The Narcissist Out of Control

The narcissist feels a compelling need to control people in his (or her) environment; his spouse or partner, work mates, friends and neighbors. That is because in his own mind he doesn’t feel in control; because he lacks feelings of internal control he has the strong urge to control whomever he can externally. He (or […] Read more »

The Narcissist is Never Wrong

“I’m sorry.” Those are two of the most difficult words for most people to be able to honestly say. When we are genuinely sorry, we have to admit that we hurt someone and it also means that we are taking responsibility for the pain we have caused. A narcissist is never sorry because he (or […] Read more »

The Narcissistic Cycle

At first you are put on a pedestal- the queen of his world, a goddess- no one could be more perfect- he can’t get enough of you. A short time passes and then all of a sudden you are being criticized, called worthless and the cause of all his trouble- and he dumps you. Only […] Read more »

The Narcissist In Love

Narcissists yearn for perfect, romantic love and absolute adoration. People often think that narcissistic individuals love only themselves, like Narcissus in the Greek myth who fell in love with his own reflection, but the polar opposite is true. The narcissist usually struggles with fragile self-esteem and intense feelings of shame. The grandiose thinking they exhibit […] Read more »

The Narcissist’s Charm

You’ve kissed so many frogs…and they were, well, just frogs. But finally you have kissed the right one- he is a real prince! He is too-good-to-be-true. You can’t believe your good fortune. Your best friend warned you not to trust him, said he was a “narcissist”…but what does she know? She doesn’t understand how perfect […] Read more »

The Narcissist and Emotional Abuse

Narcissists employ a variety of techniques to abuse their victims in order to control them. For that is the purpose of abuse- to control the other person. A narcissist may use emotional abuse, verbal abuse, mental abuse, or physical abuse. Verbal and physical abuses are straightforward-they are verbal and physical aggression directed at another person. […] Read more »

My Father the Narcissist: A Narcissistic Father is a Tyrant and a Bully

Narcissistic fathers often emotionally damage their children. They disregard boundaries, manipulate their children by withholding affection (until the children “perform”), and neglect to meet the needs of their children because they are interested only in meeting their own needs. Their image and perfection is essential to narcissists; they often demand perfection from their children. The […] Read more »

Dating A Narcissist

So you think you have found Mr. Perfect? He is charming, handsome, successful and full of compliments toward you. You are mesmerized when he gazes into your eyes… A relationship with a narcissist begins well. They tend to be attractive, charismatic and appear to be really invested in meeting “the one.” A narcissist will often […] Read more »

Narcissistic Brainwashing

A relationship with a narcissist involves cruel and relentless emotional abuse. Narcissists are able to do this by brainwashing their victims. They use a variety of methods of in order to obtain control over their significant other. First they “love bomb” their prey, then they threaten, degrade, shift blame, criticize, manipulate, verbally assault, dominate, blackmail, […] Read more »