I’m not kidding when I tell you that narcissists are master thieves. 

However, they won’t steal the usual things (at least not always!)

Instead, they reach into you and take parts of you that you didn’t permit them to have.

With a sprinkling of charm and manipulation, they will slowly take what matters most. It happens subtly, often without you noticing, and then you’re left drained, doubting yourself, and wondering how it got this far.

What exactly do they steal? I’m ready to show you!

Like a Thief in the Night!

It’s always unexpected with the narcissist, isn’t it? The way they covertly steal from you is how they take what’s yours with you even fully realizing the extent of their theft. 

From time to time, I do hear people say to me, “He/she literally took everything from me,” and I often think, yeah, you know what?

They don’t just stop at one thing. They aren’t interested in particulars; they want it all. 

I see the pain and heartache it causes when those people wake up to what’s been happening.

Why Take?

I know for a fact that narcissists have nothing. Even the ones with all the expensive cars and houses have nothing, because what I’m talking about isn’t material goods at all.

They take parts of you that you can’t see, feel, or touch but that you know are there. The reason they do this is so that they can’t see it on you anymore.

The smile you once had that lit up any room you walked in so effortlessly – they will wipe it from you. You shouldn’t shine so brightly.

The joy you feel when Christmas comes and you love nesting and putting the tree up – they will endeavor to ramp up the conflict. You shouldn’t be so happy. 

Whatever you have that they want, they will steal it.

10 Things Narcissists Steal From You

#1 Inner Peace

I’m jumping right in with this one! 

There’s no point in searching for inner peace when you spend a lot of time with a narcissist, because you aren’t going to get it. 

It’s not be what you want to hear, but in truth, they will steal it from you as soon as they can.

You have to understand that narcissists don’t like your peace. They don’t like that you can regulate your emotions, cope with the stress of life, and juggle all your responsibilities. 

And I’m sure you have tough days like most of us, right? But your ability to lock down your inner peace and know that ‘you’ve got this’ is not okay with them. 

So – unfortunately, yes – they will steal it from you because they want to see you as a ball of anxious, depressed mess. 

#2 Your Self Esteem

Just when you think you’ve got your self-esteem at a healthy level, it’s swiped from you.

You won’t even realize it’s been taken. It’ll just be that you wake up one day, and decide that you aren’t good enough for that job. You won’t wear that dress any more. You no longer believe you are good at your hobbies.

And that will be the day you understand that something was taken from you. Something you’d had all your life over time was pieced away from you until that final piece brought your world crashing down.

Your self-esteem rules everything you do. It’s like a mini cheerleader in your soul, and now it no longer exists…

…Thanks to the narcissist. 

#3 Who You Are

Identity is what makes us. It’s what forms every aspect of our lives. Without it, we don’t know who we are.

That can lead to making huge mistakes or decisions that don’t benefit us. We can fall into bad habits. Our values go right out the window. We don’t align with anything, because there’s nothing to work with. 

I’ll tell you what happens.

The narcissist steals parts of you that form your identity. They take how you think, and replace it with confusion.

They take how you love being creative making home crafts every Tuesday night, and replace it with their own favorite TV show.

They replace how you love baking with takeouts or pre-prepared meals. 

Everything you love and have grown in your own heart, is taken. 

#4 Energy Sappers!

Imagine a balloon filled up, but right before you tie it, you let out the sir, bit by bit until you’re left with a floppy, wrinkly old balloon that doesn’t look the same.

I can only liken this to the way the narcissist saps your energy, a little amount each day until you realize there’s nothing left.

You’re a shadow of who you used to be, and you no longer know yourself.

If you present with any kind of energy or joy, prepare to have it stolen from you by the narcissist. They don’t use it for themselves, but taking it brings them that joy. 

#5 Your Precious Time

Time is a real soul-killer, isn’t it? All the time you wasted trying to convince them to love you or keep to their word.

The years of hoping things would change, and it never did. The narcissist stole your time to keep you hooked and in line with their control. 

I can’t sugarcoat that.

#6 Any Hope You Have

That hope I mentioned is palpable. Victims really hope the relationship will last, bloom in some way, recover from the conflict, or simply be what they promised it would be. 

Hope is taken in the way they treat you, yet you’ll stick around because they say sorry and promise to change.

They never do.

#7 Your Privacy

If you want privacy, you can forget it!

The narcissist doesn’t care about what you want to keep sacred. Your phone is their phone. Your life is their life. They want to know everything you do, and every part of you so they can keep tabs on you.

It’s all part of their grand scheme to control you even more than they currently do.

#8 Your Independence

When you meet a narcissist, you may have lots going on in your own life.

Over time, they will take them from you. Your hobbies. You go to that book club every Tuesday. Your Sunday morning runs. The job you commute to.

Even as far as finances – the narcissist will create a dependent, clingy person so that you never leave. 

#9 Your Sense of Safety

All we want is to feel safe with the person we love and share a relationship with. There’s nothing about narcissists that makes us feel safe. Think about how uncertain you feel all the time in their company. 

What mood will they be in?

How will they react to this or that?

Are they cheating?

Nobody needs this. Your safety will be pulled from underneath your feet like a rug. 

#10 Those Around You

They will worm their way in if they want to be best friends with your brother. If they see your friends as close-knit, they will want to join you every night out. They will present the best version of themselves at all times, and eventually use them by: 

• Telling them secrets about you
• Offloading problems
• Telling them how needy or controlling you can be
• Speaking of intimate moments 

Nothing will be sacred anymore. 

What Eventually Happens To Narcissists?

How Does it End For Narcissists?

Narcissists are like a really painful, long book that you have to read to understand. They don’t come with an index or bullet points. If they did, half their toxicity would fall through the cracks.

Sadly, people like you or I must experience them fully before we know each trick.

If I can offer you one fragment of light at the end of this treacherous tunnel – it’s this:

What happens to narcissists is an ending that you’re going to want to hang on for.

Let’s get into it.

“Look At Them!”

It’s enough to make you sick, isn’t it?

They live their merry little lives, seemingly getting away with anything and everything, making you want to scream from the rooftops.

Yes – it’s unfair. 

You wish they would just crumble and fall down, so you could finally see them suffer as much as they made you suffer. 

You want what happens to them to be detrimental to everything they pretend to be. 

Does The Tide Ever Turn?

What do you think? I mean, I want to be able to tell you that they do indeed turn honestly.

I also know and appreciate how it really doesn’t feel that way at the time. Constantly waiting for them to taste their own medicine can feel like waiting for rain in a drought.

But I am here to say that, yes, eventually, that rain will come.

And it will feel amazing.

The Beauty of Karma

I don’t like to meddle with Karma. Instead, I trust that everything will work exactly how it should.

Sometimes we win, sometimes we lose. The circle of life appreciates both good and bad happenings, and I am certain that includes narcissists and how they treat others. 

Karma doesn’t need you stepping in and taking over, so if you ever try to gain justice from a situation involving a narcissist, you’re likely to lose. 

Rather than that – it’s nothing but a waiting game. 

But a game you’ll definitely not want to quit.

How Does It End For Them?

No narcissist has a really happy ending. 

Ultimately, they go home alone every day, even if they go home to somebody. 

Narcissists always want to be part of something, yet never feel part of anything. It’s all empty. It’s all meaningless. They don’t have layers to them or an ounce of appreciation for their family or friends. 

That alone should tell you how it ends for every narcissist. 

They’re nothing but lonely people craving some kind of something. 

That is something they never end up getting.

#1 The Slipping of the Mask

You may have to wait a while, but the mask of a narcissist will always, I repeat, always slip off.

I know you think it can’t happen soon enough, and many of you will be screaming for it to be today—but it doesn’t work that way.

In fact, the more you try to rush the mask’s slipping, the crazier you will look.

If you want to allow their true selves to unfold naturally, you’ll have to wait for the day.

#2 Inability to Keep Up With Their Lies

We all know that lying can lead to serious trouble. Not only do you have to remember this, but you may also have to build potential lies around it so they make sense. 

Narcissists are great at lying, but they can do it so frequently that they fail to recall them all.

When you see a narcissist caught in a lie trap, they will fluff and fumble their way out as best they can with the charm they were born with. 

I want to remind you, though – the lies do catch up with them eventually.

Lies catch up with everybody. 

#3 One Small Mistake

This is all it takes, believe me. One tiny little slip up to get people talking is all it takes. 

I once knew a narcissist professionally who never took any accountability for his mistakes.

He used to cover up all his mistakes, blaming others or deleting evidence that he was responsible. 

One day, he was caught in the act. He had no defense, and even though he got really angry and tried to blame somebody else, it was clear he was to blame. 

His mistake was leaving his work pass in the room where he shredded all the information he wanted to discard. 

It’s all it took for the dominos to all fall down, and for the past to come together like a jigsaw puzzle. People saw what he was like, and nobody trusted him again. 

#4 Time Will Tell

You’re all familiar with the saying, ‘Time will heal.’ It helps if you are going through hard times or have lost somebody close to you. 

Time also heals your own heart as it allows narcissists to be revealed for who they really are.

As much as it will cause chaos, it will be healing to be validated by the entire event. 

It’s how so many victims breathe a sigh of relief and say, “Thank goodness everybody can now see them for who they truly are.”

Time will give you that. You just have to wait for it. 

#5 They Won’t Hesitate To Move!

Narcissists are renowned for moving. 

To start again, if things get too heated where they live,

Looking for work in a new city or town for a ‘fresh start.’

Usually, when they run everybody else down or play them all in their games, they run out of people.

They run out of supply.

So what do they do?

They run away.

It won’t end there, though. Moving anywhere new only restarts the whole process.

Narcissists, for that reason, never really admit to having somewhere to call home.

#6 New Friends

Of course, moving anywhere means starting up a new friendship circle. People will mingle and meet with everybody, as all new people are considered to be fresh pawns in their game. 

Friends end up being enemies before long…

In The End

You can wait and wait, but eventually, the narcissist will get their comeuppance.

In one way or another, whether being found out, having their mask slip, or having to keep bouncing from town to city to stay relevant or liked.

Please allow that to be the justice you need, because it is.

Narcissists will always be miserable. They hate being stuck or figured out, so they must constantly work out their plan to keep their true selves a secret.

Isn’t that the end you want to hear about?

I know it is for me.