Imagine a time narcissists were honest!
Imagine a time where narcissists would say what they really think and feel!
Yikes – could you imagine? The world would naturally carry on turning as normal but the narcissist’s world would implode!
Narcissists keep secrets and lie on purpose, they don’t just do it because they feel like it.
It’s important to know why they lie by highlighting the things they’d say if they were actually honest.
And that’s where I come in!
Are Narcissists Ever Honest?!
Hands up if you’ve ever been with a narcissistic person who is honest.
Hello?
Anybody…?
Didn’t think so.
That’s because they thrive on a bed of lies, while you just about survive.
Honesty Brings With it The Truth
No narcissist wants to reveal the truth, and that’s why they just cannot be honest.
The truth will have you up and leaving, and then what?
They have nobody to suck the life out of!
The 10 Things Narcissists Would Say If Only They Were Honest
1. “I Hate You!”
Look, as much as you might not want to admit it, the narcissist would love to tell you how much they hate you honestly.
They don’t like you for various reasons, but the pretense can be off the charts.
Convincing you they love you works hand in hand with the intermittent offerings of affection they provide.
When they revert to the discard or devaluation stages of the cycle of abuse, you await the next time you’re breadcrumbed back to the false state of loving security.
If they were being completely honest, they would tell you they hated you.
They don’t say it because they need you more than they’d ever care to admit.
2. “I Never Loved You”
You heard it a million times, and they would even get angry if you said you didn’t feel the love for them.
I try my best to show you that I love you and it’s never good enough for you!
I put myself out there for you, and you just throw it back in my face!
I took you to the city for a five star weekend and show, and you think I don’t love you?!
Narcissists think that showing love means throwing money at something or simply telling you they love you.
People can use all the words they want to, but unless it’s correlated with loving, respect, and loyalty, saying “I love you” means absolutely nothing.
If they had the opportunity to speak without a lie, they’d tell you that they never loved you. It was all an act to get something from you.
And yes, it hurts. It’s supposed to hurt.
3. “You Make Me Sickeningly Jealous”
Anything you have that they want, the narcissist is going to be green with envy about.
A better job than them?
You’re in better shape than them?
More confident?
Do you have a natural zest for life?
You’re confident?
More money?
An honest and compassionate charm about you?
All of these kinds of things will drive narcissists wild.
Do you know how long they have to work to get even a fraction of what I just wrote, or how much they have to pretend to gain even a tiny bit of respect from others?
Narcissists are forever jealous of people who are more successful in any aspect of their lives.
Instead of using a healthy and normal dose of envy to inspire them to head on a similar path, they feel it necessary to destroy your happiness.
Narcissists can water all over the sunniest of days, turning blue skies to grey. Their presence can sap the energy out of a room almost immediately.
If they were being honest with you, they’d admit this about them.
4. “I Don’t Like a Single Part of Myself”
I’d love to hear a narcissist be brutally honest about this part of themselves, because those of us who truly know them – know they can’t stand the person they are.
Hearing a narcissist say these things would mean they’re leaning into a very vulnerable side they’ve never shown anybody before.
This side of a narcissist will never be revealed because they’re too busy trying to pretend they’re perfect so you don’t suspect them.
They’re too busy denying reality – as it only acts as a problem they know they cannot fix.
5. “I’m Scared of Intimacy”
If you knew this about the narcissist, you’d know that all their rejections were not because of you.
You should know that already, but you won’t because they will make excuses, or blame you for trying to be too needy.
Eventually, you’ll convince yourself this is actually true and see a fault in your approach to them in your relationship.
Narcissists are scared of intimacy. They hate the thought of laying their heart down and risking it getting hurt.
Even though they love sex, they hate letting the guard around their heart drop.
6. “I’m Not Who You Think I Am”
Haha! I mean. I’m genuinely laughing as I’m writing this because I’m imagining a narcissist with their head bowed, admitting they’re a narcissist.
If they were to be honest, they’d say it.
But – they’re not!
7. “I’m Studying You To Manipulate You”
Watching you, breathing in your insecurities, asking you questions that lead to the divulgement of your secrets—it all revolves around studying you and knowing you better than you think you know yourself.
If you knew this from the start, you wouldn’t have to go through all those triggering and upsetting episodes that they put you through.
8. “I’m Here To Play Games and Mess You Up!”
Run!
Run quickly!
That’s what you’d do, right? You’d get out of there faster than you could say ‘red flag!’
Except, well, they don’t make it that easy for us. Instead, they stick around and dig deep into our insecurities.
Their honest reason for entering your life is far from loving you or wanting to value you forever. And while that hurts to realize, it hurts all the more because you get mad for falling for the games.
9. “Never Believe a Word I Say”
How many of you would that save if the narcissist was to just say, “Look, you know what? I will say mean things to you, but you shouldn’t believe them because they’re untrue. It just makes me feel better.”
10. “I Am Extremely Insecure”
They would drop the one phrase onto the floor afterward if they muttered. Narcissists are insecure, but you will never find a single one who will admit this.
Their insecurities are covered up by bravado and unkindness. That’s never going to change.
