite what you believe, you’re not the smartest person in the room”
Ouch! I feel like this phrase burns quite a bit on delivery, but that’s just the way the cookie crumbles sometimes, isn’t it?
Here, you’re acknowledging rather correctly that the narcissist believes they are all that and more, but the reality is, they’re not.
They just pretend to be because that’s how they want people to see them.
It never hurts to remind them of that, even if it does piss them off.
#7 “I won’t be manipulated by your games”
End scene! This is the perfect way to rile a narcissist, and also let them know that you’re no longer a person to be messed with.
You have come to claim your power back and you will not be dragged into their games any more.
When you say this to a narcissist, you’re letting them know that the dynamics have changed for good. There’s not a part of you willing to be led by their toxicity a moment more.
This level of assertiveness is needed as the first stepping stone to healing from any narcissist, and I’d say it goes a long way to show them you’re no longer their doormat.
They won’t know what to do first!
#8 “You’re driving people away with your self-centerdness”
Like they didn’t already know that, but hey, speaking up and offering it to them on a plate won’t hurt!
I think this phrase annoys narcissists so much because you’re speaking truths they already know deep down, yet will never admit to knowing.
The fact that you notice it and are confident enough to audibly put it out there will panic them somewhat, and cause them to feel annoyed that you’re onto them.
It’s the least they deserve!
#9 “Your behavior is toxic and damaging to the people around you”
What a way to spell out the obvious! And narcissists will hate this phrase as it will feel like they’re being told off.
You will make them feel small and pathetic, but don’t let the blame lay on you, here. This is all to do with the narcissist and their need to make everybody else feel so miserable.
You’re asking them to be reflective, and to see the damage they’re causing. They won’t, but it will be just enough to get under their skin and piss them off.
It’s about time somebody shone a light on these people, don’t you think?
#10 “You really need to work on being more empathetic and humble”
Asking a narcissist to work on anything will never be met with a positive response. That’s usually because they already think they’re perfect as it is, without any advice or help from you.
Approaching them like you ‘know it all’ will never end well, and they will feel pretty pissed that you’ve dared to even suggest they need to work on their already perfect persona.
What you’re doing here though, is saying that there are some real flaws to their character, huge ones.
You can even use this as a foundation to reel off several examples of why they lack what they lack just to rub salt in the wound.
I’m here for this last one, because it lets the narcissist know that there is work to be done if they are to really be the perfect person they say they are.
