I know what you’re thinking.
Narcissists live and breathe insanity!
Of course, you’re right. They wake up insane, and they fall asleep exactly the same way.
But what things do they do that confirm this insanity? What can you set apart from normal, healthy people that makes you nod and say, “Yup. We have a narcissist.”
Here are 10 of the most insane.
#1 Stalk you
Whether you’re with them or not, friends or not, family or not, the narcissist wants to know everything about you, and they will sniff you out behind your back to get those answers.
Narcissists are so good at playing the online game. They love to find you on all your socials, look back at who you were and what you were doing seven, ten, fifteen or even twenty years ago.
They also are very keen on what you’re doing right now, so will follow you online, check who you’re with and where you go, and all your hobbies and pages you like, too.
The reason?
To get an idea of who you really are. To know everything about you means they’ve got everything to hold against you when the time is right.
Plus, I mean, they feel like they’re in total control by watching your every move.
#2 Convince you of crazy things
As narcissists are master manipulators, that can include creating a world where you feel as though you’re going totally crazy.
Your reality will be snatched from you, and everything you’ve ever believed to be true about the world and yourself will be swapped for what the narcissist wants you to believe.
Those things will eventually work in their favor, and that’s exactly how a person becomes a victim of narcissistic abuse.
Nobody else in their right mind will do such a thing to a person they claim to care about.
#3 Take away your confidence
Slowly yet surely, your confidence will be taken from you, and the more the narcissist gets to know you, the easier they will start to find it.
I know that might not be what you want to hear, and it’ll seem so intense to read. That’s because a narcissist never usually makes it obvious that this is what they’re doing.
Instead, it’ll be in all the comments they throw your way. The ones where they try to tell you to work less because you deserve a quieter pace,
when really they’re taking away the one thing you have that allows you money, independence, and socialising.
Or where they say you can’t afford two cars, so they suggest selling yours, taking away your freedom and ability to go places.
#4 Abuse your loyalty
Victims of narcissistic abuse are always fiercely loyal people. They stand by their abuse, even when life is becoming very unpleasant.
They will tell you that you’re a problem when you question them, and they will make you feel guilty for not defending them.
It’s best to see this as something only narcissists do, because no sane person with regulated emotions would ever abuse your kindness and loyalty.
#5 Accuse you of being a narcissist
Oh, this one is a real treat. Imagine you being called a narcissist?
Well, if you’re called something enough, you start to think you are actually that sort of person.
That’s where I come in and remind you that you are not a narcissist, and the only reason you’re being accused is to take all the attention off the narcissist…
…Who is indeed a narcissist.
This is what they do though. They want you to think you’re the problem, so whenever there is an issue, you look to yourself before you look to them – the real people to blame.
#6 Leave you isolated
Isolation is no joke, and it can have very serious consequences to your mental and emotional health.
As blindingly obvious as you think it migt be, I assure you, narcissists are far more covert in isolating you.
It will happen over such a long period of time, that you won’t even notice you’re alone until you feel a pang in your heart that wasn’t there before.
Where did everybody go?
Why don’t I do the things I used to do?
Why do I feel so lonely?
Because you’re alone, and the people you used to have in your corner are no longer there either through the narcissist triangulating you and causing a fallout,
or by convincing you that you are too good for them, or that they’re poisoning you, so you don’t see them any longer.
However you got there, you got there on your own, and the narcissist feels like they want the lottery because now they get to fully control you without the sway of anybody else.
#7 Treat you like a pawn, not a person
Nobody on the receiving end of narcissistic abuse is treated like a person who has their loves, interests, beliefs and opinions valued by the narcissist.
You are not a human.
You are a pawn; a piece of a puzzle, a means to an end.
You think you mean something to them, but in return, the narcissist does everything they can to prove that’s not the case.
I ask you to even think about children or grandparents, who are all used in the dynamics of abuse the same.
You can be the kindest person in the world, and still be used by them.
To me, that is a whole new level of insane.
#8 Use you
Narcissists don’t care about you all the while you are playing into their hands.
If you are a part of the game, then they will turn hot and cold when it suits them.
Weeks and months of silence can go by before you hear from them, but when you do, it usually has a favor attached to it at their request.
You have a choice here.
You can either run at their beck and call, or ditch them altogether.
#9 Lap up attention like it’s food for fueling
Have you ever seen a narcissist act so crazily when they get attention?
They are in their element, as people gather around them giving them time, asking them questions, listening to stories, or laughing at their jokes.
You can see the energy and fuel in their eyes as they savor every moment like it’s a mouthful of their favorite food.
I find it insane that others can’t notice as much as I do, which is why it had to make the list.
Awareness, people!
#10 Leave you struggling with your health
Did you ever think it’d be possible to suffer with your health just based on how a person treats you?
It very much is.
Years of abuse will alter your entire nervous system, making way for so many illnesses such as anxiety, immune disorders, sleep issues, depression, weight management challenges – and that’s just the tip of the iceberg.
Believe it or not, there are currently millions of people in the world who are in this position, and it’s all because they once were – or maybe still are – at the hands of an abuser.
Only a narcissist fits this description.
