The universe is wiser than all of us combined, which is why signs from it should mean we stand up and pay attention to what’s really going on.

And if we are hesitant about a person  or a situation? Well you can bet your bottom dollar the universe is going to show you the right way…

… Just like showing you a narcissist live in action.

If you’re dealing with a narcissist, there are 10 signs from the universe you can look out for – so it’s time to wise up and match the energy that’s around you!

Unable to Ignore

Signs are out there for us every day to pick up and notice.

When you are dealing with a narcissist, it feels as though there’s no way of escaping the toxic way they can crush and demean you.

The universe is bigger than all of that, and you will soon enough be unable to ignore the signs it sends you to let you know there is a narcissist in your life intent on making your life unpleasant. 

10 Signs From The Universe You Are Dealing With a Narcissist

#1 The Trust Has Gone

If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, there will be one day where you’ll wake up and realize that there is no trust. 

Discovering the remains of what once felt like the perfect love can be devastating.

You see them for who they really are, and you know that no matter how much you will or pray for that trust to return – it won’t. 

You have to understand that love isn’t about overlooking every toxic aspect of your union just to stay with that person.

Love is about finding somebody who respects you, and who would never dream of hurting you. 

Trust is so hard to earn, and so easy to break, but what it does for you – the victim – stays with you forever.

You will take that lack of trust into whatever future relationships you have, and you will always either expect or experience the same.

The universe can call you to pay attention to any trust issues like it was waving the largest red flag imaginable. 

#2 You Feel in a State of Constant Peril

Nothing feels settled anymore, does it?

I know this is a sign, because I hear of it being spoken so frequently by clients.

I just don’t seem to be able to feel safe or happy.

I feel like everything that I don’t want to happen is happening.

Of course, you do. That’s because your emotions are being bounced around like a rubber ball.

Your heart has been placed in a ping-pong machine, and you are watching it being pushed and pulled around when all you want to do is feel peace. 

The stillness leaves your relationship, making you want to curl up and cry. 

What will go wrong today? 

How can I fix yesterday’s conflict?

None of this is yours to fix, because none of it was created by you. 

#3 A Feeling You Cannot Shake

Intuition is something we seldom tap into these days. We’re too busy being stimulated by the tangible:

Phones.

Sounds.

Smells.

Tastes.

Lights.

Distraction!

What can sometimes lack is the time to turn inward. 

What’s really going on? What’s causing that feeling of unsettlement? What’s creating this pit of heaviness in your gut?

It’s a feeling that you just can’t shake, but it’s being delivered to you by the universe in hundreds of tiny ways every single day. 

It comes from having to deal with a narcissist, but it stems from all the little excuses you make for that person. Perhaps you’ve been programmed to do so, or maybe you are hoping someday it’ll change.

I will make you a promise now that it will never change.

#4 Peace? What Peace?

There is no peace when it comes to narcissists, and you will feel this the more time you spend with them. 

When you’re feeling like you want to explode, and that your days just get no rest from drama and negativity,

the universe is going to send you opportunities to receive how you’re feeling in the hope you can make a change and do something about it. 

#5 Isolated

Isolation can sometimes give you room to think and assess what’s going on in your life.

Why does there seem to be barely any people around you? When was the last time you caught up with your friends? Do you even have any friends?

Isolation is common, and narcissists will look for any chance to make you feel more and more alone.

If you’re sensing the feeling of being cut off, you need to look outside yourself, and toward the narcissist for answers. They’re the ones who are causing it, not you. 

#6 You’ve Lost Yourself

All victims of narcissistic abuse are taken to a place they don’t recognize or know themselves. The narcissist wants them to stay there, so they rot and wither into a hollow shell of who they used to be. 

To you, the victim, it feels like parts of you are slipping away more and more slowly, and as time goes on, you understand yourself less and less. 

The universe is great at pointing you toward who you were supposed to be; where your purpose really lies.

All the while toxic people and toxic situations lead you away, you will feel that innate pull back to your true self. 

#7 You Live in a Tangled Web of Deceit

It’s all around you, and you just find yourself stuck in it, like a fly in a real web. 

You live among lies that are told by the narcissist, and believed by others. You’re part of the problem, but you’re not the cause. No person wants this, and no person deserves it either.

Being lied to, or about, is how you begin to feel that worthlessness creeping in…

…You know it’s not right.

#8 Do You Feel The Need to Heal?

Victims can wake up and feel a real need to heal. They want to grow and leave the situation they’re in.

When you see a narcissist for who they are, you can’t unsee them – not ever. 

Do you understand how significant that is?

The universe is constantly giving you signs to heal. 

#9 Liberation is a Step Away

Liberation is always just out of your reach, until it becomes something you can grab with both hands. 

When the universe sends you this kind of message, it’s usually because the narcissist has pushed you to your limits. You can finally see all of them without them, and it doesn’t look scary anymore.

Instead, it looks incredible. 

#10 Relationships Feel Heavy

All relationships have their issues, but none should always feel heavy and negative.

If they do, this is a sign from the universe that you are not living in a way that makes you happy and need to do something about it. 

Only when you ignore signs do they become bigger than you can handle. Over time, it’s the cause of people’s mental and physical health to really take a nosedive.

Don’t let this be you!

How To Outsmart The Narcissist?

Outsmarting a narcissist might seem like something you would never be able to do.

Think of all those times that toxic person has made you feel small, or even nothing. The idea of outsmarting them won’t come naturally to you, right?

Wrong!

You can absolutely outsmart a narcissist. They won’t see it coming, they won’t see you coming – and it will be a shock to their narcissistic system!

Finding ways to outsmart a narcissist can be fun, and it will put you right back in control of your life.

So, let’s see a show of hands to see who’s with me?

Narcissists: The Truth Behind the Mask

Narcissists! 

You’ve likely encountered them at some point in your life, right? That’s why you’re here!

Narcissists walk into a room and act like they own it, even if they’ve just walked into your kitchen. It’s incredibly frustrating.  

Masters at creating a toxic air of confidence and superiority, narcissists hide behind their mask. Behind it all? Insecurity and neediness!

You know it well, I’m certain!

Narcissists can be charming and persuasive when they want to be. 

They’re also incredibly convincing at it. 

But don’t be fooled. 

Their charm is a well-rehearsed act designed to get what they want, whether from you or from others.

They thrive on control and manipulation, and will do what it takes to continue this weird game of human chess they are experts at. 

Understanding the core of a narcissist is crucial for all of us – especially you. 

Beneath all charm and smiles, they are often fragile. They fear their true selves being exposed – and they do all they can so that doesn’t happen. 

This fragility makes them dangerous, but it also makes it possible to outsmart them. 

Once you know what exactly is lurking behind the mask, you’ll be much better equipped to deal with their toxic tactics.

They Think They’re So Clever!

Narcissists believe they are the smartest person in the world, and nobody else compares even marginally. 

They convince themselves of this, and do their best to convince others too.

They use their quote-on-quote “intelligence” to dominate conversations and situations, which only makes others feel inferior. Is this a familiar story to you? 

It is to so many people, sadly.

The narcissist has a deep sense of superiority, which acts as a double-edged sword. 

Yes, it fuels their confidence and bravado. But also, it makes them vulnerable to being outsmarted. If you think about it, anybody can outsmart them, and it certainly doesn’t take much at all. 

Their arrogance blinds them to their own weaknesses, which can backfire on them!

What does this mean? Well, it means the narcissist can sometimes really underestimate others. 

Good news for you though – as this overconfidence is where you can find your edge.

Dealing with a narcissist requires more than just holding your ground; it’s about understanding their playbook and using their own tactics against them. They think they’re so clever, but with a little knowledge and strategy, you can turn the tables.

You? Really? …

Yes! Really!

You’re here because you’ve had enough of the narcissist’s mind games, right?

Outsmarting them is now a healthy option for you, and you should definitely do all you can to do it.

If the narcissist is your friend, boss, family member or lover – the time has come to regain control and peace of mind. 

You’re so not alone.

Many people struggle with how to handle narcissists effectively. 

The key? 

Outsmart them!

Let’s get to the good bit…

How to Outsmart a Narcissist

#1 Be Firm – Set Your Boundaries!

Narcissists are known to thrive on pushing limits, no matter who they belong to. Oh yes, expect boundaries to be constantly tested. They will look for your weakness and then exploit them, until now, that is!

The first step in outsmarting a narcissist is to get your boundaries as firm and clear as possible. This means being completely transparent about behavior you will accept, and what behavior you won’t.

Don’t stop short at setting boundaries, you have to enforce them too. When that narcissist attempts to walk all over them, you have to calmly and consistently push back. 

Make your language clear – and assertive. No, they won’t like it, but hey, this isn’t about them anymore, is it? The less emotion you apply, the better. After all, narcissists feed off any kind of reaction.

Composure is key, just like consistency. 

#2 “Gray Rock”

The gray rock method is such an empowering tool when dealing with any narcissist. 

The idea of gray rock is to make yourself as uninteresting and unresponsive as possible.

You might think that sounds easy but it does take a little practice to get it just right.

Remember, narcissists crave drama and seeing you act ‘overly-emotional.’ By being boring and unengaging, you deny them that very satisfaction they seek.

Bingo!

When they try to provoke you, be bland. Be the human equivalent of vanilla.

Avoid showing anger, frustration, excitement – any of it. Over time, they are strongly likely to lose interest in trying to manipulate you because you’re not giving them the fuel they need.

You’ve become so boring!

No…. I am just doing my best to outsmart your attitude…

#3 Deflection – Master It!

Narcissists love to put you on the spot – it’s their attempt to make you feel uncomfortable. 

One way to tackle this is to master what I like to call the art of deflection.

Whenever they try to criticize or undermine you, that’s when you redirect the conversation. Ask them a question that shifts the focus back onto them or onto a neutral topic.

I’ll give you an example.

They criticize your decorating work at home (how predictable, right?) 

Now you respond with, “Interesting point. What do you think about the weather lately?” 

It sounds crazy, but it really throws them off and totally stops them in their tracks. 

#4 Information is Preparation!

Ah yes, narcissists will often use misinformation and lies to manipulate everybody else. 

You can outsmart them here by being well-informed and prepared. Do your research, re-check facts, and even have evidence to back it all up. 

Many people I know have been known to write down information or revert to old texts for screenshots to prove their points. 

This will all reduce the narcissist’s ability to use deception against you.

This is all about concrete information – and who can argue with the facts?

#5 Gather Your Support System

It’s not uncommon for narcissists to isolate their victims to assert themselves and gain more control.

You can maintain a strong network of people you love and trust. Seek support from anybody you know who may understand the situation you’re in, and who can provide advice.

Encouragement is also heavily advised here!

Having that crucial support system will help you stay grounded in your reality. When a narcissist is trying their best to get to you, you have people you can rely on to turn to. 

Let’s start unlock that potential!