Social media is a narcissist’s dream. I’m not kidding. If you know what to look for, you can spot them a hundred miles away.
The funniest part of any new, attuned gift like this, is as soon as you know how to do it, you’ve got that gift for life.
Sure, any narcissist can expose their true identity online. They do it in subtle, as well as not-so-subtle ways.
Let’s unpeel those layers together, and find out exactly what things they do to expose the toxic mess they really are.
The “Social” in Social Media
Narcissists love anything that gets them seen and heard for the right reasons.
Sure, they’re the first to back off when the shit hits the fan. After all, they don’t want to be caught up in drama that may result in fingers being pointed at them.
If you want to see a narcissist expose their true character online, you’re going to be in for a treat. I’ve got exactly what you need to keep your eyes open for.
It’s Fun, Right?!
Social media was initially designed to be a fun way to stay connected. If you use it properly – it still is. People forget this – including narcissists.
It’s seen as a platform to show off, stalk, impress, compare, troll and excessively scroll through.
It keeps narcissists busy, and believe me when I say, they love to keep busy.
In reality, they rip all the fun out of social media.
Watch Out! Narcissist Detector Activated
Let’s take a look at all the things narcissists do on social media that expose them for who they really are.
#1 The Constant “Me” Posts
I want everybody to grab their vomit buckets – because this is going to get a little sickly.
“Me” posts are horrendous when they are so constant and over the top.
Please don’t mistake it; people are entitled to post whatever they want on social media, and sometimes we all like to share good news or a nice picture of ourselves.
I don’t mean this.
I mean the daily if not MORE posts that narcissists are obsessed with churning out.
Look what I did.
See what I achieved.
Look at me getting fit over Christmas and the New Year while you all sit at home and eat your body weight in chocolate.
Look where I went for my vacation.
Look what I’m doing on my day off.
How good is my hair today?
I fancy buying an expensive new thing I want to show you all.
It’s endless – and there’s no limit to what they will share just to look the best.
It’s a sure way to spot a narcissist, that’s for sure.
#2 Never Liking Your Content
The better your content, the less likely the narcissist is to like it. Over time, they create a subconscious programming into the minds of their victims.
They make you want their approval. You want to see that they found it funny, or sweet, or impressive. Do you want to know why?
Because narcissists make you work hard for just a crumb of love or affection.
It’s a move that you don’t even realize exists until you find yourself trying to please them day after day.
I have news for you: Narcissists can give you the silent treatment online, too. And they will – at every single opportunity.
#3 Passive-Aggressive Memes or Posts
Only you will notice the passive-aggressiveness of certain posts. If narcissists are really intent on getting to you, they will target you this way online.
I see it all the time.
Reposts about political views. Psychological or philosophical quotes that maybe you have both shared or spoken about in the past. Anything that you take offence to, was meant that way.
I’ll give you a short example, and it’s entirely fictional.
Claire was a hairdresser, and her sister-in-law, Abbie, had gorgeous, long hair. Claire constantly tried to get Abbie a short, chic cut and style, but Abbie refused, saying she loved her long hair.
Claire always posted memes about people over 40 with long hair looking old and haggard.
These posts didn’t mean anything to her other followers, but Abbie knew they were aimed at her and decided to keep hers long.
In truth, Claire was a narcissist who was unable to grow her hair long because it was so damaged.
She was trying to persuade Abbie to lop hers off so people would stop complimenting it.
Abbie declined – and Claire made her feel ugly for it.
Do you see how evil narcissists can be?!
#4 “I’ll DM You”
Oh, here we go.
Let’s create an attention-seeking post, then when people ask if I’m okay, I won’t disclose anything to give people the choice to either guess, or DM.
No thanks.
I’m sure it’s not that interesting, and I won’t give you the satisfaction.
#5 Constantly Posting On Your Feed
Hey, remember me?
I haven’t posted today!
I just want to remind you that I am here!
I’m in your life – coo wee!
Look at me and what I am posting!
Enough.
We get it.
You’re a narcissist who can’t go a single day without reminding us you’re here.
#6 Diet – Exercise – Achievements
How I look matters, and how I matter, matters to me.
Narcissists love to flaunt and brag. If they’re on a journey, you can bet they’re taking all their followers on it, too.
Sure, it’s nice to see people improving their health or wellbeing. But do we need 24 pictures a day?
Do we need to see you hit the gym?
Do we need the weights video?
No. Not one single part of us, actually.
#7 “Look Where I Am!”
Vacation photos are nice to share. It’s fun, and they’re locked into your profile as an official memory. Any family who can’t be there can feel a part of your adventure.
We don’t need to see all your vacation snaps. You don’t need to show off where you are, what shopping you got, or how much money you spent on X Y or Z.
It’s only the very insecure or egotistical who assume we care beyond the initial surface.
#8 Selfies / Filters / Flawlessness
Whatever happened to those good, old fashioned photos of the past? Fun, in-the-moment snaps where we all looked how we looked?
Narcissists have to add filters and everything else to it, in order to look perfect.
If they look perfect, people will think they are perfect.
It’s only those who have an inclination as to what narcissism really means, where this will not be overlooked as innocent.
#9 Over Usage of Apps
How many apps can I have? How much social media should I be a part of? I need all the logins, so I can talk and flirt and chat and mindlessly post to as many people as I can.
The more, the merrier!
Sure thing, narcissist…
#10 How Many Friends / Followers?!
This is highly important to all narcissists. They need to be able to have a long list of followers or friends, even if they’ve never met them in person.
Any private social media profiles emotionally healthy people have will just include those they maybe went to college with, family, friends, neighbors etc.
Not the narcissist. They need contacts. Connections.
It all has to matter for the ego!
