I think we are all overdue to dig out our savage selves, don’t you?
The narcissist has seen the kind, meek side of us all for far too long.
As they intend on cranking up the gaslighting tactics, you need to be coming back with phrases so savage that it stops them in their tracks.
I’m glad you stopped by, because these 10 comebacks fit the bill so much, that the narcissist will regret the day they ever tried to confuse you.
#1 “Did you mean to gaslight me again?”
What a way to get right to it – by letting the narcissist know that you know exactly what they’re doing!
I believe this is a firm yet direct approach to shutting their games down, and I know it is the kind of comeback that may initiate conflict, but really you are in control of whether that conflict occurs. After all, it takes two people to argue, right?
You can immediately disengage after you’ve clapped back with this comeback, and I would advise on doing so.
In using this phrase, you’re offering the narcissist the chance to own up and say actually yes, or deny and say no.
You’ve trapped them, because whatever they say, they will have to stop.
#2 “Are you keeping track of your lies?”
Laced with some mild to moderate sarcasm, narcissists don’t want to be asked if they are keeping track of their lies, for it insinuates there is more than one lie to keep track of.
Which is true, right? We all know they are full of them!
What you can do here with this comeback is teach the narcissist that you are aware of their lies, and you’re asking them very casually if there is a way they are keeping up with them so they don’t fall flat on their face and forget.
That also invokes some much needed paranoia to the game, which is always a fun thing to do if you’re trying to shut them down!
#3 “Oh, I’m sorry. Did you mistake me for somebody gullible?”
Ding ding! We have a winner!
Narcissists hate to be found out, so if you are asking them if they mistook you for somebody gullible, you’re proving to them that you are anything but.
In other words, “Don’t mess with me because I know the game you are playing and I refuse to take part.”
When your reality is attempted to be stolen, you have all the right moves, and all the power to make it so that you are the one in charge, and this not-so-subtle reminder that you’re in charge proves that by a long mile.
#4 “Do I look like I care?”
I love this phrase, because you’re being so direct while expecting them to seriously answer this question.
They may fire back with:
You should care!
That’s when you shrug and say, “I care that you’re trying to twist my reality, and I am showing you that the lies you’re telling me will never get to me.”
It’s fair. After all, if a person is going to come at you with all the attacks in the world, you have absolutely every right to defend yourself.
Don’t let them make you feel anything else.
It’s time you owned your life!
#5 “You are your own worst kind of fool”
This phrase will make the narcissist feel small, unseen, and unbelieved. What a tangled yet empowering blend of outcomes!
Narcissists gaslight to take away control from the person they’re targeting. They think it’s a good idea to steal reality, and replace it with whatever they think you should think instead.
Over time, your reality will weaken, and you will start to gaslight yourself through subconscious habit.
Rather than allow any of that to happen, directly tell them how foolish they look trying to do the impossible.
Gaslighting me again, are you?
How silly do you look right now?
You’re telling them you won’t be messed with.
#6 Laughter
When you laughwith a narcissist, you’re showing them that you find them funny. They love that.
If you laugh at a narcissist, things turn from sunny to savage in a split second! You’re mocking them, which is the one thing they won’t be able to stand.
You’re showing them that you see their gaslighting attempt as feeble, ridiculous, and frankly laughable.
You don’t buy it, and in turn are shutting it down.
#7 “Here you go again with your sad little games”
What better way to show the narcissist how boring and predictable they are. It’s a turn of the tables, as usually it’s them trying to make you feel those things.
Sad little games is such a golden phrase in itself, as you’re telling them that you think they’re pathetic, and that their games are small and meaningless.
I know for a fact they will hate hearing it, and it will shut them down in no time.
#8 “Why do you remember things so incorrectly?”
What do you think they will say back to you?
I personally think they will stare at you dumfounded, not knowing quite what to come back at you with.
For a start, you are full of crassness! How dare you!
But this is what you want, right? Sure, the narcissist will be annoyed at this phrase, but the gaslighting will stop in its tracks, and that’s pretty much the aim you’re going for here.
#9 “You won’t manipulate me, so stop wasting your time”
In other words:
Stop right there. You need to know that whatever you’re doing is a total waste of time. I am far too clued up and switched on to be manipulated by you, so I wouldn’t even bother.
It will not work.
You will not be tricked.
It’s enough for a narcissist to start quaking in their boots. They know they’ve picked the wrong person to try to gaslight.
Remember, with a phrase like this you aren’t just saying you’re watching them, you’re also saying you’re aware of narcissistic terms such as gaslighting, and you know how the games and dynamics work.
Savage? Yes!
#10 “It’s so boring listening to you try to control my opinions”
What is this? Calling a narcissist boring?
What a savage comeback!
It’s a narcissist’s worst enemy to be boring, so you will absolutely throw a nail in their coffin with this phrase!
What else is golden is the “try” part. You’re telling them that you know exactly what they’re attempting, but it will remain a try.
They won’t succeed, and you’ll make sure of it by keeping your eyes peeled and looking out for their usual, mundane, predictable warning signs.
Narcissists won’t like hearing this aimed at them, but you will shut them down faster than an illegal party in the woods.
When a narcissist is trying to control your opinions, the last thing they want is to be told by you that you are onto them.
Using this as a comeback will ensure they don’t try a trick like this again, and reaffirms your boundaries that the narcissist assumed they could come in and push away.
No such luck!
